Feminism is infiltrating every aspect of society

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There is a whole “other” side topic that I’d like to add into the mix for everyone to consider if/when they have to make a choice about working outside the home and raising children or being a SAHM (or SAHD) is that of children with special needs.

My daughter was a “special needs”/“high risk” child with some behavioral and developmental issues. As it turned out in my case, it was very helpful that I stayed home with her as she needed to go to evaluations, specialists, etc. during her toddler and preschool years. Furthermore, her behavior, at the time, was not tolerated by the daycare services at my health club or at a local park district so she got kicked out and that was so stressful and upsetting for me…but thankfully in our case those daycare services weren’t an utter necessity.

The happy ending to the story is that her issues were related to her being extraordinarily bright and now she is thriving in a public school that both understands her needs (she attended their special-needs early childhood preschool for 2 years) and offers her enrichment work in reading and math. SHe also loves her religion classes (ccd) at our Parish and everyone there is so impressed with her as she is the only one in her age group who voraciously reads the Bible (she is an excellent reader). 😃

I recently lost a baby due to congenital birth defects, including, among other issues, Down Syndrome. Since I had been through the “system” for obtaining Early Intervention services for my daughter I felt ready and capable to handle another special needs child - ironically with a different problem related to learning abilities. Sadly, it wasn’t to be as he passed away when I was 7 moths pregnant. 😦

My point here is that sometimes, when dealing with children and family issues, life throws you a curve ball and you have to scramble to find the solution that works best for you even when you planned to do something entirely different. You have to keep your options - and your mind - open.

In hindsight, considering what we went through with my daughter, and potentially with my son, I was glad I opted to stay at home and was able to do so. That’s what worked well for me and my family.

A sidebar note is that, as a former professional writer, I have been able to freelance on occasion to both keep at least one toe in the professional world for my own interest, continuity on my resume, and for a little extra $. When my daughter and I talk about “what you want to be when you grow up” we discuss careers where you have a skill/talent that can be used to start your own business or work part time or freelance…one that offers myriad options to be able to strike a personally-appropriate balance of work and family life.

Have a great weekend, everyone! 🙂
 
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TarAshly:
it has nothing to do with material things. A college education is not a material thing, a stable home and financial security are not material things, these are things that protect and provide for children.
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Sounds to me like creative accounting. You can allocate the incremental income in whichever areas you like. We all see the truth.😉
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Kendy:
It’s not one-size fits all, people.

No one has talked about stay at home dads. They are not in majority, but they are out there.

Kendy
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So now, for the argument to be sustained, you must ask us to re-define “motherhood” and “fatherhood”. Sounds like a gigantic task on your part. Good luck with that in the long run.😃
 
Lost&Found:
So now, for the argument to be sustained, you must ask us to re-define “motherhood” and “fatherhood”. Sounds like a gigantic task on your part. Good luck with that in the long run.😃
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I have no interest in defining or redefining motherhood or fatherhood. If motherhood for you means having a large family and staying at home with your children, then fine. You will get no discouragements from me. I only ask to be treated similarly.

Kendy
 
Lost&Found:
So now, for the argument to be sustained, you must ask us to re-define “motherhood” and “fatherhood”. Sounds like a gigantic task on your part. Good luck with that in the long run.😃
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Oh, furthermore lots of social and economic have led to redefining motherhood and fatherhood (like more women earning college degrees and 1/3 of women making more money than their husbands). So, no one needs my help in redefining anything.

Kendy
 
Lost&Found:
Sounds to me like creative accounting. You can allocate the incremental income in whichever areas you like. We all see the truth.😉
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What truth is that?

Kendy
 
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Kendy:
Oh, furthermore lots of social and economic have led to redefining motherhood and fatherhood (like more women earning college degrees and 1/3 of women making more money than their husbands). So, no one needs my help in redefining anything.

Kendy
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That does not redefine motherhood or fatherhood any more than increased sin redefines morality.
 
If my wife could make $$$ i’d be a stay at home dad, because i’m definitely more suited to “mothering” by nature and temperment then she is. I’m sure that Jsmitty feels that is a moral failing on both of our parts.
 
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Kendy:
I have no interest in defining or redefining motherhood or fatherhood. If motherhood for you means having a large family and staying at home with your children, then fine. You will get no discouragements from me. I only ask to be treated similarly.

Kendy
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Do you accept NFP?
 
Lost&Found:
Do you accept NFP?
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I don’t know what you are asking. Do you mean do I think catholic families should use NFP instead of contraception? Sure.

Kendy
 
Then we are in agreement on a very big issue. Many of the other issues fall into place after that.
 
Lost&Found:
Then we are in agreement on a very big issue. Many of the other issues fall into place after that.
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I am honestly not trying to be sarcastic. However, I am not so sure other issues fall into place after that. If they did, we would not have spent the last 240 posts attacking eaching other. 🙂

Kendy
 
Perhaps you mistake me for another poster? I have only posted to you a couple of times.

I think the Spirit is calling you to do some research on NFP. The Church’s teachings on love/marriage are extremely beautiful and you will find pure truth. There are many resources on this site. Others might have better references but you could start with the March 22 radio call-in with Christopher West.

God bless.
 
I am 57 years old, when I was 30 I read an article that stated in the 2000’s 95% of all mothers would be working. When the article was written 95% of all mothers were stay at home Moms. I think parents are happier than they were back in the 60’s, but I’m not so sure about the children.
 
Lost&Found:
Perhaps you mistake me for another poster? I have only posted to you a couple of times.

I think the Spirit is calling you to do some research on NFP. The church’s teachings on love/marriage are extremely beautiful and you will find pure truth. There are many resources on this site. Others might have better references but you could start with the March 22 radio call-in with Christopher West.

God bless.
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No, I am not confusing you. I didn’t mean you were attacking me. I was speaking all about the collective attacks.

Second, I assure you I did some research on NFP since it was the scariest part about reverting to catholicism. I have read nothing that says you are required to have a large family or that mothers cannot work.

I recently took part in a another heated threads on just reasons to use NFP.

Was there a specific issue that you were thinking about?

Kendy
 
Just do the research. It’s not scary and it will save you a lot of arguing. I wish you’d stop it with the large family stuff - no one here has any quarrels with smaller families via nfp.
 
Rebecca New:
I am 57 years old, when I was 30 I read an article that stated in the 2000’s 95% of all mothers would be working. When the article was written 95% of all mothers were stay at home Moms. I think parents are happier than they were back in the 60’s, but I’m not so sure about the children.
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When you were 30 would have been 1979. I don’t think 95% of moms were staying at home then.

Second, if if we could determine that children were less happy today, it would be extremly difficult to determine definitely the cause. There are just too many variables.

However, parents today shower their kids with a lot more attention than their parents gave them. While mothers stayed at home, they didn’t spend all their free minutes driving their kids around and making sure that their activities are enriching. Children were expected to entertain themselves. Also, todays adolences report that they are “close” or “very close” to their aprents at much higher rates than their parents generation.

Kendy
 
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mikew262:
You made my point, thanks! The Novus Ordo is now considered the traditional liturgy we use in the majority of our Catholic churches. Many Catholics under 35 know of nothing else. It has become tradition to them. I suppose it’s how you define it, and what the time element is.
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I don’t see how that proves your point at all. You cannot claim tradition as your own after having rejected it. You cannot remake men and women in the image and likeness that you concoct.
 
Lost&Found:
Just do the research. It’s not scary and it will save you a lot of arguing. I wish you’d stop it with the large family stuff - no one here has any quarrels with smaller families via nfp.
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I never said anyone did. I only said that because I was afraid of having a large family, NFP was one of the first things I researched when I was thinking about reverting.

Kendy
 
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JSmitty2005:
I don’t see how that proves your point at all. You cannot claim tradition as your own after having rejected it. You cannot remake men and women in the image and likeness that you concoct.
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Jokes aside. Is it possible that you cannot make all women the same just because you want them to?

Kendy
 
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