Gay patient says Catholic chaplain refused him last rites

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Sounds like a plant to me
I think I would have to agree with you. Also you would think the Hospital’s “Department of Spiritual Care” would know what the Catholic Church teaches.
 
I think I would have to agree with you. Also you would think the Hospital’s “Department of Spiritual Care” would know what the Catholic Church teaches.
You would hope, but that seems like just reckless optimism in this anti-religious climate, especially in health care institutions. Even those which bear the Catholic name cannot be trusted to know and practice the Catholic faith.
 
Hello Paul.
In Washington, DC, priests are not allowed to refuse communion to anyone, so this is confusing. From the man’s telling of the story, I am not sure what he wanted. I mean, he thought he might die, but persisted in defending his “lifestyle”.
I’m wondering where you got the idea that in Washington D.C. the Church has different rules to live by as in your idea that when in Washington, D.C. no priest can refuse Communion to anyone? Where is this rule written and who made it public and who enforces it? Why would you think that* any rule *that Washington, D.C. made regarding Communion would apply? HUH?

Glenda
 
Hello Paul.

I’m wondering where you got the idea that in Washington D.C. the Church has different rules to live by as in your idea that when in Washington, D.C. no priest can refuse Communion to anyone? Where is this rule written and who made it public and who enforces it? Why would you think that* any rule *that Washington, D.C. made regarding Communion would apply? HUH?

Glenda
Paul comes to this reasoned conclusion from the plethora of high-profile cases occurring in DC during recent years.

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The de facto situation in DC, and other dioceses of the United States, is that Canon 915 has no effect. If there is written particular law on this subject, I do not know it, but it would be improbable, as it would contradict this universal law in a bizarre way.
 
Hello Paul.

I’m wondering where you got the idea that in Washington D.C. the Church has different rules to live by as in your idea that when in Washington, D.C. no priest can refuse Communion to anyone? Where is this rule written and who made it public and who enforces it? Why would you think that* any rule *that Washington, D.C. made regarding Communion would apply? HUH?

Glenda
Also, from this article:
Washington’s Cardinal Donald Wuerl has indicated that he is not prepared to deny Communion even to prominent politicians who continue to support legal abortion despite repeated warnings from the hierarchy.
 
Where in the articles does he “persist” in defending some sort of “lifestyle”?
Being homosexual is not a “lifestyle” fyi. According to the CC…it is a “deep seated tendency”.

I thought the moment of “judging” was up to God and happened between the dying person and God.

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It is implied towards the end of the article when he says that another priest at the Basilica agreed with the chaplain and gave the following:
“Plishka said that a few days after the incident he called the Basilica of the National Shrine, where he has attended Sunday noon Mass for at least a decade. He didn’t know any priests but asked for one on duty to call him back, Plishka said. The priest agreed with the chaplain, Plishka said.
“He said, he can’t give you [Communion] if you continue that lifestyle, if you’re an active participant,” he said.”
 
Not sure I understand. Are you saying that one does not need to go to confession? Didn’t Jesus give the power to the apostles (priests) to forgive sin? John 20:23

Apparently the patient does not keep up with everything the Holy Father says…

catholicnewsagency.com/news/pope-be-courageous-go-to-confession/
Not at all. I firmly believe that confession is a gift from God. I am in agreement with most of the posters in this thread (which may be a first haha). Personally I’m not comfortable discussing what goes on in confession unless I have a very good reason to share. I’m a bit shocked that the man went to the press with a story that took place in the context of confession. We’re talking about a personal conversation with Christ and His favorite thing to say after healing someone was to tell no one. There are certain things we should keep as a secret between us and God.

What I meant by the quoted part was that even if the guy feels like he was treated unfairly and should have been allowed to receive communion, God sees our intentions and would know if he was right and the priest was wrong and hence no need to make it public. It almost seems like a lack of faith in God but I may be overthinking it based on little info.
 
Gay patient says Catholic chaplain refused him last rites
The phrase “last rites” suggests that he was on his deathbed. If so, then he was unlikely to be sexually active. Certainly a priest can not grant absolution for a sin which someone refuses to confess. Knowing of this recalcitrance, can the priest grant absolution for the other sins? I don’t know, and welcome information.

If the patient was not on his deathbed, then the phrase “last rites” conjures up a false image. The actual implications of what the priest refused is not nearly as dramatic.
 
I thought the prefered term nowadays is “annointing of the sick”? Last rites sounds a bit grim plus you don’t need to be dying to receive them.
 
The phrase “last rites” suggests that he was on his deathbed. If so, then he was unlikely to be sexually active. Certainly a priest can not grant absolution for a sin which someone refuses to confess. Knowing of this recalcitrance, can the priest grant absolution for the other sins? I don’t know, and welcome information.
From the fine article we read:
According to Plishka, he asked Coelho for Communion and last rites, more commonly called the anointing of the sick.
So the reporter has conflated the Sacrament with the Rites, a very common mistake. It seems clear to me that the patient was NOT requesting Last Rites and the priest was NOT refusing these, only the Sacrament of Anointing of the Sick.
 
Sigh :(.

I agree that the priest could not give him Communion; you must be repentant in order to receive it, and the man has been quoted as not being repentant. I also trust priests generally to be very cautious in denying Communion to anyone, especially with Last Rites.

However, please stop using the term “lifestyle;” it’s offensive (and will be taken by a gay person about the same as being called a f****t) and implies something much deeper than merely being an unrepentant gay or lesbian person.
 
However, please stop using the term “lifestyle;” it’s offensive (and will be taken by a gay person about the same as being called a f****t) and implies something much deeper than merely being an unrepentant gay or lesbian person.
What’s the best way to describe someone who is homosexual, and living out those feelings? I can’t see any way of saying it, aside from gay, that wouldn’t be taken offensively? What’s the best way to describe someone who is homosexual, but not living out those attractions? I’m so confused.
 
However, please stop using the term “lifestyle;” it’s offensive (and will be taken by a gay person about the same as being called a f****t) and implies something much deeper than merely being an unrepentant gay or lesbian person.
You are going to need to provide proof of that. I have never heard the slightest inkling that “lifestyle” is a pejorative term. I can find no evidence of that on the web. There are dictionary and Wikipedia definitions and a tag on Huffington Post. There are newspaper headlines with it. I honestly can’t find any stigma attached at all.
 
What’s the best way to describe someone who is homosexual, and living out those feelings? I can’t see any way of saying it, aside from gay, that wouldn’t be taken offensively? What’s the best way to describe someone who is homosexual, but not living out those attractions? I’m so confused.
Broad term for anyone with SSA: “gay” or “lesbian”

Term for a gay person who is in a SS relationship or seeking a SS relationship: “actively gay” or a “practicing” gay person, though the former is better when evangelizing

Term for a gay person who abstains from SS relationships for Christ: a “chaste” or “celibate” gay person, though the latter is better for evangelizing, while technically not fully correct (since a gay person could still theoretically, if they wanted to, get married to a member of the opposite sex).

If you’re in a Catholic audience, you can also use “SS-attracted” to use a milder term; this isn’t taken as well when evangelizing though, as it seems like you’re discounting their identity. (Think about it as if you called a group of blondes “yellow-haired” and suggested they not identify as blond as that wasn’t a fundamental trait of theirs. They’d just think it was awkward and that you were trying to deny part of their person.)

However, saying someone is living the “lifestyle” or a “gay lifestyle” will make a gay person instantly think you think of them as a coke-snorting, heroin-injecting alcoholic who sleeps with 10 people a week and cusses out the religious (as that is typically what has been historically meant by “the gay lifestyle,” even if it’s not seen as strict of a usage nowadays), which is why I say it’s on the same terms as calling a gay person a “f****t.”

Edit: SS = same-sex, SSA = same-sex attractions, if you don’t know. Some people don’t know the acronyms.
 
You are going to need to provide proof of that. I have never heard the slightest inkling that “lifestyle” is a pejorative term. I can find no evidence of that on the web. There are dictionary and Wikipedia definitions and a tag on Huffington Post. There are newspaper headlines with it. I honestly can’t find any stigma attached at all.
gcnjustin.tumblr.com/post/27909731175/no-im-not-in-the-gay-lifestyle-neither-is-anyone

canyonwalkerconnections.com/six-things-straight-people-should-stop-saying-about-gay-people/

baylorlariat.com/2014/02/20/letters-there-is-no-homosexual-lifestyle/

These were all on the first page of a Google search. You really couldn’t find any evidence that people take it highly offensive?
 
Broad term for anyone with SSA: “gay” or “lesbian”

Term for a gay person who is in a SS relationship or seeking a SS relationship: “actively gay” or a “practicing” gay person, though the former is better when evangelizing

Term for a gay person who abstains from SS relationships for Christ: a “chaste” or “celibate” gay person, though the latter is better for evangelizing, while technically not fully correct (since a gay person could still theoretically, if they wanted to, get married to a member of the opposite sex).

If you’re in a Catholic audience, you can also use “SS-attracted” to use a milder term; this isn’t taken as well when evangelizing though, as it seems like you’re discounting their identity. (Think about it as if you called a group of blondes “yellow-haired” and suggested they not identify as blond as that wasn’t a fundamental trait of theirs. They’d just think it was awkward and that you were trying to deny part of their person.)

However, saying someone is living the “lifestyle” or a “gay lifestyle” will make a gay person instantly think you think of them as a coke-snorting, heroin-injecting alcoholic who sleeps with 10 people a week and cusses out the religious (as that is typically what has been historically meant by “the gay lifestyle,” even if it’s not seen as strict of a usage nowadays), which is why I say it’s on the same terms as calling a gay person a “f****t.”

Edit: SS = same-sex, SSA = same-sex attractions, if you don’t know. Some people don’t know the acronyms.
Thank you. I never thought about the latter part, since I’m younger generation. I would be honored if someone said I was living the Christian lifestyle, so I didn’t understand.
 
This is silly. Clearly what we have here is a patient in the hospital who asked for Anointing of the Sick. When the patient is conscious, a good priest will also offer to hear his confession and give him communion.

It doesn’t take a genius at reading between the lines to see what happened. The guy made a confession and as part of that admitted certain sexual sins and also admitted that he’s not sorry for committing them and won’t resolve not to commit them again. At that point, the priest can’t give him absolution and it’s a matter of CHARITY that the priest then doesn’t give him communion. Giving communion to a person he KNOWS is in a state of obstinate sin would be like feeding him poison. It’s not a magic cookie, it’s Christ himself. The bible says clearly how harmful it can be to receive knowingly unworthily.

Now people are puzzled why the priest won’t tell his side of the story? He CAN’T, it’s part of the seal of the confessional.

This is very basic stuff! Try your own priest. Tell him it isn’t real, but hypothetical. Ask him if you confessed to being in an ongoing adulterous relationship, but admitted that you had no intention of breaking it off if he’d give you absolution, communion and anointing of the sick (assuming you were a hospital patient). He’d say “no.”
 
The Anointing of the Sick, like all sacraments except Baptism and Reconciliation, is conferred upon one in the state of grace. If a person is conscious, then Anointing should be preceded by Reconciliation, and Reconciliation requires confession of sin, repentance, and a purpose of amendment.

I don’t know what happened between the two. The man says he ended up by cursing at the priest.

Let me give a somewhat different example. Suppose that a priest went to a patient who had been living in adultery. He wants to go to confession, receive communion and the Anointing of the Sick. If he makes it clear during the conversation that he has no intention of giving up the adultery, the priest cannot confer any of those sacraments, since there has been no contrition stated nor any purpose of amendment.
 
It’s revisionism. It’s from a minority of a minority who say there is nothing immoral about homosexual acts. The fact of the matter is that homosexuality throughout history has been a lifestyle of promiscuity, furtive sexual encounters, and secrecy. Why? Because it was frowned on by polite society. Now homosexuality is trying to make inroads into polite society and that means they have to excise that image of bathhouses, glory holes, prostitution, leather bars, and the like. It’s supposed to make us react by saying, “gee, they sure are nice people after all, why can’t they just get married?”
 
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