I don’t disagree with you that most sins involve a lack of empathy. So I can’t provide a list of bad things that happen because we’re unempathetic (except, perhaps, eating until one is obese. How is that a lack of empathy? Or raising bratty children because one is too empathetic with one’s children and refuses to discipline them)
But I still don’t understand what the atheist’s answer is to why we aren’t ALWAYS empathetic?
I’m going to pass on self harm such as obesity. I’m only thinking of bad things that happen within society between members of that society. But then again, if someone’s obesity impacts negatively on someone else, it shows that their desire for food overrides their empathy for the feelings of whoever is affected ('I don’t care what affect my weight (hence health) has has on you, I’m having another donut!).
And bratty kids? Well, they have to bratty in some way. Let’s say making too much noise. If you allow them to do it, then your positive desire that they should enjoy themselves as much as they want overrides your concern for others in that they need some peace and quiet. Or it could be directly associated with the feelings of others such as indifference to their discomfort.
And why we aren’t always empathetic? As I said, it’s quite often distance, both mental and physical. If you are close to someone, or you ‘feel close’ to someone, you are ‘generally’ more empathetic (scare quotes because it obviously doesn’t happen all the time).
And that is because we have a limited amount of it to go around. It’s not difficult to feel empathy for the people in the plane shot down recently. It’s not difficult to feel for children killed in Gaza. It’s there in your living room in glorious colour. All that anguish. But how much bad news can you personally take before you literally switch off?
And you will. But it’s not you being cold-hearted - it’s entirely natural. If we spend as much emotional energy empathising with literally everyone else, then we would have very little emotional energy for those nearest and dearest. Ain’t evolution a wonderful thing! It helps you look after your kids.
And be honest, are you having a nice meal tonight or going somewhere on the weekend or buying something for the house or your kids or doing anything at all with he family that is classed as entirely normal that takes up your time or money?
Me too. But I know what we’re not doing with our time and money. And that’s helping people in Darfur or Angola or anywhere else that needs both. We might if we knew someone there. Or there was a documentary that you might see tonight that tugged at the heart strings. Otherwise, we* have *to switch off.
That’s the way we’re built. I say it’s entirely natural but you say it’s God. Either way, that’s the way it is…