Has the #MeToo movement become a witch-hunt to a significant degree?

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Victims have obligations to potential victims. Not coming forward immediately is callous to those potential victims who could otherwise protect themselves, if they chose to do so.

Remaining silent does no one any good.
 
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ConstantLearner said:
I don’t blame a kid for not saying anything, just the adults who know better and don’t say anything. A kid might not even know what harassment is.
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Should we still “let the chips fall where they may” in cases like this?
 
ConstantLearner said:
Victims have obligations to potential victims. Not coming forward immediately is callous to those potential victims who could otherwise protect themselves, if they chose to do so.

Remaining silent does no one any good.
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I didn’t know what to do. I thought it was somehow my fault, that’s the message I got growing up. I felt powerless because no one ever took my side. Who should I have told?
 
TheAmazingGrace said:
Law enforcement and the justice system take murder a lot more seriously than rape.
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Related:

www.newsweek.com

Untested Rape Kits Hide Thousands Of Serial Predators

"A rapist rapes on average seven to 11 times before they're caught," Wayne County Prosecutor Kym Worthy told the Detroit Free Press. "Of our set of 817, over 50 of them have 10 to 15 hits apiece."
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"Detroit’s recent discovery of more than 800 serial rapists underscores the national problem of rape kit backlogs—and how ignored evidence leaves serial predators free to attack again.

"There are hundreds of thousands of untested rape kits sitting in police storage rooms and crime labs across the country, according to nonprofit organization End the Backlog. The White House put the number at 400,000 in 2015.

“The math of that is stunning. In Detroit alone, 11,000 rape kits that were slowly tested over the last few years revealed 817 serial rapists—meaning there are likely close to 29,000 repeat rapists, whose identities are hiding in those crime-scene kits gathering dust around the U.S.”

““A rapist rapes on average seven to 11 times before they’re caught,” Wayne County Prosecutor Kym Worthy told the Detroit Free Press . “Of our set of 817, over 50 of them have 10 to 15 hits apiece.””

So, that’s a possible outcome if a woman acts as a good citizen and puts herself through the process–the collected evidence sitting in a box completely untouched for years.
 
Bruised_Reed said:
I didn’t know what to do. I thought it was somehow my fault, that’s the message I got growing up. I felt powerless because no one ever took my side. Who should I have told?
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I don’t know the context, so I can’t say who you should have told. I got the same message as you, but I became an adult and I then knew that message was wrong.
 
ConstantLearner said:
That’s just an excuse for lack of action.
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You’re asking a lot from traumatized people who don’t think they will be believed.

Upthread, I included the story of the Larry Nassar victim who told her parents at 12 years old. Nassar convinced the parents that she was lying.

Edited to add: And then from then on, her dad would throw her “lie” in her face whenever they argued.
 
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TheAmazingGrace said:
No, it’s not. People don’t use the “well, the she was asking for it” excuse to let murderers off the hook.
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…or “It was probably consensual murder” or “She probably cried murder because she regretted being murdered the next morning” or “How was he supposed to know she didn’t want to be murdered?”

It’s a different crime, with different social attitudes.
 
Xantippe said:
You’re asking a lot from traumatized people who don’t think they will be believed.
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Oh. for goodness sake, I am not. I was traumatized myself. Most people have been, by one thing or another. We pull ourselves together and deal with it. That’s life. Reality isn’t a Doris Day comedy.
 
ConstantLearner said:
Oh. for goodness sake, I am not. I was traumatized myself. Most people have been, by one thing or another. We pull ourselves together and deal with it. That’s life. Reality isn’t a Doris Day comedy.
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Yes, and one of the standard strategies for “pulling yourself together” is just acting like nothing happened and trying to get on with life.
 
ConstantLearner said:
Oh. for goodness sake, I am not. I was traumatized myself. Most people have been, by one thing or another.
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Most other traumas aren’t made out to be the victim’s fault, or treated with such heinous ridicule when the victim brings it up.
 
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Just because you reacted the way you did does not mean everyone else had the same support, the same resilience. You don’t get to minimize the experiences of others because you think you handled well. Your callousness suggests to me that have not dealt with it well or at all.
 
Xantippe said:
Yes, and one of the standard strategies for “pulling yourself together” is just acting like nothing happened and trying to get on with life.
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Not for a stable adult. Dealing with things is healthy.
 
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Bruised_Reed said:
Just because you reacted the way you did does not mean everyone else had the same support, the same resilience. You don’t get to minimize the experiences of others because you think you handled well. Your callousness suggests to me that have not dealt with it well or at all.
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I know I handled it well. The proof is in the pudding. You make false assumptions. I had no support at all, not even from my own mother, nor am I, or the other people who voted as I did, and we are in the majority, callous. That is name-calling. What I have is strength and resilience and a strong sense of personal responsibility for myself and others who could have faced the same thing from the same person.
 
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