Hostility towards lifelong singles

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From the article: A negation of asexual orientation.

"A 2002 article published in an annual magazine from the National Religious Vocation Conference in the US made the viewpoint explicit. ‘What do you call a person who is asexual?’ posed the article’s author. “Answer: Not a person. Asexual people do not exist. Sexuality is a gift from God and thus a fundamental part of our human identity.”
 
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glencor63 said:
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Not a Catholic Church position. You made a statement “regardless of what the Catholic Church believes”. I replied the Catholic Church doesn’t have a “belief” about “asexuality”. It doesn’t. There is no teaching on this topic.

A paraphrase on a website of a quote from a magazine in 2002 is NOT “what the Church believes” about a given topic.
 
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Final word: This was a National Religious Vocation Conference. Did the hierarchy correct the statement or condemn it as inconsistent with official Catholic doctrine? Someone reading it might surmise it was official Catholic doctrine.
 
glencor63 said:
This was a National Religious Vocation Conference.
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It was a magazine article, in a magazine affiliated with this group.
glencor63 said:
Did the hierarchy correct the statement or condemn it as inconsistent with official Catholic doctrine
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Does the “hierarchy” have time to go around reading every magazine article, blog post, and website in existence?
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Someone reading it might surmise it was official Catholic doctrine.
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I don’t see how.
 
glencor63 said:
Final word: This was a National Religious Vocation Conference. Did the hierarchy correct the statement or condemn it as inconsistent with official Catholic doctrine?
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Be reasonable. The Church doesn’t have time to go around vetting every potentially controversial opinion from one of its members uttered in public somewhere. Fr. Ripperger, Fr. Martin, bishops etc also say a lot of stuff that represents their own opinions rather than the official teaching of the Church, and the Church doesn’t go around issuing corrections each time they open their mouths. Plus, conferences are basically places where people with all kinds of viewpoints hang out and have “dialogue”. In other words, share a lot of personal opinions. Most Catholics understand this.
Someone reading it might surmise it was official Catholic doctrine.
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Like I said, there are opinions by Catholics all overthe Internet including on this forum that somone might “surmise” was official Catholic doctrine, unless they were interested enough to bother to look up the actual subject in the Catechism. Furthermore,there are a lot of areas where the Church simply has not issued an official statement, so all you will get is 100 opinions from various clergy, religious, and laity with a megaphone.

Don’t impart one person’s biased statement to the whole Church when it’s not an official teaching of the Church.
 
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Legend said:
shouldn’t they have money set aside, ‘just in case’?
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There are many people who live paycheck to paycheck. The most frugal may have a small savings account, but, they are also one car breakdown from the choice of electricity or rent this month.
 
I find too much revandication and anger in this post.

The Church encourage marriages. Because it is natural to continue the existance of the human race. And it is surnatural to wants to reach the souls to their Savior.

Singles people had always been there. The Church has NO problem with celibacy. She encourages chastity and virginity since her beginning. She invents the religious vocation for celibate men and women. Priests are usually celibate too.

On a demographic persceptive, there had always been a lot of singles people behond the faithfull. In our parishes we currently have A LOT of single people, including many women. Reasons can be multiple. Maybe it more difficult for a devout woman to find an husband, maybe singles are more implicated in the Church because they have more time and free mind. Maybe they are not interested in marriage or in sexuality. Who know their reasons?

Do you know what criterias (among others) do we study historical demography to “see” on a map where are the geographical areas of stronger catholicism on said early XXth century France? Feminine celibabcy. It is much more important in areas where the Catholicism is much more present than in more secular areas.

There is nothing in the catechism written on “asexuality” because it is not a problem. It does not challenge the meaning of sexuality as homexuality, and don’t challenge the entire society, marriage and procreation. Why do you want to make it a part of LGBTQA+ “identity”? You don’t even live in a cultural area (as far as I know) where being single is not possible.
 
You’re lucky.

There are people who are truly bothered by other people’s life choices.

They keep insisting that something is wrong with you if you aren’t married.

Marriage to these people is an obligation not a choice.
 
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I find too much revandication and anger in this post.
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Have you ever had total strangers judging you on your character time and time again solely on your marital status?

Have you been told you were worthless without a spouse?

If not count yourself lucky.

There’s only so much a person can take.

Sometimes it’s just too much.
 
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Retsel said:
As a parent I want him to have a full life, not just the husk, but the whole enchilada.
A sacrifice? Sure, but what he’ll add to his life, our family and the world cannot be measured.
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Tell that to my aunt who never got married and is a pediatric neurologist.

She has spent her whole life traveling the world and providing free medical care to poor children. She is a member of Doctors Without Borders.

She is also a devout Catholic who has served the Church by her skills and talents.

Does she have a husk of a life? I say no.

There are other ways to serve God outside of marriage and children.
 
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The best way to serve God is however he calls one to serve. Sometimes, he calls certain people to remain single. Sometimes, there are good reasons to not marry. I have a T-Shirt that reads, “Judge me when you’re perfect”. I think that’s good advice.
 
In fact, St Paul was very clear in 1 Cor chapter 7 that he would recommend people to remain single, as he was!
 
Sarcelle said:
Have you been told you were worthless without a spouse?

If not count yourself lucky.
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I can count myself lucky on this.

But I have been told many times that I am nobody without a job, and a burden for my family.
Does this makes me more lucky?
 
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No, we come out even.

We’ve both got people who tell us we’re worthless albeit for different reasons.

The good news is, we don’t have to believe it.
 
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Dr_Meinheimer said:
I for one love Kraft Singles, if that helps.
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🤣

In Ireland we have these but they’re branded “Easi-Singles”.

One night I’m having cheese on toast and my wife sees the package and shouts:
“Bam chicka wah waow…easy singles in your area now…yeah!”

Cue 5 minutes of non-stop laughter.

😂 😂
 
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