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Anyway, totally went off topic there, sorry.
oldcathgirl, know that we are all praying for you and for your family. Keep going to confession on a regular basis, it will help you overcome your guilt.
I wish you peace and joy, God bless you ❤️
 
I would imagine women have crushes and temptations outside of marriage too, although they won’t like to admit it.
 
It’s instinctual.

If you’re a man with a healthy libido, your instinct to look will automatically put the thoughts in your head — then you decide what to do with them, whether to reject them or dwell on them and turn em into fantasies or go further.

It’s got nothing to do with not loving your wife and everything to do with the sexual instinct hardwired into our brains.

For what it’s worth, I’d also say a woman who has been married for 20 years and says “I’ve literally never once had a single sexual thought of anyone besides my husband” — I would automatically assume there was either something physically wrong with her or she was lying. My own wife tried telling me that crap and I called her on it - she tacitly admitted she has, in fact, had sexual thoughts and been attracted to others besides me — which I knew anyways, I just wanted her to be honest.
 
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I never said anything about “obsessing”. There are some on this forum who take a point…distort it grotesquely in order to dismiss it.

In the same way you might distort the following advice to a woman: when you’re walking alone at night practice a heightened awareness about your surroundings, noticing ahead of time dark corners, small alleyways, occasionally changing the side of the street you’re walking on, have a flashlight with you and turn it on, don’t travel the same route without a bit of variance.

You’d instead say this reasonable advice is “obsessing”.

I’ll leave you with your distortions.
 
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I’m curious as to the character of “the other man” who would do something like this with a married woman.

@oldcathgirl is vulnerable in a bad marriage situation.

The other guy is simply a rat. (but I’m not judging anyone, lest I be judged.)
 
As a warning to the poster, generational healing is VERY fringe and it is not part of Catholic doctrine. It denies free will, denies the power of the sacraments. Please, beware.
 
am sorry i think your not aware of such things,The Catholics and the manifestation of extraordinary charisms such as prophecy, speaking in tongues and generational healing,and other Graces like deliverance does exist, outside of those of evident great sanctity,Ecclesiastical Acknowledgements.

eg “We have sinned like our ANCESTORS, we have done wrong and are guilty….” (Ps 106: 6-48). Exodus 20:5 You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I the Lord your God am a jealous God, **punishing children for the iniquity of parents, to the third and the fourth generation of those who reject me.
The Charismatic Renewal as a movement within the Catholic Church has been acknowledged by two Popes, Paul VI and John Paul II. Speaking to the International Conference on the Catholic Charismatic Renewal on May 19, 1975, Pope Paul VI encouraged the attendees in their renewal efforts and especially to remain anchored in the Church.Including the present Pope Francis

This authentic desire to situate yourselves in the Church is the authentic sign of the action of the Holy Spirit … How could this ‘spiritual renewal’ not be a chance for the Church and the world? And how, in this case could one not take all the means to ensure that it remains so…
Pope John Paul II, for his part, has been more explicit. Speaking to a group of international leaders of the Renewal on December 11, 1979, he said,

I am convinced that this movement is a very important component of the entire renewal of the Church.Noting that since age 11 he had said a daily prayer to the Holy Spirit he added,

This was my own spiritual initiation, so I can understand all these charisms. They are all part of the richness of the Lord. I am convinced that this movement is a sign of his action.
For his part, Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, Prefect for the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, has added his voice to the Pope’s in acknowledging the good occurring in the Charismatic Renewal and providing some cautions. In a forward to a book by Cardinal Suenens, at that time the Pope’s delegate to the Charismatic Renewal, the Prefect comments on the Post-Conciliar period stating,

At the heart of a world imbued with a rationalistic skepticism, a new experience of the Holy Spirit suddenly burst forth. And, since then, that experience has assumed a breadth of a worldwide Renewal movement. What the New Testament tells us about the charisms - which were seen as visible signs of the coming of the Spirit - is not just ancient history, over and done with, for it is once again becoming extremely topical.

http://gsearch.vatican.va/search?cl...apps=1&filter=0&q=pope+on+Charismatic+Renewal

http://www.laici.va/content/laici/e.../repertorio/serv-rinnovamentocarismatico.html
 
If you do a search on “Generational Healing” on these forums you will find many many threads.

Bottom line is God does not punish anyone for someone else’s sins. That would mean that my baptism did not wash away all sin, or that my great grandpa’s sin somehow is stronger than baptism and stronger than every Confession I’ve ever made.
 
oldcathgirl

I am in the same boat as you right now. This happened about 1 month ago. I got drunk and was away on business. The person followed me to my room. I have 2 kids and I a terrified of what it will do to them. I haven’t told either. I don’t want to ruin anyone’s life. It will certainly not happen again. I have been crippled with guilt. I am going to therapy and i have talked about what happened, but I am not sure I can live with myself. I love my wife so much. One difference is we are NOT having marital problems. This was more of a situation where I got drunk and this person took advantage.

If you find a solution let me know! Right now I am with you. Don’t tell, but how to deal with the guilt is a totally different thing. I was tested for STDs and all came back clear.
 
One other thing you should know. When two people have sexual relations a soul tie is formed. Exorcists will tell you this. It is important that you go to a priest who is familiar with the deliverance ministry and tell him what has happened and ask him to pray with you to sever any soul ties from the sexual encounter. This is very important and is easily overlooked but if not done worse problems can occur down the road so to speak.
 
I’m sorry but this sounds like superstitious nonsense to me @stpiosson

Do you have anything official from the Church about such a thing? Any Bible passages which support such a thing?
 
Hello.

This is my (name removed by moderator)ut. Please take or leave as you see fit. I’m no expert.

The advice to go immediately to Confession and to not tell your husband is good & wise. It is harmful to your husband to tell him about this, so it’s better not to tell him. It’s the charitable thing to do.

I think the guilt you are most likely feeling and will feel for a long time to come is punishment enough. You are in my prayers.

Reminds me of the parable of the woman and the Pharisees who were going to throw stones at her but when Jesus started writing in the sand they all went away one by one. Remember, Jesus forgave her, and His mercy is infinite.

I think I heard some self-righteousness and possibly some attitudes of condemnation in this thread which really bothers me, but maybe that’s only me. Please correct me if I misunderstand. I misunderstand things frequently.
 
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Really? That makes me so sad 😦 I am female, and it always really upsets me and makes me lose faith in men when I read things like that. Why does it seem like males think about those kinds of things all the time? Is there no man on the planet that can love his wife so much that no other female could ever tempt him again???

Maybe I just have unrealistic, overly-romantic standards 😦
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Well…Men don’t think about that all the time. It would be crazy to think that.

I don’t think it’s fair to say that all men have sexual fantasies about other women. Probably fair to say that other women are still tempting to men in general.

No…there is no man on the planet who will suddenly find other women unnatractive because they are married. In fact, it’s probably a bad thing for a married man to think that he could not be tempted. We’re all human, we all have the capacity to cheat on our wives. Especially if we think we are immune to that.
 
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One other thing you should know. When two people have sexual relations a soul tie is formed. Exorcists will tell you this. It is important that you go to a priest who is familiar with the deliverance ministry and tell him what has happened and ask him to pray with you to sever any soul ties from the sexual encounter. This is very important and is easily overlooked but if not done worse problems can occur down the road so to speak.
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This is pure nonsense. There is no church teaching to back this up.

Sure, there is a biological “bond” that occurs when you have sex. But that is something that, in marriage, is reinforced by haviing sex with your spouse reguarly. There is no “magical bond” such as you describe.
 
This is probably one reason why priests leave it up to the penitent to decide about telling their spouse.

The sin is still forgiven if the information is never shared. At the end of the day, the marriage is more important than that, especially if there are children involved.

And if my wife came to me with that information, seeking forgiveness, I would be obliged to forgive because that is what Christ demands of us. It might not be easy but that is what we have to do as Catholics.
 
Though am not a charismatic,i did attend few ,the Generational Healing service is a part of the counselling, where forgiveness prayer is a part of inner healing ,sins against the 10 Commandments and hidden sin are revealed,the Catholic Priest who has the gift of deliverance pray over the person.who is then set free,.sin has consequences,that’s why Jesus came into the world to save us,furthermore, do you pray for the souls in purgatory?,do you not take the responsibility to pray for your great grand parents or any other deceased family members, yes we offer Holy Mass,Rosary yes,we give arms-giving,fasting and other penances,according to our state of life,their sins are forgiven when we do all the above i mentioned they are being purified set free or quicken their stay there, since therefore they cannot pray for themselves ,so they are set free at the appointed time,even these are generational sins.we too are at peace,Baptism do wash away our original sin.confession also does, but not the effects of sin.Hear the inclination of a particular sin are at times generational for eg lust ,if the great grandparent committed adultery the next 4 generation would be inclined towards the spirit of lust unless at least one of the family member is prayed over by a pious priest who has the gift of deliverance or lead a holy life and Jesus shows mercy and set them frees this can be even the second generation if its done then it will not effect the next generations.God Bless

1 John 3:8 Everyone who commits sin is a child of the devil; for the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The Son of God was revealed for this purpose, to destroy the works of the devil.
sin has consequences and God punishes us for it so that we may realize our mistakes and repent and come back to the Lord

1 John 1:8 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, he who is faithful and just will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.
Mark 1:15 and saying, “The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God has come near; repent, and believe in the good news.

Matthew 9:13 Go and learn what this means, ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have come to call not the righteous but sinners.”
 
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Francis said:
if one the great grandparent committed adultery the next 4 generation would be inclined to words the spirit of lus unless at least one of the family member is prayed over by a pious of a priest who has the gift of deliverance or lead a holy life and Jesus shows mercy and set them frees this can be even the second generation if its done then it will not effect the next generations.God Bless
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There is no theological basis for this assertion.

The Gospel passages you reference do not mention this “generational sin”.

I agree there can be tendencies or habits that can be passed from one generation to the next, and perhaps there is a demon that attacks families in this manner. But each individual is capable of availing themselves of the sacraments and resolving not to sin. Or not to commit the sins of their parents.
 
Exodus 20:6-8 You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I the LORD your God am a jealous God, punishing children for the iniquity of parents, to the third and the fourth generation of those who reject me, 6 but showing steadfast love to the thousandth generation of those who love me and keep my commandments.

Hebrews 13:8 Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.

Matthew 5:17 – 18 "Think not that I have come to abolish the law and the prophets; I have come not to abolish them but to fulfill them.
18 For truly, I say to you, till heaven and earth pass away, not an iota, not a dot, will pass from the law until all is accomplished.

In the New Testament, Jesus talks about the blood of the prophets killed in previous generations being brought to bear on the current generation in Jerusalem (Matthew 23:29-36 and Luke 11:47-51)
“We have sinned like our ANCESTORS, we have done wrong and are guilty….” (Ps 106: 6-48).

Lamentations 5: 7: “Our forefathers have sinned and are now dead, and we bear their punishment.”

Pope John Paul II in his Apostolic Letter, “Adveniente Millennio Tertio,” made affirming statements regarding the need to heal the effects in us in the present resulting from sins committed in past generations. He urged the Bible-based mentality of Leviticus 26:40: “Confess your iniquity and the iniquity of your ancestors.”

We can’t blame our ancestors forever thing, our personal sin separate us from God and His blessings. But unconfessed sin brings curses.

Baptism heals us from original sin but not the effects of sin. This one sin has effected the whole of humanity so why is it hard to understand that certain grave sins can curses generations, it not venial sin but gravity of Thier sins like witchcraft etc can cause great damages to current and future family members.

If you’re mother who is alive practice witchcraft and who are living the Christian faith, you don’t think if she is putting spells on you wouldn’t affect you, not everything God does protect us if we are in graces but what if you are not Christian, her actions will affect you way worse. So same thing happened to future generation because of her evil live.

I could write way more to explain the biblical sources and spirituality of healing of the family tree which doesn’t go against catholic teaching or theology.

God bless
 
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