If you commit adultery against your marriage

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Irishmom2 said:
may well be a one time thing, never to be repeated again. We don’t know that about other people and it’s none of our business.
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You are correct. From a Church and relationship with God… All that is required is confession. I am happy to keep out of others business unless they want to post it public ally on the internet.
 
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Irishmom2:
may well be a one time thing, never to be repeated again. We don’t know that about other people and it’s none of our business.
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You are correct. From a Church and relationship with God… All that is required is confession. I am happy to keep out of others business unless they want to post it public ally on the internet.
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Oh, so their posting it makes it your business?
 
hergratefulchild said:
Actually I have lived with for several years and had a child with a woman I loved. I know a lot about how that may affect a relationship.
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So is this now open to discussion? After all, you put it out there on the Internet. What did this have to do with the original thread?
 
Irishmom2 said:
So is this now open to discussion? After all, you put it out there on the Internet. What did this have to do with the original thread?
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Yes, anything on a public forum is up for discussion
 
Looks like I am being attacked for voicing my opinion on sex and marriage. I am not telling anyone what to think or do, give me an example where I do that?
 
It seems we should only advise The Church teaching and not our own.
 
I agree. Adultery is not just a personal sin one commits that affects oneself, but it both offends God and breaks the marriage vow to be faithful to one another. Adultery breaks that vow, and confession and reconciliation should be sought with one’s partner. If both spouses are Catholics and trust in God’s grace and forgiveness, then both should seek comfort and counsel from the Holy Spirit in prayer and from a Priest.

Yes, to confess such a sin to a spouse is a heavy burden, but it is one that must be carried and dealt with openly with one another. If one keeps silent about the sin, then one is making the sin out to be as nothing grave, of no importance, when it absolutely is grave and serious. It is not something that should be taken lightly. To be dismissive of the sin, and not tell one’s partner, is to only compound the hurt, the lie, and the severity of the sin. If one committed such sin while being drunk or not in one’s full senses, such circumstance does not excuse one from the same duty to acknowledge the sin to one’s partner. In fact such situation calls for the partner to come forth and seek help from one’s partner and Priest, both for the sin of adultery and for drunkenness. God demands correction and discipline from us. Who better to help us in such a path to correct our errors and straighten our crooked paths than our partner in life, our spouse; in the Lord.
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I think you may get a lot of backlash for your words. I am beginning to learn that this isn’t a simple topic to discuss and there is more than one right.
 
With all due respect, “living together” is not the same as “married”. I did both things myself.

I think the point i am trying to make is: if you’re not married, it’s a bit presumptuous of you to be telling married people what to do and making pronouncements about what you’d do if you were married.
Which you aren’t.

It’s fine to discuss, but people who are actually married, not “living together”, may see things differently. If you broke up with whoever you were “living together” with, that is nowhere near the same thing as having a Catholic marriage break up. You will not need to go through either a divorce or an annulment (which isn’t guaranteed of being granted) to be able to marry somoene else. You also didn’t make a commitment before God to stay married till death do you part.
 
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That thread was closed because of vulgarity and contentious posts. You seem to want to continue all that negativity.
 
hergratefulchild said:
Looks like I am being attacked for voicing my opinion on sex and marriage.
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No, it’s called a “discussion”. If you didn’t want to have people discuss it with you, which includes possibly offering other opinions, why did you post it?

The only reason to post an opinion here is for people to discuss and debate. Were you expecting everybody on the forum to just agree with you?
 
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