In Genesis 3 however, we see the fall. The story goes that the serpent seduces Eve, and Eve eats of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, and gives some of the fruit to Adam who was with her. When God then gives out the curses, so we get a chain reaction serpent, Eve, Adam. God’s intended order at the creation was the man would subdue the earth and rule over it, and that that Eve would be his helper in this. So it should be Adam, Eve, creature in how the created order is intended to function. In the Fall, we see the opposite. The creation tempts Eve, Eve gives of the fruit to Adam, who receives it willingly although God had communicated his will concerning the fruit to Adam. Original sin has already thrown all of God’s created order out of whack.
When delivering the curses, God addresses them in the reverse order of his creation, creature (serpent), Eve, Adam, with increasing seriousness of the curses, ultimately holding Adam responsible for the failure. The serpent is cursed above all created animals. Eve is cursed in that she will deliver babies (her unique role and blessing) in pain. And Adam is cursed last because he listened to the voice of his wife over and above God’s command. The ground is cursed on account of Adam (his unique role to rule over and subdue creation), and in painful toil will the ground produce for him, and ultimately God confirms that mankind will return to the dust from which he was created by death. Adam is ultimately responsible for the failure of original sin. In Romans 5, Paul affirms this as well.
One other note here. There is an interesting statement in Eve’s curse. “Your desire will be for your husband, but he will rule over you.” The Hebrew word desire here is interesting. It is used in only one other place, Genesis 4, when God is speaking to Cain who is angry with his brother Abel. It says, “And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. It’s desire is for you, but you must master it.” In other words, it is a word used in the context of the wrongful desire to usurp or master something that is not rightly given by God. In other words, as part of the curse of original sin, there will be friction between man and woman, where there is a desire to usurp the headship that God ordained in the very act of creation. This isn’t a good thing.
So when Paul addresses this, what he is trying to do is uphold God’s intended order and creation. We see this throughout the Old Testament, that the Biblical norm for leadership within the Church reflects this, and it continues to Paul’s day. He doesn’t want the Church to subvert that, which is why the Church today ordains men to the priestly offices that exercise spiritual authority over the Church.
An grammatical and historical argument can be made for the role of deaconess, which is an office of service to the Church. But this role needs to still uphold God’s order when describing the functions and limits of that office.
I hope this helps.