Good Fella - show me in the Bible where Jesus ever said that a marriage could be annulled. God doesn’t want us to get divorced as Jesus states but understands that divorce is necessary in cases of adultery. If a man and woman get a marriage annulled with children in the picture what does that mean? The children don’t exist. Maybe your friend had a selfish motive for leaving his wife. But if the marriage was not working and was spiritually detrimental then divorce was probably the right thing. Maybe they shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place. The church simply has no right to deny anyone membership because they are divorced. Jesus would welcome any divorced couple who truly believes in him and wants to worship God. He may not like the fact that they got divorced but he would not turn them away. Remember he told us he was here to help the sick. Not cast them out.
That’s just it! Jesus never taught that the Church or any civil judge for that matter has the authority to annul a “valid” marriage. We must understand what the Church considers an annullment to be. An Anullment is a declaration by the proper authority of the Church that a valid marriage never existed in the first place, so it is not tantamount to a divorce. So the Church does not annul marriages, for she has no authority to abolish what is sacramentally valid. Once the Church decides that the marriage is invalid, the marriage can be dismissed as never having existed at all. Just because my old friend stopped loving his wife, that doesn’t mean his marriage was sacramentally invalid. He had no grounds for a Church annullment. :nope: And since he was married in the Catholic Church and divorced in a civil court, his second marriage if consummated is adulterous according to the teachings of Christ, for his first marriage is still sacramentally valid as long as he or his first wife have not been separated by death. :yup:
“It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife must give her a bill of divorce.’ But I say to you, whoever divorces his wife (unless the marriage is unlawful) causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” {Mt 5, 31-32}
An unlawful marriage means an invalid marriage, such as an incestuous one.
He said to them in reply, “What did Moses command you?” They replied, “Moses permitted him to write a bill of divorce and dismiss her.” But Jesus told them, “Because of the hardness of your hearts, he wrote you this commandment. But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. For this reason a man may leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate…Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
{ cf.Mk 10, 1-12}
Jesus never considered divorce necessary on the grounds of adultery. He acknowledged why Moses was compelled to make concessions for the people because of their sinfulness. Jesus prohibited divorce. The scribes and Pharisees were trying to trap Jesus with the question of divorce and compromise him as one who rejected the commandments of Moses. But Jesus refuted his enemies by redirecting their attention to their own sinfulness and what God has ordained from the beginning. I believe Jesus would prefer that unfaithful couples forgive each other and stay married rather than divorce. Our Lord certainly makes it clear that divorce and remarriage is also a form of sinful adultery. And he declares that no man (bishop or civil judge) has the authority to cancel a valid marriage oradained by God. The Catholic Church adheres to the teachings of Christ on the question of marriage and divorce, and she speaks for Christ.
This is off-topic, so let’s end it here in this thread.
Pax vobiscum
Good Fella
