Good luck!Well he and I will be having a serious conversation by the end of the year. I’ll be doing a lot of traveling up until Christmas then we plan on vacationing somewhere warm for New Years where many important things about the future will be discussed. I will keep you all posted.
Hmm I’m also jumping in here late but I’ve followed this thread and this runawaymodel seems to be girl after my own heart (no I’m not a man and I’m straightest, lol)
Really you are not married until you get married.:doh2: You will most likely still go through the learning process (learning to love each other) after marriage even if you wait for 20years. Until you say I do, you never really start
The important thing is that you have discussed your faith with him and he is aware that you will remain Catholic and will raise your children Catholic and he shares this obligation. What will bring him round is not long talks or debates but if he sees how you live your faith consistently and how it helps you through even difficult times
I dated my husband for 18 months and then we lived together for another 3.5 years before being married.
And what if God wants to send more than 2 or 3, and what if He wants to send them when you are in your late thirties (he is in his late 50’s)… Just something to think aboutHe wants 2 kids, I want 3 but we both agreed that either is acceptable—sometimes God blesses you with more. Funny enough, twins run in my family. We have 3 sets in my extended family. I warned him about that.
before marriage (and I am not in the group that says one shouldn’t have kids if one won’t be able to be a grandparent to their kids, if one can’t walk etc). FWIW, my dad had me in his late 20’s and died in his early 30’s.Aw, don’t blame the kids, I don’t think they bring out the “ugly” in a marriage, I think our honeymoon baby helped us not dwell on silly petty things that I could have possible dwelt upon had we not had our little one on her way. After the first two weeks when we first met, dh went back to where he lived 800+ miles away and we had a long distance relationship from then on, and married a year later, so I don’t really agree with the need for dating for a long time or anything, I think it can be different for wach couples, just as I think different marriages can go through different high’s and lo’s for different reasons. I wouldn’t blame the little bambinos
.I’m not blaming the babies; I’m just saying that myself and most married couples experience a huge re-adjustment when kids come along. Kids change everything, including a marriage. It’s not all bad. Like I said, you can still have a good marriage, but it’s when kids come along and you’re sleep deprived and stressed out that you see eachother’s “ugly” side more so than before.Aw, don’t blame the kids, I don’t think they bring out the “ugly” in a marriage, I think our honeymoon baby helped us not dwell on silly petty things that I could have possible dwelt upon had we not had our little one on her way. After the first two weeks when we first met, dh went back to where he lived 800+ miles away and we had a long distance relationship from then on, and married a year later, so I don’t really agree with the need for dating for a long time or anything, I think it can be different for wach couples, just as I think different marriages can go through different high’s and lo’s for different reasons. I wouldn’t blame the little bambinos
We only know what God has in store for us now. No clue what will happen even later today.And what if God wants to send more than 2 or 3, and what if He wants to send them when you are in your late thirties (he is in his late 50’s)… Just something to think about
I agree. Another year or so of dating then engagement…well, that would be MY ideal version, but we all know sometimes things don’t work out how you plan.
PaulineOsinachi said:
How very sweet of you. Thank you.Amen to that! :extrahappy:Italian men (whether religious or not) tend to follow Catholic traditions b/c they tend to be very family oriented and are very loyal to their momas and they know moma wants Catholic grandchildren
In your case, the religious aspect is a non-issue.
I have the same concerns…and even with all the joking around yesterday, at 51 years old, I sure bet I would feel overwhelmed if I had a 70plus husband right with my three children. I would be so concerned for the children, especially the youngest , knowing that their father was aging …would you be quitting modelling to have your children young?
Yes I intend to retire from modeling whenever it is that I happen to marry. I was considering going back to school to finish my degree (I only need 2 semesters) but that has been postponed because of my schedule at the moment. However, it is not out of the question.
I am sure marriage is overwhelming either way, but I understand where your concern is coming from. As I have mentioned before, my Grandparents had a 25 year difference (and my parents about 10), so while it does worry me sometimes, I have learned–with the help of this post–that I shouldn’t stress too much over situations that are beyond my control. If marriage is in the future then I will just leave it in God’s hands while he and I do our best to living a fufilling Catholic life.
Well,. I guess it is different for everyone. We all have different personalities. But I still think that the feeling of being"in love" does wane for many and it often becomes a choice to love, to be loving even when you are angry or don’t feel like it.
Children have brought us closer too, but what I’m trying to say is that children also add a lot of stress into the mix.
I think there is a great silver lining to that, though. I think it is so beautiful and I believe it relates very close to our relationship with God.