Homers:
That’s the kind of GYN who violated me - I doubt she was aroused, but it was physically violent and traumatic, I bled for days, and she was completely dismissive of my feelings and what I was telling her (so much for all women being more compassionate because they’ve experienced cramps, cysts, et al). This woman could not have cared less about my well being.
It initially made me nervous, but I’m going through a “maybe God does know more than me” phase.Marsha…you know your taken it me a bit too literally now. Like I’ve said, it there is a code blue situation, by all means, the first available qualified doctor please take over. But, if there is time for an appointment, certainly there’s time for modesty. My wife has a male dentist. All I am saying, is when it’s time to disrobe, perhaps the best policy is to have the same sex care givers, such that there is less probablility of liberties occurring. *I personally have never heard of a female doctor (knock on wood) taking advantage of a patient, whereas there are countless males that have. Modesty is the best policy in my book.
Thanks for your personal share. If I could give you a hug, I would. I know how I feel about this topic, and I feel that it is what I’ve been called to do. Peace and Blessings!That’s the kind of GYN who violated me - I doubt she was aroused, but it was physically violent and traumatic, I bled for days, and she was completely dismissive of my feelings and what I was telling her (so much for all women being more compassionate because they’ve experienced cramps, cysts, et al). This woman could not have cared less about my well being.
On the other hand, my mother was sexually assaulted as a teenager by a male GYN, an upstanding, church going, family man at that. Her experience was why I chose the woman doctor.
My best “doctor” for that area wasn’t a doctor at all, but a female physicians assistant. Much more gentle and compassionate. I’m currently looking for a new doctor (new area) and am terrified to go - I did tell my husband when he was helping me search out possibilities, “I don’t care if it’s a man or a woman, just please God give me the best person”. The open appointment happened to be with a woman; but she cancelled and I was rescheduled with a man. Who knows
Homer, I sense your heart and intentions are in the right place, but could you please be a little more sensitive to the women (and men) who are reading this and have been sexually assaulted in their lives. I was sexually abused at a very young age (think preschool) and it took me years to feel clean, even though the only man I’ve ever willingly been with is my husband. I also had a very close call with aquaintance-rape in high school and a couple other creepy close calls. If a doctor, male or female, is taking liberties with a patient, it does not impugn her modesty, chastity, or intimacy with her now or future husband. Sexual assault is not sex and does not make the victim somehow less pure or whole. Some of your posts/phrasing brought back that dark cloud of “I’m evil, I attracted it, why try because I’m going to hell anyway” feeling.
Well, probably they will have more than one station set up, so they could segregate by sex, but the point is well taken. Scrub me down and get that stuff off RIGHT NOW.Let me ask you a hypothetical question. Your wife is at the mall. A terrorist releases a chemical agent. First responders(police, fire, emt) ask everyone to strip off all clothing immediately and walk over and get into a line for decontamination. Men, women and children all totally nude will be scrubbed down and hosed off by men wearing hazmat suits.
What do you want your wife to do? Should she preserve her modesty and keep on her contaminated clothing that will kill her? Will you think less of her because 50 firemen and 200 mall customers have seen your wife in all her glory?
Paul…Hi there, thanks for your response. You must have not fully read my previous posts as I said, there’s a difference between an “emergency” and “making an appointment”. When there is time for an appointment, there is time for modesty. The situation you described is different. Not trying to be unreasonable here. What is scary to me is mothers rushing their young daughters off to male doctors at a young age, telling them that is ok’, he’s a doctor.Homers,
Your kind of thinking scares me. Because the next step in that kind of thinking is that the woman has been violated; she is unclean; people must die to restore the family honor.
Let me ask you a hypothetical question. Your wife is at the mall. A terrorist releases a chemical agent. First responders(police, fire, emt) ask everyone to strip off all clothing immediately and walk over and get into a line for decontamination. Men, women and children all totally nude will be scrubbed down and hosed off by men wearing hazmat suits.
What do you want your wife to do? Should she preserve her modesty and keep on her contaminated clothing that will kill her? Will you think less of her because 50 firemen and 200 mall customers have seen your wife in all her glory?
BTW. I read a post-911 article that discussed this concern. In a chemical attack, every minute that you continue to be exposed to the toxin lessens your chance of survival. such, there is a concern among emergency personnel that a significant percentage of the U.S. population would hesitate or refuse to undress. They would die.
Folks, we have all sinned at one time of our lives, and have all fell short of the glory of God, but the topic of this thread is: Men-how do you feel about your wife seeing a male doctor. It is my opinion, that modesty is always the best answer, which I strongly believe that scripture calls for. I personally feel that anything short of this is a violation of any marriage. I am entitled to my opinion, as well as anyone else. Question, have you ever read Leviticus 18? My basis is the Holy Bible, what is yours?
1 ** The LORD said to Moses,*
Like I’ve said, we’re all entitled to our opinions, and the OP asked “MEN” how do you feel, not women. It sounds like to me that maybe your now second guessing your decision to allow this doctor to deliver you? You should possibly review the previous link about what male doctors really think and feel about gyn exams. It might really change your point of view!
Leviticus 18LOL I missed that too. Dang Catholics never know their scripture
Thanks, however, I believe that I am now through with this thread. I wish everyone the best of luck in their future selection of healthcare providers.
I’m not second guessing anything one bit. He was a great Doc and if I hadn’t moved out of state I’d still go to him gladly.
Why are you posting a passage about sexual relations, in a thread about women seeing male ob/gyns? Exams and delivering babies aren’t anywhere on the same plain with ‘sexual relations.’
