My experience is much more like what you describe than that of other posters. This is true whether I have attended Mass in WA, WI, CA, TX, or NC. I read an interesting statement by a non-Catholic. We, as Catholics, have a tendency to blame Vatican II for laxity and other changes. Non-Catholics do not have a “Vatican II” to blame. I find it interesting, for instance, that non-Catholic churches will advertise contemporary and traditional services. Many of the converts that I know point to the Eucharist and reverence shown by Catholics as their number 1 reason for converting. These conversions took place after Vatican II.
It has been my experience as well that one of the main reasons converts are first attracted to the CC is the reverence we Catholics show in our worship.
I know that we are no longer silent after masses, and that it may seem like a party to Grandfather, but I think humans are social, we come to mass to “celebrate” together. During mass, we must remain reverent and speak only at the appointed times. After mass, well we are not cloistered nuns and monks. We are a community. Perhaps we should remain silent in the church itself until we get to the Vestibule. But it gets crowded in the Vestibule too, and the sound carries into the church. Sometimes mass is the only time that week I see some of my friends, (most of my life revolves around my parish, it is the center of our community). Maybe it’s modernism, but I can’t see going to mass with all these people who are my friends, and then silently slump away.
My time alone with Jesus is weekly Eucharistic Adoration. It is absolutely silent for one hour every week. So ancient, incense, Benediction, Latin Tantum Ergo. Adoration is one event I must leave in silent reverence. And before 6:30 AM mass.
Sunday mass is so much different than daily 6:30 AM mass. At 6:30 AM, it is silent. In the winter, it is a warmth drawing me in, the smell of candles, the light. People running in in the dark from all directions on foot. In the summer, it is a cool refuge, the marble. The quiet brings me close to Jesus in the Consecration in a way that a crowded Sunday mass never will, no matter how quiet people are.
Parishes in the African-American communities are into praise bands as well as gospel during celebration of Mass. It’s unique to their tradition and…it’s way cool!
Having participated in a nearby African-American Catholic church singfest, I must confess, I walked out with a head-ache and ears ringing. It was too loud and too much activity.
It was not a mass, so maybe that is the reason. It was in a beautiful Gothic church, but the sounds were bouncing off the walls.
My personal opinion is Catholics are very tolerant of one another. We are so different in our approaches, but our common belief in the Sacrifice of the mass draws us together in communion.
I pray that we can come to a resolution about these very real concerns.