My child is being aborted

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chero23 said:
I don’t know who makes that decision, but that is a stupid rule. It takes 2 to make a baby, the father should have as much (name removed by moderator)ut as the woman.
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I agree that a father should have some sort of legal recourse to prevent his child from being aborted. Unfortunately that could potentially be twisted to apply to the converse situation as well - a father trying to have his child aborted against the wishes of the mother.
 
nodito said:
I agree that a father should have some sort of legal recourse to prevent his child from being aborted. Unfortunately that could potentially be twisted to apply to the converse situation as well - a father trying to have his child aborted against the wishes of the mother.
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I was thinking of the same thing. I have heard of women having abortion bc the father of the baby wanted the abortion. We need a law that supports life of the unborn.
 
O my Jesus, forgive us our sins, save us from the fires of Hell, lead all souls to Heaven, especially those who have the most need of your mercy. Amen.

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chero23 said:
I don’t know who makes that decision, but that is a stupid rule. It takes 2 to make a baby, the father should have as much (name removed by moderator)ut as the woman.

To the Op, all I can tell you is go talk to her, talk to her til her ears drop off. If she doesn’t hear you, go tomorrow to the abortion clinic and try talking to her. It’s such a tough position to be in. Keep telling her, have it, I will take it, let her know that she won’t have any responsibility of the baby once its born
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The supreme court of the united states made that decision already (and rule). Yes it is unfair but reality is that in the US abortion is legally a female right, men have no say in it, and any attempt by him to stop it, would be illegal. I don’t agree with the advice of him going to the abortion clinic as that can get him into legal problems. Abortion clinics have many laws protecting them and if he breaks into the buffer zone to try to talk her out of it there, the abortion clinic may call the police on him. He still has one day so he needs to take advantage of today and convince her not to do it. Maybe ask her why she wants to do it and offer her solutions? Maybe show her an biology book so she can see is a baby and tell her that she would be murdering her own child? Someone else said to contact a pro life center to talk to her, that sounds like a good idea.
 
It’s a prayer thread folks not a debate.

Lord have mercy on us, support this mother to keep her child.
 
marymary1975 said:
The supreme court of the united states made that decision already (and rule). Yes it is unfair but reality is that in the US abortion is legally a female right, men have no say in it, and any attempt by him to stop it, would be illegal. I don’t agree with the advice of him going to the abortion clinic as that can get him into legal problems. Abortion clinics have many laws protecting them and if he breaks into the buffer zone to try to talk her out of it there, the abortion clinic may call the police on him. He still has one day so he needs to take advantage of today and convince her not to do it. Maybe ask her why she wants to do it and offer her solutions? Maybe show her an biology book so she can see is a baby and tell her that she would be murdering her own child? Someone else said to contact a pro life center to talk to her, that sounds like a good idea.
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Probably going to the abortion clinic is not the best thing, but I do agree the OP needs to keep trying, he needs to do everything he can so she doesn’t commit this irresponsible act.
 
Another option, if she can be open to it, is to have the baby and give it up to parents that have been interviewed in advance. Marriage isn’t always the best option.

Giving the baby up for adoption is an unselfish act. A local pregnancy crisis center can help as to how to go about this.

As the others have said, if nothing works to change her mind, it is not your fault. And, remember that the Lord is merciful and does not want you to despair of his mercy.

Dear Blessed Mother I place this situation in your loving arms.
 
Here is a link to a pregnancy help line:
priestsforlife.org/pregnant-need-help/index.aspx.
They may be of some help. Also, there is a video of an actual abortion on that page as well. If you can get her to watch it, may be beneficial. Also, just humanizing the baby, explaining features and what the baby is doing in utero may help.

There are resources for men post-abortion. Please get help if you need to. Will keep all of you in my prayers!
 
I know this is a prayer request thread so usually the reply should be something like, “I’m praying for you!” Which I am for sure but I wanted to offer some suggestions for help as well. I am a trained sidewalk counselor and have seen women plenty of times change their minds at the last minute.

Some questions:
How far along is she and what type of abortion is she scheduled for? Many times the risks involved in the different procedures and the expense of them initially turn women away from abortion to eventually later accept life.

Call this number 1-800-712-HELP
or text HELPLINE to 313131
This will help find a local crisis pregnancy center that can help educate her on her options and many have ultrasounds to confirm the pregnancy. A lot of times women needlessly get abortions when they actually have an ectopic pregnancy and this only complicates things even more. An ultrasound will help confirm the pregnancy and determine if it is viable and how far along she is. Many women are not sure how far along they are and this is a critical mistake at times if they are choosing a type of abortion that is for women who are too far or not enough along.
Also, call the number for an appointment for yourself. If you need someone to talk to who is a live person (not on the internet) that is trained in these matters and for it to be confidential, call that number as often crisis pregnancy centers have resources and support groups for men who have suffered through this.

Good luck and don’t give up hope!! You are doing the right thing.
 
michael

You’re learning an important lesson the Hard way. The reason God instituted marriage and then family. It IS the young ladies’ choice to make – though not the one You’d like. And aborting an “oops” is more and more ‘socially acceptable’. But - God’s Word tells us -through example – in the Old Testament David and Bathsheba’s one night stand - resulted in her pregnancy and birth of their infant son. But he was taken from them - in death. David went to God in sorrow and a repentant heart – and God gave Him the assurance that he Would be with his son again – in heaven. So - we know that aborted babies and infants Do go to be with God in heaven.

The young lady has to live with the fact that she Did - after all – consent to having sex with you. And if she Does follow through with the abortion – Also lives with the knowledge that she is ending the life of an innocent child. Somehow it seems ‘easier’ for a woman to end a pregnancy Before having a chance to feel movement or for a Dr. to get a heart beat. And the fact that her family is supportive of her decision - well - they All live with the choice that the two of you made.

So – getting Your heart right with God is your 1st priority – repentence and asking forgiveness – God is Always ready to forgive. And - we move on with life. God bless you as you Do move on with life.
 
marymary1975 said:
No, he doesn’t. Legally speaking men have no say in the matter of abortion. All he can do is try to convince her not to do it, but in the end he can’t do absolutely anything about it
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THIS IS SOMETHING THAT MUST CHANGE!!! If the father is willing to raise the child himself, then the woman should not be allowed to abort the child.

This situtation is bringing tears to my eyes… and really breaking my heart.

I will pray for you and the baby.

*Hail Mary full of grace
the Lord is with thee
Blessed are thou among women
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus
Holy Mary Mother of God
Pray for us sinners
Now and at the hour of our death
Amen *
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†
 
Thank you all for your support and prayers and advice. I named my child Joe. Joseph for a boy and Josephina for a girl. I talked to my ex and I am going to say hi to her today. I will be talking with her more and I will be saying goodbye to Joe.

thank you all so much! I am blessed to have so much support!

God Bless
 
Many times there is a small group of people at abortion mills praying the Rosary and some times handing baby hats or blankets to women going in. May babies have been saved at the last moment.

I pray that someone praying at the mill this young mother-to-be (MTB) goes tomorrow will touch her heart. I’m also praying that the Guardian Angel of both the MTB and the baby protect them both and keep them both alive. :highprayer:

Do not despair. There is hope to the last moment.
 
Josephelbert said:
Thank you all for your support and prayers and advice. I named my child Joe. Joseph for a boy and Josephina for a girl. I talked to my ex and I am going to say hi to her today. I will be talking with her more and I will be saying goodbye to Joe.

thank you all so much! I am blessed to have so much support!

God Bless
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God Bless you and baby Joe. Reading your 2nd post has brought more tears to my eyes.

Our Father,
Who art in heaven,
hallowed be Thy name;
Thy kingdom come;
Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread;
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

Glory be to the Father,
and to the Son,
and to the Holy Spirit,
as it was in the beginning,
is now, and ever shall be,
world without end. Amen.
 
Most holy apostle, St. Jude, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the Church honors and invokes you universally, as the patron of hopeless cases, of things almost despaired of. Pray for me, I am so hopeless and alone. Make use I implore you, of that particular privilege given to you, to bring visible and speedy help where help is almost despaired of. Come to my assistance in this great need that I may receive the consolation and help of heaven in all my necessities, tribulations, and sufferings, particularly for the rescue of my child, and that I may praise God with you and all the elect forever. I promise, O blessed St. Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favor, to always honor you as my special and powerful patron, and to gratefully encourage devotion to you. Amen
 
Please do not give up hope yet. I sense some resignation in your second post, but PLEASE, even if it takes crying and begging when you see her, make every last effort to change her mind.

I will be praying a rosary and Divine Mercy chaplet today especially for you, her and your child, and offering the three of you up at Holy Mass this evening. I will dedicate all my prayers for the rest of the day to little Joe. As someone who’s lost an unborn child through natural causes and knows it’s hard enough when it’s completely out of the parents’ control, I will not give up on you.

God’s power and mercy are greater than the worst sins imaginable to the human mind. Pray to Our Lady and St. Dymphna.
 
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