My sister is dying

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Oh dear :eek:

No my sister had not gone home, yet. We have been praying for her daily and have put her in the hands of St. Joseph for a peaceful and happy death. She spleeps most of the time. Several times a day she awakens and asks us how much longer. Then she goes back to sleep. She is peaceful and comfortable.

Her condition is deteriorating quickly, since she has not had food or water for more than three weeks. Please keep her and our family in your prayers. It is very hard to watch a loved one go through this.

However, I do believe that God has a plan for all of us. Some how, we are going to be blessed, if we can go through this Calvary and keep our faith. I know that our parents are waiting for her to come home.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
Daily prayers continuing. In June, my wife left me to get myself to treatment so that she could spend time with her mother, who was dying of Alzheimer’s in El Salvador. What was begun as two weeks, extended to six weeks, but my wife was with her mother at the last moment. it was vary spiritual, very cathartic and revealed God’s love on earth in preparation for her mother to experience His love in eternity. Yet, it is said that purification through suffering here on earth is preferable to the refiner’s fire in the next life. As occurs in man’s courts, the judge is always pleased to see those who have prepared for their arrival.

Prayers continuing.
 
After re reading the posts concerning the subject of this discussion i do certainly agree with our Brother. It is certainly cruel the way they are proceeding with his siter… It seems to me that she is conscious since our Brother is saying that his sister asks: how much longer her suffering will last. Even in a state of coma we can not conclude that our brains are not working or not being aware anymore. Therefore, i ask myself the following question: Who are we, to decide how a person should die, with food or not food, with water or not, etc.
The same question comes to my mind when they put prisoners to die by letal injection. Who are we, to decide and to take away the life of a person?
In my opinnion, those procedures should be decided by God, not by us.
We certainly have a time to live and a time to die.
I believe we are going beyond our limits, about what is moral or not. If we continue crossing those limits, what can we expect from the next generation?
It is our duty as adults not to let our society cross those borders of morality and spirituality. It seems to me that we have made laws according to how much money there is in our government to be spent or not. We are getting confused between material things and spiritual or moral issues. What God has preached should not be rejected by us, simple human beings who only care about our own selves.
 
and i know dear Brother, your load is very heavy and you see that there is so much to accomplish, but, nevertheless do not despair, because i know that every human being you change to make a better one, hopefully that person would do the same for another one. Therefore it is like a chain, one person starts and then the other one continues and spreads it out.
I really admire what you are doing for the poor and what you have given up.
May God always bless you and brings you peace and better health.
 
Oh dear :eek:

No my sister had not gone home, yet. We have been praying for her daily and have put her in the hands of St. Joseph for a peaceful and happy death. She spleeps most of the time. Several times a day she awakens and asks us how much longer. Then she goes back to sleep. She is peaceful and comfortable.

Her condition is deteriorating quickly, since she has not had food or water for more than three weeks. Please keep her and our family in your prayers. It is very hard to watch a loved one go through this.

However, I do believe that God has a plan for all of us. Some how, we are going to be blessed, if we can go through this Calvary and keep our faith. I know that our parents are waiting for her to come home.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
Brother JR,

I am so very sorry to hear what is happening to your sister.

This situation is truly horrifying. I am shocked by the unbelievable cruelty of what some people consider “death with dignity.” It didn’t take long for society to go from removing basic life essentials from those who couldn’t speak for themselves, such as Terri Schiavo, to removing them from those who are still conscious and speaking as your sister is. Terri’s case was justified because it supposedly is “what she would have wanted.” I am appalled to hear that now we have people removing food, hydration, and medication against the patient’s will. We have lost the right to our own lives.

I will remember your sister, you, and all the family in prayer before the Blessed Sacrament today.
 
Praying for you, your family and all who are facing similar situations today. Let’s continue to promote the Culture of Life.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us.
 
Along with the fact that I humbly ask for your prayers for my sister, my family and me, I have another reason for sharing this journey with you. I hope that you don’t consider me to be indiscrete.

Greater than my commitment to my sister, is my commitment to my Franciscan vocation. That comes first. As a Franciscan Brother of Life, I am committed to proclaim the Gospel of Life with the simplicity of St. Francis, always using real life examples to show Catholics how God is present in our world and how sinful choices affect all of us.

If there is a message for Catholics here, it is this. Human life is sacred, from conception to natural death. Regardless of what anyone says, moral law holds that there is NEVER a justification for accelerating someone’s death. Those who participate in such an action: relatives, doctors, nurses, friends, politicians and so forth, are guilty of murder. The degree of culpability is proportionate to the degree of one’s involvement. Moral law is fair, otherwise it would not be moral law.

If I’m a Catholic nurse who is told not to give water to a patient who can take water and I comply with that order, then my degree of culpability is very serious. I have a moral duty to disobey that order, even if it means providing the water covertly.

The moral law is very simple. If the patient can take food, water and anti-biotics, they must be provided, no exceptions. If these become a hardship to the patient, then it is justifiable to withhold them. But it has to be a hardship to the patient, not the rest of the people around the patient.

If we were in a very poor country, there is another law that would also apply. If certain medical care were possible, but the cost is prohibitive, then the family is not morally bound to provide it, even though it’s available. You can’t rob Peter to feed Paul. I say this in this manner, because in the USA, a large number of people have insurance, medicaid or medicare. If you have the financial resources to provide for the patient and the patient can take the food, water and anti-biotics, you must provide them.

There is another point here. Some people have spoken to me about Terri Schiavo. I have heard some say that she did not want to have her life prolonged. I don’t know if this is true or not. But it does not matter. Moral law says that we do not have a right to make this choice. No human being can chooose to accelerate his or her death. Therefore, any family member or healthcare provider who complies with such a request, is morally culpable.

A person can choose to decline any assistance or healthcare when it is certain that death is imminent. If it is not certain, then the patient cannot decline. There are times when no one knows if death is imminent. We know that if we withhold food and water, it will become imminent. Even a person on a ventilator may not be a death’s door. Christopher Reeves breathed for years with technology. He was an active and productive member of his family and society. We must be very careful not to be misled by what people want to label as extraordinary.

Extraordinary or heroic measures are far and few between. They are not as common as today’s society makes us believe. If we can accelerate the death of our loved ones, what is to keep society from accelerating the death of those who are not in our inner circle? Where are the boundaries and are these boundaries so fluid that courts and family members can move them at will?

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
 
Dear Brother,
I have a question for you. Did you sister agree to undergo such measures to precipitate her death?
You do not need to reply if you do not wish.
Thank you.
Just thinking about your sister and about you as well.
 
Rhetorical responses to your thoughtful (as always) post:
Greater than my commitment to my sister, is my commitment to my Franciscan vocation. That comes first. As a Franciscan Brother of Life, I am committed to proclaim the Gospel of Life with the simplicity of St. Francis, always using real life examples to show Catholics how God is present in our world and how sinful choices affect all of us.
Wonderful testimony that we are to please the only One Who judges us, and fear no others (ref. Matthew 10:28).
If there is a message for Catholics here, it is this. Human life is sacred, from conception to natural death.
It took me quite some time, but I learned that my life is not mine. It came from God and it will return to Him. And, is not the embryo in the womb also That “which God has joined together, let not man put asunder”? (Mark 10:9). Does this not also include body and soul, which God alone has joined together?
There is another point here. Some people have spoken to me about Terri Schiavo. I have heard some say that she did not want to have her life prolonged. I don’t know if this is true or not. But it does not matter. Moral law says that we do not have a right to make this choice. No human being can chooose to accelerate his or her death. Therefore, any family member or healthcare provider who complies with such a request, is morally culpable.
The only thing we know about the Schiavo case is that Michael, Terri’s husband, claimed that Terri did not want to live as she was. This, from the mouth of a man who had: ceased caring for his wife; fallen in love with another woman; moved in with her; fathered children with her; set up a separate household with her and maintained separate finances with her. A man who had de facto divorced Terri, yet was given 100% of the authority to chose whether Terri lived or died.

So what, if someone states on any given day that they do not wish to live as they are? To terminate their life is to deny their heart the opportunity to repent and be reconciled with God. In such situations, the greater guilt is ours, since we were in no pain when we agreed or collaborated.
Extraordinary or heroic measures are far and few between. They are not as common as today’s society makes us believe. If we can accelerate the death of our loved ones, what is to keep society from accelerating the death of those who are not in our inner circle? Where are the boundaries and are these boundaries so fluid that courts and family members can move them at will?
The evil one enters the Church like smoke through the fissures (Pope Paul VI). He has convinced society that food and water are heroic. Is a mother breastfeeding her baby resorting to “heroic measures”? Did Mary resort to heroic measures with Jesus?

This human body is designed with a terminal date. Do we all therefore, qualify for assisted suicide?
 
It didn’t take long for society to go from removing basic life essentials from those who couldn’t speak for themselves, such as Terri Schiavo, to removing them from those who are still conscious and speaking as your sister is. Terri’s case was justified because it supposedly is “what she would have wanted.”
For the sake of clarity, I’d like to add that I did not mean to say that Terri’s murder was justifiable. What I was trying to say, but didn’t convey clearly, is that those who murdered her justified it by claiming that death is what she would have wanted if she were severely disabled. My apologies for any pain I may have caused by my wording.

JR, you and your sister are in my daily prayers.
 
For the sake of clarity, I’d like to add that I did not mean to say that Terri’s murder was justifiable. What I was trying to say, but didn’t convey clearly, is that those who murdered her justified it by claiming that death is what she would have wanted if she were severely disabled. My apologies for any pain I may have caused by my wording.

JR, you and your sister are in my daily prayers.
I understand what you mean. People justify themselves by saying that the patient wants this. I always try to point out to people that we do not always want what is right. When a person is very sick, it is very easy to say, “I want to die.” It also goes without saying that we’re very afraid of suffering and many of us would say, “If I ever [insert situation], please let me die or help me to die.”

We have to make sure that we understand that in those cases it’s the fear speaking, not the moral conscience. Even Jesus was afraid. But in the end, he does the will of the Father.

Fraternally,

Br. JR, OSF 🙂
 
Br. Jay, you and your sister were lifted up in prayer before our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament this afternoon. Prayers also for her husband, who is in grave spiritual danger, and for those who counseled him. Amen.
 
Thanks,Brother,for all these teachings.
Prayers for you and your family.
 
My sister passed away at 1:45 pm today. She was peaceful and comfortable. She was 55 y/o. She leaves behind a husband, Joe and son Lee, and three brothers who loved her very much.

I know that she’s resting. Please pray for her and our family. The funeral will be on Monday in Tampa, FL, next to our parents. I’m hurting a great deal, because I’ll miss her. However, I’m thankful to St. Joseph to whom I prayed that she would have a happy and peaceful death. He has answered our prayer.

Thank you for your prayers
 
My sister passed away at 1:45 pm today. She was peaceful and comfortable. She was 55 y/o. She leaves behind a husband, Joe and son Lee, and three brothers who loved her very much.

I know that she’s resting. Please pray for her and our family. The funeral will be on Monday in Tampa, FL, next to our parents. I’m hurting a great deal, because I’ll miss her. However, I’m thankful to St. Joseph to whom I prayed that she would have a happy and peaceful death. He has answered our prayer.

Thank you for your prayers
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my prayers.
 
My sister passed away at 1:45 pm today. She was peaceful and comfortable. She was 55 y/o. She leaves behind a husband, Joe and son Lee, and three brothers who loved her very much.

I know that she’s resting. Please pray for her and our family. The funeral will be on Monday in Tampa, FL, next to our parents. I’m hurting a great deal, because I’ll miss her. However, I’m thankful to St. Joseph to whom I prayed that she would have a happy and peaceful death. He has answered our prayer.

Thank you for your prayers
Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.

Prayers for you and your family. :crossrc:
 
My prayers go out for your sister and your family Jr may the lord bless and keep them always.
 
Father in heaven, as it has pleased you to call your daughter home to You, may the example of her life, and especially of her death, renew hope within each of us. Blessed is her life, which has given us cause to come before You in prayer on her behalf, and on behalf of her family and loved ones. In all of this, let us praise and glorify Your Holy Name! Lord, we would sense no loss were it not for the gain which we have received through her life and presence with us. The pains of this life now behind her, we pray that You graciously allowed her to suffer out the last vestiges of sin before Your comforting voice called to her. Let us praise You for her life, suffering and death, a progression established as Holy by Your Son, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Let us live in confidence of the coming resurrection, which will unite the faithful perfectly to You in union for all eternity. Grant this, O loving Father, through the perfect intercession of the same Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, Your only Son, Who lives and reigns with You, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, One God for ever and ever. Alleluia! Amen.
 
Father in heaven, as it has pleased you to call your daughter home to You, may the example of her life, and especially of her death, renew hope within each of us. Blessed is her life, which has given us cause to come before You in prayer on her behalf, and on behalf of her family and loved ones. In all of this, let us praise and glorify Your Holy Name! Lord, we would sense no loss were it not for the gain which we have received through her life and presence with us. The pains of this life now behind her, we pray that You graciously allowed her to suffer out the last vestiges of sin before Your comforting voice called to her. Let us praise You for her life, suffering and death, a progression established as Holy by Your Son, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Let us live in confidence of the coming resurrection, which will unite the faithful perfectly to You in union for all eternity. Grant this, O loving Father, through the perfect intercession of the same Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, Your only Son, Who lives and reigns with You, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, One God for ever and ever. Alleluia! Amen.
Amen. :signofcross:

Bro. JR, you have my condolences and prayers. I have been haunted by this story the past few days, and I know it will weigh heavy on my heart for a long time to come. I cannot even imagine what your sister endured in her final weeks, and how traumatic this ordeal has been for you.

We know all things work for the good for those who love God. I’ve no doubt God will bring about some tremendous blessing from this profound suffering.
 
After offering a prayer and a Rosary for your sister’s intention, I started off to Adoration, so that I could pray during the hour of mercy on the Friday in which she answered our Lord’s call. It was overcast, but rain was not expected. As I rode my motorcycle, it began to rain. I briefly thought of turning back, but I did not want to miss the hour of mercy. I sensed that there was a purpose which would be defeated if I turned back. Surprisingly, the rain stopped almost as soon as it began. Once I arrived, I had no sooner entered into prayer on your sister’s behalf than there was a loud crash at the door of the Chapel that I had just walked through. It was on the opposite side of the wall where I was at prayer before our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament. All of us were startled, but I kept praying. One man went to see if he could find the source, but located nothing. I immediately sensed that it was the anger of the evil one, who no longer had any chance of claiming your sister. I was comforted that, in the Lord’s presence, no evil could touch us. At the conclusion of my prayer, I felt the presence of the Holy Spirit so strongly that it almost took my breath away. I was comforted by knowledge that your sister is in the most loving hands that exist. Once our Lord was reposed in the Tabernacle, I checked the chapel entrance. I found a bright yellow-green golf ball lying near the door. There is no golf course for miles. I do not want to read too much into this, but as in some spiritual experiences I have had in the past, I also want to rule nothing out. Amen.
 
Brother JR, your sister, you and your family are all in my prayers. Despite a very difficult and emotional situation, you provided all of us with a wonderful example of how to really live our faith. God Bless.
 
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