It’s true. I struggle to articulate my pro life stance among my pro choice Christian and atheist friends often, because there is such a fine line to be trodden with those who have experienced very difficult things. I know women who have had abortions of convenience, I know women who have had late-term terminations because of fatal abmormalities, I know women who have had miscarriages and stillborn children.
I myself have had a number of miscarriages, and, some many years ago, abortions of my own. It is a crushing, debilitating weight on the soul and women deal with it very differently. The worst response is the aggressive defensiveness that you see so often, which I genuinely believe is repressed guilt. I tread carefully because once that kind of thing is riled up, people stop listening.