I still observe the emptyness when I attend for someones funeral. It is no different today then when I was a youngster or when I returned back to the church after my repentance hoping to find something anew. The words in the prayer “Our Father” had meaning and new worth, but returning to the CC and hearing them mumbled again without heart drove me away.
I hoped to find some that shared my excitement and love for God. But what I found were those practicing those same old heartless rituals that I remembered from my youth. So was I at fault, when I said to myself, how can you offer up those same prayers over and over and over thinking your going to earn favor with God?
I am truly sorry that you have experienced that in the Churches where you attend funerals. However, you have to remember that funerals and weddings are generally when you are going to encounter many lukewarm/marginal Catholics. While there maybe a lack of outwardly manifested zeal, I have found that most Catholics exhibit a quiet, prayerful, zeal…not everyone has to exhibit their zeal outwardly to have zeal for the faith. I am a “hospitality minister”(ie usher) at my parish and I find that if I exhibit friendliness and zeal for the Mass, that it is “contagious”. Perhaps since I am a convert, I don’t have the “history” that some cradle Catholics have with the Church. I do think that we all have to ask ourselves…Are we attending church with the idea that it is a “gimme, gimme” experience?" "Are we involved in our church, or are we waiting for someone else to create things like bible studies and faith formation classes? Are we part of the problem? or part of the solution? Are we attending the wedding feast of the Lamb’s supper? or are we just sleeping through our own wedding???
I am also sorry that you were so badly catechized that you don’t understand the reasons behind what is happening at Mass. If you did…if all Catholics did…then IMO, everyone would want to be Catholic. I remember something that Scott Hahn said once, he said that the first time he went to a Catholic Mass…he was shocked…he said that everything he heard at the Mass had a Biblical reference.
For example: In the liturgy of the Eucharist, the priest says…“From east to west a perfect offering is made…” That is from Malachi 1:11 “
…for from the rising of the sun to its setting my name is great among the nations…” and again, in the Mass, we say, “Holy, Holy, Holy, Lord, God of power and might…heaven and earth are full of your glory, Hosanna in the highest…” a direct quote from the book of Revelation.
As for “heartless rituals”…well, my answer to that is that ritual is as much a part of being human as breathing…all humans have rituals…we get ready for work in the morning, we do specific things in a particular order. A ritual is just a way that you do something. Church rituals come to us via Sacred Tradition and Sacred Scripture. In the Protestant faith, there are rituals…you arrive at Church…then you have coffee and donuts…then you sing songs then you hear the pastor give his sermon…then you pass the collection basket…or whatever…that is ritual. Can it become meaningless? Yes! Is it always meaningless? NO!
OOPS! perhaps I should have started a different thread…sorry for going out on a tangent…I just get tired of hearing that we Catholics “do meaningless repetitive prayer that we think will get us to heaven”…oh, please~

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