You dont see the scars on the African American community? You dont see the double standards for women? Again, I can write a book but I really recommend the velvet rage. The pain of being told you are evil, you are never allowed to love, and you are unloveable produces negative consequences. Some of the negative consequences can seem positive(many gay men are obsessed with work and reach of the career ladders etc) but this is just a manifestation of pain.
The Christian community in the middle east still has the reaffirmation of their own group. A gay child grows alone with no group or understanding…with no tribe to call their own. Just pain and rejection…
Thank you, and shame on me for omitting such a terrorized group. So sad.
Curious that you are at such a site. Read the velvet rage if you are really interested in learning the scars gay males have to deal with.
I totally disagree. I have not seen any peer reviewed studies about gay children growing up alone or with a lack of understanding.
Domer I am sorry and empathize with your son. I can tell you that many many gay boys and girls go through the same situations. As an educator, I see it on a constant basis and it is heart breaking. I hope your compassion can allow you to see the suffering in other minority communities as well. It isn’t easy not being part of the majority and you know that first hand.
No sorry, that’s a major generalisation on your part.
I posted two articles so that I would appear fair and impartial. While I would like to, I know I need to do the most advocacy for my son. But thank you.
When did I deny that it happens to others? Also, your select experiences don’t equate to reality.
Thank you. I appreciate the kind words. But I try to advocate for any child ( my own obviously included) being isolated or rejected. I will check out your source for a talk I am giving about invisible disabilities.
You said “A gay child grows alone with no group or understanding…with no tribe to call their own. Just pain and rejection”.
Here is another one. cdc.gov/lgbthealth/youth.htm
Praying for you and your son also, 1990.
Just like your views on Catholic Church teachings are severely flawed, your views on this are also horribly flawed. You need to take a good look at the facts! From the CDC;
Add to that the fact that gay people—especially gay men—are disproportionately affected by depression compared to the general population. Higher suicide rates are also reported among the LGBT community.
Suicide rates because of mistreatment of society and no if two clean gay men are in a committed relationship, they cannot get sick, period. You are just twisting myths with facts. I In addition, if protection is used then they really can’t get sick but I guess you think two gay men can’t be faithful to one another?
But for some reason - I don’t know what it is - gay men, in the main, have been less inclined to choose “committed relationships”, favouring more “open relationships”. And to say that that is simply because SSM hasn’t existed is to pass judgement on the nature (depth? / quality?) of relationships gay men (in the main) have been forming.
Thank you and God bless. This was a very kind post you sent to me. It’s tough having a son who received death threats in second and fourth grade because he was wired differently and could not understand. In our case, we always kept him in social skills classes or isolated from the hateness. I’ll admit, I wish the autism movement could educate and advocate like the LGBTQ movement. We’re not even close, and we get hurts every day.
Ray, I think you are quite right. See this link:
Interesting. Here is a quote:
Again, if you are interested in knowing why read the velvet rage. Yes, some gay men engage in multiple sex partners but guess who else does…/lots of straight men! They may have wives but the rate of infidelity in through the roof in this country, so please spare me the notion that only gay men have multiple partners.