St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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mnmom:

Thank you so much! I’m having an awful time with dh. I am also very sick. Slept on the couch last night and the night before. You’d think dh would take the couch. But no. Ah, well. Thanks again. Praying for you and all here!

God bless.
 
Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
 
Hello everyone,

First of all I want to say I am praying for everyone here. For patience, trust and perseverance led by example from St. Monica! :gopray:

Also, a little update, my husband has a temporary job now, and a possible interview for a full-time position later this month. Thank you all so much for your prayers! He seems to be feeling so much better now that he is busy with work and not moping around the house all day! Things are looking up! I see God’s work!

We were up at a YMCA camp here in the mountains for a family reunion and DH, DD and I went on a hike just the three of us-which hardly ever happens, it was so nice!!

I also had my first peek at our little bun in the oven last week, and everything is going well there also! 😃

:blessyou: YOU ARE ALL IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS
 
MonicaRose said:
Hello everyone,

First of all I want to say I am praying for everyone here. For patience, trust and perseverance led by example from St. Monica! :gopray:

Also, a little update, my husband has a temporary job now, and a possible interview for a full-time position later this month. Thank you all so much for your prayers! He seems to be feeling so much better now that he is busy with work and not moping around the house all day! Things are looking up! I see God’s work!

We were up at a YMCA camp here in the mountains for a family reunion and DH, DD and I went on a hike just the three of us-which hardly ever happens, it was so nice!!

I also had my first peek at our little bun in the oven last week, and everything is going well there also! 😃

:blessyou: YOU ARE ALL IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS
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Glad to hear the good news. 😃
When are you due?

DH still hasn’t found a job. It’s really wearing on us – emotionally and financially. He wants to be out working, taking care of us, and I want to be home, taking care of us. We just want to switch – God, please let that happen soon! :crossrc:

We’re moving to a new office at the end of this week, and I fear it will be the perfect time for them to let me go. The boss told us all last week that none of our jobs are safe right now, and since I’ve been here the shortest amount of time, I fear it’ll be me who gets let go first. Everyone here is the only person who does their particular job except my direct supervisor (who the boss loves and who has been here far longer than I have) and I, who do the same job. Couple all that with being pregnant and it’s logical I’d be the first one to go…while I’d be thrilled to get out of here, we’d really be desperate then b/c that would mean no income, no benefits, etc.

It’s in God’s hands I guess.
 
St Monica please intercede for all our husbands and our marriages with the faithfulness you had in prayer for your husband and son.
Remembering all in my prayers and Masses.
 
My brother, who is a pastor, has told me that God’s timing is perfect, and that when my husband comes to the Lord it will be far better for having taken as long as it has then if he had come to the Lord years ago. I take heart in that because I know that God is infinitely wiser than I am and cares much more about my husband’s salvation that I do.

This gives me such hope. I pray for my husband daily. His name is Al. He was baptized Catholic and went through the motions growing up because his grandma made sure of it. No help from his parents. He says he’s Catholic, but I’m lucky to get him to church on the weekends that he isn’t working. I know God’s timing IS perfect, but sometimes it’s hard to be patient. I’m so glad for this thread!
 
Maria25 said:
My brother, who is a pastor, has told me that God’s timing is perfect, and that when my husband comes to the Lord it will be far better for having taken as long as it has then if he had come to the Lord years ago. I take heart in that because I know that God is infinitely wiser than I am and cares much more about my husband’s salvation that I do.

This gives me such hope. I pray for my husband daily. His name is Al. He was baptized Catholic and went through the motions growing up because his grandma made sure of it. No help from his parents. He says he’s Catholic, but I’m lucky to get him to church on the weekends that he isn’t working. **I know God’s timing IS perfect, but sometimes it’s hard to be patient. **I’m so glad for this thread!
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Yeah, that’s where I am. I’m so tired. 😦
 
Ladies:

I’m really in a pickle. I would like to leave dh. I have tried for 21 years to be a good wife/mother. I have done nothing immoral (I have a clear conscience). Yet, dh continues to hurt me emotionally…cruel words. As you probably know through my other posts, I have a few severe illnesses. DH makes fun of them and tells me I make them up or that I use them as excuses to not have to do anything. (That’s why I’ve had several surgeries…I made them up!) Anyway, I have talked to several priests. They all say keep praying. I just can’t. I don’t want to pray for him anymore. My children are hurting terribly. I don’t have the strength to keep fighting for the marriage. But, I have no means of supporting myself nor the kids. I don’t think that if I left him he would take care of any of us financially. He’s very self-centered. He is certainly not the man I married. I don’t know why he has changed so much. Please, I ask all of you to discern what I should do…not that there’s much I can do. I need something to hold on to … some piece of hope. Thanks, girls! Praying for all of you. 😦 😦
 
mom4truth said:
Ladies:

I’m really in a pickle. I would like to leave dh. I have tried for 21 years to be a good wife/mother. I have done nothing immoral (I have a clear conscience). Yet, dh continues to hurt me emotionally…cruel words. As you probably know through my other posts, I have a few severe illnesses. DH makes fun of them and tells me I make them up or that I use them as excuses to not have to do anything. (That’s why I’ve had several surgeries…I made them up!) Anyway, I have talked to several priests. They all say keep praying. I just can’t. I don’t want to pray for him anymore. My children are hurting terribly. I don’t have the strength to keep fighting for the marriage. But, I have no means of supporting myself nor the kids. I don’t think that if I left him he would take care of any of us financially. He’s very self-centered. He is certainly not the man I married. I don’t know why he has changed so much. Please, I ask all of you to discern what I should do…not that there’s much I can do. I need something to hold on to … some piece of hope. Thanks, girls! Praying for all of you. 😦 😦
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M4T, I’m so sorry you’re hurting so badly. Please consider seeing a marriage counselor, even if your husband does not join you. It will help you to talk about these problems with a trained counselor, and will also help you to discern what you should do with this marriage, whether or not it’s worth fighting for. I am praying for you.

You should also consider speaking with a spiritual director. Call your parish secretary and ask if they have any references for you.

Don’t stop praying for your husband. I know you don’t want to pray for him. Do it anyway. God bless you. I love you. ❤️
 
Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
 
BeeSweet said:
M4T, I’m so sorry you’re hurting so badly. Please consider seeing a marriage counselor, even if your husband does not join you. It will help you to talk about these problems with a trained counselor, and will also help you to discern what you should do with this marriage, whether or not it’s worth fighting for. I am praying for you.

You should also consider speaking with a spiritual director. Call your parish secretary and ask if they have any references for you.

Don’t stop praying for your husband. I know you don’t want to pray for him. Do it anyway. God bless you. I love you. ❤️
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M4T, BeeSweet said it best. I think all her suggestions are great. (((((((((((M4T)))))))))))
So sorry things are the way they are. 😦 I’ll remember you in my chaplet of Divine Mercy today and my Rosary tomorrow morning.

Just this morning I was glancing at this verse taped to my computer at work:

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.”
~Jeremiah 29:11

As I read those familiar words I wondered, are they true? Things seem bleak for me right now (in different ways than for you). A voice in my head said, “don’t be silly, of course they’re true!” I don’t understand why God is allowing many of us the sadness and trials we’re in, but we must cling to Him and believe something good is ahead if we can just get through them.

Another verse on my desk:

“Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that God has promised.”
~Hebrews 10:36

My patience is just about gone, as I’m sure yours is. But maybe just one more day of patience is all that He’s asking of us…we have to try to trust Him I guess. :hug1:

St. Monica, please hear the heartfelt prayers of those gathered here. You know the pain many here experience – please petition our Lord for His grace and comfort to come to us while in our trials, and give us your confidence and commitment to do what we need to do. Amen.
 
mom4truth said:
Ladies:

I’m really in a pickle. I would like to leave dh. I have tried for 21 years to be a good wife/mother. I have done nothing immoral (I have a clear conscience). Yet, dh continues to hurt me emotionally…cruel words. As you probably know through my other posts, I have a few severe illnesses. DH makes fun of them and tells me I make them up or that I use them as excuses to not have to do anything. (That’s why I’ve had several surgeries…I made them up!) Anyway, I have talked to several priests. They all say keep praying. I just can’t. I don’t want to pray for him anymore. My children are hurting terribly. I don’t have the strength to keep fighting for the marriage. But, I have no means of supporting myself nor the kids. I don’t think that if I left him he would take care of any of us financially. He’s very self-centered. He is certainly not the man I married. I don’t know why he has changed so much. Please, I ask all of you to discern what I should do…not that there’s much I can do. I need something to hold on to … some piece of hope. Thanks, girls! Praying for all of you. 😦 :(/QUOTE

Sometimes its easier to pray from a distance. Do you have family or someone who would let you and the kids come to stay temporarily? This would remove you and the kids from the constant stress you seem to be under while you follow some of the other suggestions–see a marriage counselor, talk to a spiritual director, pray…It could also serve as a wake up call to your husband if you show him that there is a limit to what you will endure.
If you do get to the point of separating from him on a permanent basis, check with the local YWCA, if you have one, about whether there are any displaced homemakers programs in your area. Our local community college had such a program at one time…it has another name now, but it serves the same purpose. It’s a program that helps a woman look at her options in terms of education and career. Your state unemployment office may also have similar programs. Our state UE department has free workshops for people that address everything from self-esteem to writing resumes and interviewing.
I will continue to pray for you.
Mary, Seat of Wisdom, Pray for Us!
Jennifer
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mom4truth,

You’ve offered me such wonderful words in recent times, I would like to offer you what I can from a man’s perspective. It’s not as spiritual as things you have offered me, but here goes.

Almost all men hurt women emotionally with cruel words at some point or another. It is the way men are vs. women. That is not to say you are not absolutely correct about how much those words hurt. Things build up in a man’s mind, then he unleases cruel words when he is frustrated with a situation and doesn’t know how to make things better.

I would think that if you were to tell your husband that you are leaving him if he continues with such cruel words, and without any provocation, that he would feel bad and apologize, if he still loves you.

I don’t know of his financial capabilities, but I can assure you that the courts would work in your favor if you desire.

One thing… he is the man you married. He may have changed, but it was with you. My soon-ex said that to me. She had no conception that, yes, I wasn’t myself for awhile… maybe it was because I was putting forth extreme efforts to make a better home for her and our family and it was headache after headache… maybe it was because I had lost my father and two uncles within the prior year and a half. Maybe it was because she couldn’t cooperate on any issue. Maybe it was because she couldn’t handle a simple task we had agreed upon. In my case, I know her statement came from the fact that she wasn’t holding up her end of the agreement and made my life harder rather than complimenting me. That’s what a man wants, even if you are unable to do so.

I bet if you tell him, you can’t do certain things for your personal reasons, but remind him of what you have done over so many years, and that you love your children and want him to remain a close part of their lives… and instead of telling him you want out, try telling him, at least once, that you “need” him in your lives. Even if that is an exaggeration, that is probably what he wants to hear right now.

My hope is that you can remain together. My perspective is that you ask him what he wants from you to make him stop the cruel words and make him feel good again about your marriage. If you can make an agreement that can make you both happy, then that is the answer from a man’s point of view. Be loving and don’t do anything that is unloving until you try to come to a new and updated understanding of each other, if possible.

If none of the above helps, then he is not a good man any longer.

I heard this yesterday: “The love that you withhold is the pain that you carry lifetime after lifetime”
mom4truth said:
Ladies:

I’m really in a pickle. I would like to leave dh. I have tried for 21 years to be a good wife/mother. I have done nothing immoral (I have a clear conscience). Yet, dh continues to hurt me emotionally…cruel words. As you probably know through my other posts, I have a few severe illnesses. DH makes fun of them and tells me I make them up or that I use them as excuses to not have to do anything. (That’s why I’ve had several surgeries…I made them up!) Anyway, I have talked to several priests. They all say keep praying. I just can’t. I don’t want to pray for him anymore. My children are hurting terribly. I don’t have the strength to keep fighting for the marriage. But, I have no means of supporting myself nor the kids. I don’t think that if I left him he would take care of any of us financially. He’s very self-centered. He is certainly not the man I married. I don’t know why he has changed so much. Please, I ask all of you to discern what I should do…not that there’s much I can do. I need something to hold on to … some piece of hope. Thanks, girls! Praying for all of you. 😦 😦
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Wow. I haven’t read the entire thread (it’s LONG!) but I have read enough to realize I’m not the only person talking to St. Monica. I’m not married anymore but my sons have both become atheists like their father. It amazes me that they’ve barely seen him in the last 20 years, but they’re so much more like him than like me. One no longer speaks to me, for some pretty lame reasons, but there you are. The other one and his wife cannot hold a job for more than a few weeks. They’re an enormous financial drain.

I’m adding all you guys to my Chaplet of Divine Mercy. I have a pretty long commute, frequently an hour or more because of how messed up the traffic is on our interstates, and I say it every day on the way home from work. I started saying it about 18 months ago, for the unemployed one to get a job and the non-speaking one to come back to the family. Since then I’ve added a lot of unemployed young people (unemployment among the 20 & 30 somethings is epidemic) and people who have rejected God, and for all the people who are losing their homes. I had to stop trying to name them all, and just let God keep the list. Please keep me and my boys in your prayers too.
 
St Monica please intercede for all our husbands and our marriages with the faithfulness you had in prayer for your husband and son.
Remembering all in my prayers and Masses.
 
daeve said:
Wow. I haven’t read the entire thread (it’s LONG!) but I have read enough to realize I’m not the only person talking to St. Monica. I’m not married anymore but my sons have both become atheists like their father. It amazes me that they’ve barely seen him in the last 20 years, but they’re so much more like him than like me. One no longer speaks to me, for some pretty lame reasons, but there you are. The other one and his wife cannot hold a job for more than a few weeks. They’re an enormous financial drain.

I’m adding all you guys to my Chaplet of Divine Mercy. I have a pretty long commute, frequently an hour or more because of how messed up the traffic is on our interstates, and I say it every day on the way home from work. I started saying it about 18 months ago, for the unemployed one to get a job and the non-speaking one to come back to the family. Since then I’ve added a lot of unemployed young people (unemployment among the 20 & 30 somethings is epidemic) and people who have rejected God, and for all the people who are losing their homes. I had to stop trying to name them all, and just let God keep the list. Please keep me and my boys in your prayers too.
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Welcome daeve – sorry you’re here but glad to have you here. 😉 You’ll be included in all our prayers too. :hug1:

Thank you for your prayers for the unemployed – my DH happens to be one of them (not for lack of trying though!). 😦
 
Hello there guys and gals. I am reading everything, and still praying for all of the personal intentions, but i have been so sore lately that i have hardly been able to sit at the computer long. We went to Marineland in Niagara Falls, and the walking was just way to much for my ankles. So i over compensated in the way i was walking. Needless to say, the next day i was so swollen and continuosly got charly horses every 5 minutes. This is a few days latter, and walking only hurts for the first 10 steps maybe.

All is well family wise…i know you girls worry, as i do…so update i did.

Love you all, pray for you all…God bless…Diana, we miss you!

Lana
 
St Monica please intercede for all our husbands and our marriages with the faithfulness you had in prayer for your husband and son.
Remembering all in my prayers and Masses.

St Monica, so many of those who post in this thread are having such a difficult time and have a lot of pain in their hearts and lives. Please pray for each of them with all your spirit.
 
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