St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

[Rammy]

Hi everyone,

I’m praying for all of you!!

Mother of hope, in the darkness of Holy Saturday you journeyed with unfailing trust towards the dawn of Easter. Grant that your children may discern at all times, even those that are darkest, the signs of God’s loving presence.

Can you elaborate on what you have said…teach me please. I have a lot of experience with praying and being on my own, but i do not know the calander, or schedule you speak of. Easter is in the spring, and this is the fall…

Lana

Please excuse my ignorance, but replace it with my desire to learn.

 

[Pixie_Dust]

Can you elaborate on what you have said…teach me please. I have a lot of experience with praying and being on my own, but i do not know the calander, or schedule you speak of. Easter is in the spring, and this is the fall…

Lana

Please excuse my ignorance, but replace it with my desire to learn.

Nothing to do with the calendar, honey. :hug3: Holy Saturday before the first Easter Sunday was likely the darkest day in Mother Mary’s life, yet she still looked with trust and hope to His Resurrection. In the same way, we have our “darkest days” and we pray for the same trust and hope that we will have our own Resurrection morning-like joy one day. Make sense?

 

[Belle10]

That is very inspiring…especially in a world where so many others belittle the act they can not see…patience, and endurance. Too much is pointed in the, “what, no answer, ok, lets move on”.

A wonderful member of this forum named Brotherhrolf inspired me in the RPG(role playing game) threads and club house threads. We were intermingling our daily life struggles with a quest for the holy grail. For the life of me i could not understand why in this game it was not attainable. He assured me that that is the means to the end of the thread, but the joy, and the lesson would lie in the journey. Always look and listen along the way, and discuss as much of what you ponder and wonder, with your maker…there in lies the joy in the journey, and where endurance and patience are but friends.

Lana

I think maybe we’re given some of our crosses to bear so that we can, as part of God’s master plan, pray for and encourage one another along the journey. I’m sure one day we’ll all celebrate together in heaven with St. Monica!

Hi everyone,

I’m praying for all of you!!

Mother of hope, in the darkness of Holy Saturday you journeyed with unfailing trust towards the dawn of Easter. Grant that your children may discern at all times, even those that are darkest, the signs of God’s loving presence.

Thank you for this beautiful prayer!

Nothing to do with the calendar, honey. :hug3: Holy Saturday before the first Easter Sunday was likely the darkest day in Mother Mary’s life, yet she still looked with trust and hope to His Resurrection. In the same way, we have our “darkest days” and we pray for the same trust and hope that we will have our own Resurrection morning-like joy one day. Make sense?

Beat me to it!

 

[Rammy]

Nothing to do with the calendar, honey. :hug3: Holy Saturday before the first Easter Sunday was likely the darkest day in Mother Mary’s life, yet she still looked with trust and hope to His Resurrection. In the same way, we have our “darkest days” and we pray for the same trust and hope that we will have our own Resurrection morning-like joy one day. Make sense?

So when is the first Easter Sunday and i am assuming that this Dark Saturday is the day before this. Is this after his crucifixion, and before the resurection…as she waited?

It is an awful feeling when a mother looses a child to death, no matter the rank, or age of this occurance. I clearly knew he (my son) was going somewhere when he died. However, we did not panick in the absence of the other, we simply did so much together as a team that i knew he took much comfort at me attendingthe 24/7 watch over any of his hospital visits.

We learned through his terminal illness not to worry, educate through questions, and deal with all issues together…man he could talk. Sooo curious how each and everything efected his longevity, soul, and life. So when he left, it was the unknown for him, with no one to help him get settled.

As a mother i wondered, was he scared, was he lost, does he know what to do, who will help him, and why can it not be me? I had prommised God at the very moment they were reviving him, just let me bring him to his room, or where he has to go, and i can see his eyes not full of fear, then i will Go. I will not change, or even ask to change anything…just let me finish the job and send him off to -]university/-] heaven.

So when i watched THEPASSION OF THE CHRIST at the theater release time, only two months after my sons death, and we had plans on seeing it together…it was sooooo hard. Please do not think my son is better or equal to Jesus himself, but see this as a mother vs son comment.

I identified with Mother Mary for the VERY first time in my life as a person intimately. I KNEW what she was thinking, and feeling as she watched helplessly as the life was going out of her son. I KNEW the feeling of watching life be so difficult for him prior to this, yet watch him do the right thing, no matter the cost to him…he would simply do his fathers bidding with love, and much ridicule from society.

I knew he was finally in a safe place, would never live the breathing pain and exhaustion he did in life, he could run and do what ever he wanted now…and i know he’d want to be a part of the defences of heaven, as well as at his friends heels to help them cope.

God was the best and only person i could unconditionally trust with my sons life besides my own father, who raised him to be the spiritual pillar he was, yet still a kid…

But i still live this…every single day, every single time i see another child of his age, teen boys going to the beach, school uniforms, and an oxygen tank tells so much.

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http://media.collegepublisher.com/m...w.facingthechallenge.org/images/caviezel1.jpg

http://shalomshalom.files.wordpress.com/2008/02/22.jpg

 

[Belle10]

So when i watched THEPASSION OF THE CHRIST …

I identified with Mother Mary for the VERY first time in my life as a person intimately.

:hug1:

I’ve definitely grown closer to Mary since I’ve been a mother. I think God made it that way on purpose – so that we could look for her aid in the miseries and joys of motherhood.

http://shalomshalom.files.wordpress.com/2008/02/22.jpg

This is beautiful! :crying: Thank you for sharing it!

 

[Pixie_Dust]

So when is the first Easter Sunday and i am assuming that this Dark Saturday is the day before this. Is this after his crucifixion, and before the resurection…as she waited?

Yes! Exactly! After Her Son was crucified and she saw Him buried…well, the picture you posted expresses it beautifully. Even though she had heard Him say that He would rise again on the third day, she still grieved His death like any good mother would, and possibly had those nagging doubts, “What if He doesn’t come back?” Well, then came Sunday and there He was, in all His Glory! :dancing:

It is an awful feeling when a mother looses a child to death, no matter the rank, or age of this occurance. I clearly knew he (my son) was going somewhere when he died. However, we did not panick in the absence of the other, we simply did so much together as a team that i knew he took much comfort at me attendingthe 24/7 watch over any of his hospital visits.

We learned through his terminal illness not to worry, educate through questions, and deal with all issues together…man he could talk. Sooo curious how each and everything efected his longevity, soul, and life. So when he left, it was the unknown for him, with no one to help him get settled.

As a mother i wondered, was he scared, was he lost, does he know what to do, who will help him, and why can it not be me? I had prommised God at the very moment they were reviving him, just let me bring him to his room, or where he has to go, and i can see his eyes not full of fear, then i will Go. I will not change, or even ask to change anything…just let me finish the job and send him off to -]university/-] heaven.

So when i watched THEPASSION OF THE CHRIST at the theater release time, only two months after my sons death, and we had plans on seeing it together…it was sooooo hard. Please do not think my son is better or equal to Jesus himself, but see this as a mother vs son comment.

I identified with Mother Mary for the VERY first time in my life as a person intimately. I KNEW what she was thinking, and feeling as she watched helplessly as the life was going out of her son. I KNEW the feeling of watching life be so difficult for him prior to this, yet watch him do the right thing, no matter the cost to him…he would simply do his fathers bidding with love, and much ridicule from society.

I knew he was finally in a safe place, would never live the breathing pain and exhaustion he did in life, he could run and do what ever he wanted now…and i know he’d want to be a part of the defences of heaven, as well as at his friends heels to help them cope.

God was the best and only person i could unconditionally trust with my sons life besides my own father, who raised him to be the spiritual pillar he was, yet still a kid…

But i still live this…every single day, every single time i see another child of his age, teen boys going to the beach, school uniforms, and an oxygen tank tells so much.

http://a69.g.akamai.net/n/69/10688/...cmedia/medias/nmedia/18/35/22/44/18375168.jpg

http://media.collegepublisher.com/m...w.facingthechallenge.org/images/caviezel1.jpg

http://shalomshalom.files.wordpress.com/2008/02/22.jpg

Your very own Easter Sunday will come soon*, when you see your beloved son again in Glory. I imagine he’ll be standing right next to Jesus to welcome you Home.

*Don’t know if you’ve read the Narnia books, but in one of them, The Last Battle, I believe, Aslan says, “All times are soon.” I’m not saying you’re going to drop dead in the next week, or anything like that, please don’t take it that way!!!

 

[Rammy]

There is and was always a plan…Look at the pain and suffering Christ went through, and his mother watching as best she could to support him and he knew he was never alone.

My son was born of a very brutal rapeing on my wedding night and honeymoon. I knew when i was pregnant, we needed each other, and it would not be easy.

My son struggled for air for almost 20 years, and with blue fingers and toes, and a smile with almost blackis purple lips, he would smile and see the gift in the day, and other days pray for a coupe de grace.

And now he sits in heaven, and i will see him again some day, only because of the pain all others before him have endured. He suffered willingly to be close to god, and now he is closer still.

So do i wish it happened any other way…no, but i still ache to hold him one more time and express what i tried so hard to conciel to be strong for him…my tears. I ache wondering if he seen this as a hardness, and of course…did i do everything i could, does he know i loved him so?

Yes, the time between the end of life and the eternal hug with be littered with dark nights missing him so.

Lana

 

[Belle10]

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(personal intentions)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

So, tomorrow I’ll be visiting the National Shrine of The Divine Mercy (thedivinemercy.org/) and celebrating St. Faustina’s feast day. :bounce: I’ll remember all of you in my prayers there tomorrow. I would highly recommend praying the chaplet of Divine Mercy for your spouses and children – it’s been such a blessing for me (us).

 

[La_Brown_Eyes]

Belle,

I finally got a chance to visit the site you posted and found the chaplet. I LOVE IT and I will be reciting it on a daily basis.

I want to get a list of prayers that fit my current situation so that the Lord will know exactly what I am praying for. I found a few in different Catholic prayers websites but if you have any in mind, please share them with me. You are so knowledgeable regarding our religion. I am so blessed that I found this site and all of you in this particualr thread. I only pray that I can become closer to our Lord by submerging myself into my religion and learning as much as I can about it. It is such a beautiful religion that so often goes misunderstood by other religions.

Have a great time at The Nationa Shrine of the Divine Mercy. Thank you for praying for me and my family.

La Brown Eyes

 

[yessisan]

DH has gone to Mass with DD and I 4 out of the past 6 weeks. This past Sunday, my parents were visiting, and we all got up kind of late so instead of going to my regular parish, we went to another one with a slightly later Mass. After, DH said he liked that church/priest much better, just felt more comfortable there…so I think I’ll be switching parishes soon! I love my parish, but if DH is more comfortable at the other one, that’s what’s more important…Mass is Mass no matter where you are, and I am secure in my beliefs while he is searching. (As many of you know, he’s not Catholic.)

Baby steps are good…

Wow Belle! I haven’t kept up w/this thread even though I’m subscribed to it. Those are great news!!! I pray he becomes more and more interested until he swims across the Tiber!!!

I just wish DH would be like that. Not even the death of our second child has done that. He won’t even go to the blessing my Pastor is going to give me and I doubt very much he’ll go to the little ceremony the cemetary is giving my little Monica (named after Saint Monica on purpose)… with Julian he didn’t want to go to speak to my pastor about the loss, this time he said no way too I just wish this would bring him closer to coming back to the Church…

 

[Trishie]

St Monica please intercede for us.
Holy Spirit please flood Your wisdom, love, and truth, and give your protection to us, to our spouses and our families.

May the angels and St Michael surround and protect you and your husbands, and bless your children

 

[Belle10]

Belle,

I finally got a chance to visit the site you posted and found the chaplet. I LOVE IT and I will be reciting it on a daily basis.

I want to get a list of prayers that fit my current situation so that the Lord will know exactly what I am praying for. I found a few in different Catholic prayers websites but if you have any in mind, please share them with me.

Have a great time at The Nationa Shrine of the Divine Mercy. Thank you for praying for me and my family.

La Brown Eyes

Oh, I’m so glad you love it too! I’ve found it to be a HUGE blessing in my life!

Our trip to the Shrine was nice. It wasn’t quite as prayerful and peaceful as I had hoped, but having a toddler I should’ve known that! Still, just being there was great, and I did get to go to confession (and DH went with us, though I think it was more b/c he knew how much I wanted him there, not really b/c he wanted to go for himself, but that’s OK).

Thanks for your prayers too! :grouphug:

As far as Catholic websites/prayers, here are a few sites I like:

– The Divine Mercy: thedivinemercy.org/ (I know you have this one, but for anyone who doesn’t)

– www.ewtn.com (go to ewtn.com/Devotionals/prayer_saint.htm for lots of great prayers, novenas, etc.)

– www.CatholiCity.com (free CDs and books – great resources here for learning more about our wonderful Catholic faith)

– Catholic Online: www.catholic.org (news, commentary, feast days/angels/saints info., etc.)

– Catholic Culture: catholicculture.org/ (similar to Catholic Online)

– The Catechism of the Catholic Church: scborromeo.org/ccc.htm (searchable by topic alphabetically, easy to use)

– Patron Saints index: catholic-forum.com/saints/patronnf.htm (I love this one – it’s easy to look up info. on saints)

Hope that helps. There are lots of others out there I’m sure…and don’t forget the great stuff on the main page of Catholic Answers!

Wow Belle! I haven’t kept up w/this thread even though I’m subscribed to it. Those are great news!!! I pray he becomes more and more interested until he swims across the Tiber!!!

I just wish DH would be like that. Not even the death of our second child has done that. He won’t even go to the blessing my Pastor is going to give me and I doubt very much he’ll go to the little ceremony the cemetary is giving my little Monica (named after Saint Monica on purpose)… with Julian he didn’t want to go to speak to my pastor about the loss, this time he said no way too I just wish this would bring him closer to coming back to the Church…

Don’t get discouraged Yessi. It’s taken a LONG time for DH to get this far, and he’s not totally there yet. We talked yesterday and he asked that I be patient as he continues his journey, because he’s trying to figure things out and doesn’t want to go to Mass, etc. for the wrong reasons. Patience is a virtue, definitely one that I lack. I’m working on it though – and in the prayer to St. Monica, it’s one of the things we ask her to help us with.

Perhaps you can ask him to go with you for Monica’s ceremony in support of you and her, and explain that you’re not looking for him to magically convert or anything, just that you need your husband with you during this time of grieving. I hope he’ll go. :hug1:

When I pray the Rosary, DH’s conversion is always one of my prayer intentions. When I pray the chaplet of Divine Mercy, I usually dedicate an entire decade to him (“For the sake of His sorrowful passion, have mercy on DH and on the whole world”) if not pray the entire thing for him. Just keep praying everyone! God does hear and answer us in His time with what he knows is best for us. Believe me, I’m still frustrated and concerned a lot too, but remember, baby steps are still steps. And, in praying for our spouses/children/family, we too become closer to God and our faith increases. As difficult as things often are, our challenges are opportunities to grow in holiness and faith in our Lord.

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(personal intentions)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

 

[Rammy]

Thanks for all the lovely helpful links Belle.
Praying for all here, as today seems a bit cold to me…
like in baren, do not know why…

Lana

 

[Trishie]

St Monica please intercede for us.
Holy Spirit please flood Your wisdom, love, and truth, and give Your protection to us, to our spouses and our families.

May the angels and St Michael surround and protect you and your husbands, and your children

 

[Belle10]

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(personal intentions)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

:grouphug:

 

[MonicaRose]

Hi everyone,

I need your prayers please. My husband’s temporary job is coming to an end, and so we are back to square one. He is back to being indifferent and even mean to me at times as he is depressed again and usually (as it feels to me) blames me for his dissatisfaction with life. Since I have faith, I am at least able to know in my heart that everything will work out to God’s plan, but he has no faith, he doesn’t have anything to fall back on when he gets into these long long depressions. Everything was going great between us during the time he was working, and I thank God for that! But I feel so sad that we are going through this again. I know my husband is not perfect, and neither am I. I think for some of us our cross is our marriage, I just ask that you pray for me to deal with it without making things worse with anger and sadness, and to pray for him to hear the words that God must be speaking in his heart.

I am praying for all of you as well!

 

[Trishie]

St Monica please intercede for us.
Holy Spirit please flood Your wisdom, love, and truth, and give your protection to us, to our spouses and our families.

May the angels and St Michael surround and protect you and your husbands, and bless your children

Lord please give Monica Rose’s husband work soon and restore their peace.

 

[Belle10]

Hi everyone,

I need your prayers please. My husband’s temporary job is coming to an end, and so we are back to square one. He is back to being indifferent and even mean to me at times as he is depressed again and usually (as it feels to me) blames me for his dissatisfaction with life. Since I have faith, I am at least able to know in my heart that everything will work out to God’s plan, but he has no faith, he doesn’t have anything to fall back on when he gets into these long long depressions. Everything was going great between us during the time he was working, and I thank God for that! But I feel so sad that we are going through this again. I know my husband is not perfect, and neither am I. I think for some of us our cross is our marriage, I just ask that you pray for me to deal with it without making things worse with anger and sadness, and to pray for him to hear the words that God must be speaking in his heart.

I am praying for all of you as well!

Prayers for your marriage and all the marriages represented here… :grouphug:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(personal intentions)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

 

[mnmom]

Monica Rose

I am praying for you and your husband during this time of need. The prayers of others on this thread really keeps me going and keeps me praying for my husband and family as well.

 

[Rammy]

Monica hun, i have felt a bit of the same pressure. My husband has nothing lined up for the next 6 months of work, and when i ask him if he has any leads, he clams up, and starts argueing.

Needless to say, i stopped asking…but how can i not wonder or be concerned?

Praying for everyone…