St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

[La_Brown_Eyes]

Lana,

Tonight I will pray for your husband and mine. I will pray that whatever it is that is bothering your husband he can talk to you about it and both together can find a solution.

I will pray that my husband find his way out of his darkness and comes home to his kids and me. I will also pray that it happens soon instead of latter since the more time goes by the less hopeful I am.

May the Lord Bless your husband, my Salvador and all husbands who are thinking of cheating on their wives, hurting their wives or leaving their families. May the Lord show them the light before it is too late.

La Brown Eyes

 

[Belle10]

Well, DH went to Mass with us for three weeks in a row, then last weekend he was out of town (so he didn’t go), and then yesterday he didn’t go with us. I was very disappointed of course, then mad, then just sad. I’m trying to remember that God’s timing is perfect, and that I need to keep praying and being an example (in other words, that I shouldn’t give in to anger and despair).

The following was posted in another thread, and it really encouraged me. I hope Liza doesn’t mind that I’m reposting it here – I just really think it might also help others.

I pray for my mother daily. She is a pro-choice, liberal, atheist. In confession one time I was confessing about being short and impatient with my mother. Father asked me some questions about the situation, and I told him that I pray for her daily for her conversion.

He said something fascinating to me - he said to stop second guessing God and assuming that He hasn’t already answered your prayer. That I may not see the answer now or in my lifetime, but that because God is outside of time and not restricted by time as we are, and that we are always told that our prayers are answered, to stop assuming that the prayer is not answered, and start thanking Him for doing so!! I never thought of it that way before, and it totally changed how I approach my prayers for her. Yes - I do still pray for her conversion, but not from a position of assuming it has not happened yet or will never happen, but from a position of wanting only the best for her, and knowing that God’s Will be done at some point, and not necessarily to my calendar.

So - something to consider and think about.

God Bless!

~Liza

(source: forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?p=4192799#post4192799))

So, I’m going to try praying with a thankful heart instead of a despairing one. I think that’s part of faith.

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(personal intentions)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

 

[Belle10]

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(personal intentions)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

 

[Rammy]

So busy this week sorting some things out and getting rid of some smaller clothes of the girls…

Ma always said, you have to make a mess to clean!

so true!!

praying for all, and their DH, and children…

Lana

 

[Belle10]

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(personal intentions)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Ma always said, you have to make a mess to clean!

So true!

 

[HalfOfAWhole]

Hi ladies!

Here’s a new laugh for you all. My so-called “wife” continues her scams and schemes. She was somehow able to get a sheriff to issue a warrant out on me for…

Speaking to my realtor!!! I am not kidding.

The charge reads that I inquired about her through a third party, which is the realtor!! And I never even inquired about her!! And when did inquiring about someone become a bad thing anyway? This woman has certainly been taken over by Satan.

The good news is that nothing she does angers me any longer. I’ve got so much support around me with family and friends that I once again feel strong.

One of my beautiful female friends came with me to my last court date for support. Oh the look she got from the “wife”. That will give the nutcase “wife” something to needlessly ponder about for awhile!!! lol

I would ask for forgiveness, but I’ve done nothing wrong.

 

[Trishie]

God bless you all and may He help you and your spouses in your difficulties. My heart goes our to you when I read some of the troubles you battle with. You’re wonderful people

 

[Belle10]

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(personal intentions)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

 

[peacefulpainter]

Hi,
thank you for understanding that I do not want advice or lectures.
I am not sure why my case triggers that and I do not feel like analyzing that question.
i just need prayers to know what my role is with my husband. he and I were not married in the church, and i am elibible to remarry in the church if we divorce.
only i will know when and if I do divorce him.
I am feeling on the fence regarding the whole thing and ask for strength in raising my little girls and being a good mom.
if he does move back and gets help, not in that order… he needs help first…
we would have to have our marriage blessed for him to even be able to live with me acc. to the church guidelines.
that is very important to me.
i would not want to stop going to communion.
he does not answer my emails, well, he writes an email now and then but he does not really comment on my email.
he instant messaged last week or so, when he was at an aunts house, after the uncle died.
no one told me, the entire family was down there, but not one told me .
these little girls are their kin, but youd never guess it.
it hurts me, and makes me feel alien.
i pray sometimes thatGod send me a new partner,
i know that sounds terrible,
but 5 yrs of this separation with minimal communication, he sends no money,
the earlier part of the marriage he usually and mostly worked the night shift and then went out on his days off,
joined a biker club,
had girls calling, lived with a girl for a few years,
all in all, he is not capable of being a good husband.
to stress myself out by doing a divorce before i am ready is not easy…
i pray for guidance. and please no lectures, just pray for me.
please, no advice, and please no pity.
just pray for me.
that is all i ask for,
believe me,
it is not easy when you love someone and then see them killing themselves slowly with drink and lack of self care.
painful, sad,
helpless…
may God have mercy on me.

 

[true]

oh i don’t how to say now , i just a fresh here,

maybe i should say “god bless you”

so what is important to you?

friendship , marriage ,dating…

all is important but need the same faith!!

just meet more true catholic in www.meetcatholic.com find your answer

 

[Rammy]

Peacefulpainter…prayers going up for you.
I am not totally sure of the intention, as they
were all over the place. However, i do believe
God knows your heart best and will know
how to apply them best.

His will be done!

Lana

 

[Rammy]

oh i don’t how to say now , i just a fresh here,

maybe i should say “god bless you”

so what is important to you?

friendship , marriage ,dating…

all is important but need the same faith!!

just meet more true catholic in www.meetcatholic.com find your answer

Am i wrong, or is this a dateing post…wrong place dude!

Lana

 

[peacefulpainter]

i get criticized for having my thoughts “all over the place.?”
and my intention was not clear? i thought i asked you to pray for me.
is not that ok>?
? sorry but I am pretty hurt and feel really stupid now.
all i asked for was prayer.
is that not ok?
guess i may need a different prayer site.

 

[Pixie_Dust]

i get criticized for having my thoughts “all over the place.?”
and my intention was not clear?

Please don’t take it as a criticism, it wasn’t meant that way at all; and please don’t feel that you need to be on the defensive here. :hug3: We understand your pain, and want to storm the gates of Heaven for you! We are here to pray for and support each other.

i thought i asked you to pray for me.
is not that ok>?
? sorry but I am pretty hurt and feel really stupid now.
all i asked for was prayer.
is that not ok?
guess i may need a different prayer site.

It’s absolutely OK to ask for prayer here! That’s the whole purpose of this thread!

May the Peace of Christ be with you.

 

[Lamb_Serenade]

Peaceful Painter, I am praying for you…

MEMORARE

• Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary,*
• that never was it known that anyone*
• who fled to your protection, implored your help,*
• or sought your intercession, was left unaided.*
• Inspired with this confidence,*
• I fly to you, O virgin of virgins, my mother.*
• To you I come, before you I stand,*
• sinful and sorrowful.*
• O mother of the Word Incarnate!*
• Despise not my petitions, but in your mercy*
• hear and answer them. **AMEN. ***
• *

 

[Lamb_Serenade]

I just read this article posted on another forum and I knew I had to post it here. What a beautiful image for all of us here to contemplate!

ZE08091509 - 2008-09-15
Permalink: zenit.org/article-23634?l=english

**Pontiff Contemplates Mary’s Smile

Urges Afflicted to Turn Toward Our Lady**

LOURDES, France, SEPT. 15, 2008 (Zenit.org).- For those who suffer and are struggling, the strength to carry on can be found within the smile of the Virgin Mary, says Benedict XVI.

The Pope said this today at the homily he gave today, the feast of Our Lady of Sorrow, during the Mass with the sick at Rosary Square at the Marian shrine in Lourdes. Some 70,000 people participated in the Mass.

The Holy Father offered a refelction on the smile of Mary, who he called the “teacher of love.”

He noted that the tears Mary “shed at the foot of the cross have been transformed into a smile which nothing can wipe away.”

“Christians have always sought the smile of Our Lady,” Benedict XVI explained, “this smile which medieval artists were able to represent with such marvelous skill and to show to advantage.”

“This smile of Mary is for all; but it is directed quite particularly to those who suffer, so that they can find comfort and solace therein,” he said. “To seek Mary’s smile is not an act of devotional or outmoded sentimentality, but rather the proper expression of the living and profoundly human relationship which binds us to her whom Christ gave us as our Mother.”

The Pope continued: "To wish to contemplate this smile of the Virgin, does not mean letting oneself be led by an uncontrolled imagination. Scripture itself discloses it to us through the lips of Mary when she sings the Magnificat: ‘My soul glorifies the Lord, my spirit exults in God my Savior.’

“When the Virgin Mary gives thanks to the Lord, she calls us to witness. Mary shares, as if by anticipation, with us, her future children, the joy that dwells in her heart, so that it can become ours. Every time we recite the Magnificat, we become witnesses of her smile.”

Bernadette

The Holy Father said that St. Bernadette Soubirous “contemplated this smile of Mary in a most particular way” when Our Lady appeared to her.

“It was the first response that the Beautiful Lady gave to the young visionary who wanted to know who she was,” he said. “Before introducing herself, some days later, as ‘the Immaculate Conception,’ Mary first taught Bernadette to know her smile, this being the most appropriate point of entry into the revelation of her mystery.”

“In the smile of the most eminent of all creatures, looking down on us, is reflected our dignity as children of God, that dignity which never abandons the sick person,” the Pope said. " This smile, a true reflection of God’s tenderness, is the source of an invincible hope."

Benedict XVI continued: "The endurance of suffering can upset life’s most stable equilibrium, it can shake the firmest foundations of confidence, and sometimes even leads people to despair of the meaning and value of life.

“There are struggles that we cannot sustain alone, without the help of divine grace. When speech can no longer find the right words, the need arises for a loving presence: We seek then the closeness not only of those who share the same blood or are linked to us by friendship, but also the closeness of those who are intimately bound to us by faith.”

Strength

“I would like to say, humbly,” the Pope proposed, "to those who suffer and to those who struggle and are tempted to turn their backs on life: Turn toward Mary!

"Within the smile of the Virgin lies mysteriously hidden the strength to fight against sickness, in support of life. With her, equally, is found the grace to accept without fear or bitterness to leave this world at the hour chosen by God.

“In the very simple manifestation of tenderness that we call a smile, we grasp that our sole wealth is the love God bears us, which passes through the heart of her who became our Mother.”

“To seek this smile,” he said, “is first of all to have grasped the gratuitousness of love; it is also to be able to elicit this smile through our efforts to live according to the word of her Beloved Son, just as a child seeks to elicit its mother’s smile by doing what pleases her.”

I am TONIGHT going to get my beautiful picture of Mary rehung in my bedroom!

This is what mine looks like with an ornate gold frame.

http://www.catholicposters.com/shop/images/products/fullimages/1158.jpg

 

[Rammy]

i get criticized for having my thoughts “all over the place.?”
and my intention was not clear? i thought i asked you to pray for me.
is not that ok>?
? sorry but I am pretty hurt and feel really stupid now.
all i asked for was prayer.
is that not ok?
guess i may need a different prayer site.

OK, i will simply not reply again…
finished with the wineing, and complete
repremand over and over…

Shesh…

is this is ok, please!

Ok, will i ask the lord for your intentions to stay together…
Or may i assume you are not asking this, and ask the lord to
what…i am not a cookie cutter prayer warrior…slip a hail marry in here and no brain used to actually use for communication with my Lord…just a drop a thought at his feet and run…

Shesh, i need meds to get over this!

Now pray for me befor i blow a vein in my forhead…

This means to ask god to not let me get so upset as to endanger myself…This does not mean to ask some one to copy and paste a prayer and drop it off in the complaint box at the perly gates…

OMG…lets assess the gift of prayer and stop this please!

Ok, my turn to be hurt, is that ok…

not to worry hun, i won’t be back!

Lana

 

[Trishie]

Dear Lana, I wrote you a message but it seems your private box quota is full, so I’ve saved my reply to my documents and will send it another time… You are in my heart and prayers.

My sisters we are all so very vulnerable and some of us sometimes let off steam or maybe some of us misunderstand each other sometimes, because one way or other we’re all carrying about as much as we can handle…but we all mean the best, we all are good hearted.

I don’t say much on this thread, just pray here, but sometimes I feel bowled over by what you each are dealing with in your lives, and how generous and courageous you all are…but we all have our moments, and that’s okay, it’s human. God bless each of you. I really look forward to meeting you in heaven someday.
Love you…Trishie

 

[Lamb_Serenade]

As spouses who either are or have endured difficulties in our marriages and relationships with varying degrees of “bad”, we can all relate to the deep wounded nature of struggling to deal with the pain. At it’s worst, we cower in a corner with fear, anger and in deep pain over the agony inflicted on us by someone who is suppose to love us with all their heart. We are like an injured animal that you have to use extreme caution in approaching. An animal who is in danger of lashing out and attacking or biting another with little provocation.

Those who are still in this state can relate all too well. Those who have fought out of it need only turn around and remember we were that wounded. We need to remember this because some come here who are equally wounded or God forbid, worse. First in line is love and prayers. Giving a person a sense of belonging, sympathy and empathy. If prayers are asked for, we need to storm heaven with an abundance of prayers and relate to our new friends we know from where they come.

This thread was begun as a prayer so we need to always turn to prayer for ourselves and for those who come here. We have all become very good friends through the pain. We have enjoyed victories and we have soothed the other in difficult times. I cherish each of you for the comfort you have given me, and I’m sure I will be partaking again and again of the love and comfort you all have to offer.

For those of you who are reading this thread for the first time, I strongly encourage you to begin at the beginning. You don’t necessarily have to read in detail all of the posts, but those of us who are active in the thread have posted our stories, have shared our victories and our defeats.

Someone is always in the process of praying the Novena at any given time. Many post their prayers as they say them and the prayer we use is a beautiful one that was written specifically for spouses who are struggling with their marriages.

For myself, sometimes a spontaneous prayer is too difficult or too painful to pull out of myself, and I will fall back on some of the traditional prayers we as Catholics have prayed for centuries like the Memorare or the St. Michael prayer. These two are prayers I am very fond of because they help me to pray for myself as well as others. St. Michael is a reminder to us to remembering the dark one satan always dwells among us and we need to pray against him always. Very often he is the root of our problem and if we pray the St. Michael prayer, we are casting satan off of and out of our lives.

I pray for all of you to have peace in your hearts. May our Beloved Savior Jesus heal you so you may know what it is to have that peace. May God wrap you in His loving embrace my dear dear friends!

 

[Belle10]

i get criticized for having my thoughts “all over the place.?”
and my intention was not clear? i thought i asked you to pray for me.
is not that ok>?
? sorry but I am pretty hurt and feel really stupid now.
all i asked for was prayer.
is that not ok?
guess i may need a different prayer site.

If I might also try to help…I don’t think anyone was criticizing you, I think Lana just meant that she wasn’t sure exactly what you were asking prayer for (reconciliation with your husband, discernment if you should divorce, etc.). Lana prays for people specifically depending on what they have posted, and I think she was just unsure of what to ask God for for you, see?

Also, we in this thread (well, many of us, though not all) share the details of our lives and ask for advice and prayers and enjoy the fellowship. If you only want prayer, that’s fine, you got it. Just know that many of us are used to commenting on each others’ posts because we’ve gotten to “know” each other a bit.

I just read this article posted on another forum and I knew I had to post it here. What a beautiful image for all of us here to contemplate!

I am TONIGHT going to get my beautiful picture of Mary rehung in my bedroom!

This is what mine looks like with an ornate gold frame.

http://www.catholicposters.com/shop/images/products/fullimages/1158.jpg

Great article, beautiful picture! Thanks for sharing!

OK, i will simply not reply again…
finished with the wineing, and complete
repremand over and over…

Shesh…

Ok, my turn to be hurt, is that ok…

not to worry hun, i won’t be back!

Lana

Lana, don’t get upset. I think it was a misunderstanding, and I and others have tried to help explain. Please stay, keep praying, keep sharing! :hug1:

I don’t say much on this thread, just pray here, but sometimes I feel bowled over by what you each are dealing with in your lives, and how generous and courageous you all are…but we all have our moments, and that’s okay, it’s human. God bless each of you. I really look forward to meeting you in heaven someday.
Love you…Trishie

Ditto!

As spouses who either are or have endured difficulties in our marriages and relationships with varying degrees of “bad”, we can all relate to the deep wounded nature of struggling to deal with the pain. At it’s worst, we cower in a corner with fear, anger and in deep pain over the agony inflicted on us by someone who is suppose to love us with all their heart. We are like an injured animal that you have to use extreme caution in approaching. An animal who is in danger of lashing out and attacking or biting another with little provocation.

Those who are still in this state can relate all too well. Those who have fought out of it need only turn around and remember we were that wounded. We need to remember this because some come here who are equally wounded or God forbid, worse. First in line is love and prayers. Giving a person a sense of belonging, sympathy and empathy. If prayers are asked for, we need to storm heaven with an abundance of prayers and relate to our new friends we know from where they come.

This thread was begun as a prayer so we need to always turn to prayer for ourselves and for those who come here. We have all become very good friends through the pain. We have enjoyed victories and we have soothed the other in difficult times. I cherish each of you for the comfort you have given me, and I’m sure I will be partaking again and again of the love and comfort you all have to offer.

For those of you who are reading this thread for the first time, I strongly encourage you to begin at the beginning. You don’t necessarily have to read in detail all of the posts, but those of us who are active in the thread have posted our stories, have shared our victories and our defeats.

Someone is always in the process of praying the Novena at any given time. Many post their prayers as they say them and the prayer we use is a beautiful one that was written specifically for spouses who are struggling with their marriages.

For myself, sometimes a spontaneous prayer is too difficult or too painful to pull out of myself, and I will fall back on some of the traditional prayers we as Catholics have prayed for centuries like the Memorare or the St. Michael prayer. These two are prayers I am very fond of because they help me to pray for myself as well as others. St. Michael is a reminder to us to remembering the dark one satan always dwells among us and we need to pray against him always. Very often he is the root of our problem and if we pray the St. Michael prayer, we are casting satan off of and out of our lives.

I pray for all of you to have peace in your hearts. May our Beloved Savior Jesus heal you so you may know what it is to have that peace. May God wrap you in His loving embrace my dear dear friends!

Very well said. :clapping:

Praying for everyone here.