St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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Job woes seem to be the theme of the day…because I may lose my job today.

I’m unhappy and want to be home with our DD (and son when he is born) but right now I’m our only source of income and insurance, so if I lose this job it won’t be good. Please pray that if I lose this job that my DH will be offered a great job right away so that we’ll be OK.

Thank you all for your prayers and compassion.

I just don’t know what else to do…I want to just quit but I can’t. :crying:
 
Belle, this is the third time I’ve seen you today. And this is my first day here! I guess I’m meant to pray for you in a most special way.

I would like to add my husband to the list. He’s not yet in full communion with our beloved church. Thanks for your prayers I’ll pray for you too.
 
Praying for you Belle and all the wives and husbands on this thread!

Blessings,
Judi
 
prayingwife said:
Belle, this is the third time I’ve seen you today. And this is my first day here! I guess I’m meant to pray for you in a most special way.

I would like to add my husband to the list. He’s not yet in full communion with our beloved church. Thanks for your prayers I’ll pray for you too.
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Welcome to CAF and St. Monica’s! Glad you’re here but sorry you’re in this thread. However, it’s a wonderful little “family” here of prayer warriors!

Thank you for your prayers – I posted my prayer request in several places that I frequent, that’s why I seem to be everywhere today. :o Praying for your family too.
mom4truth said:
Praying for you Belle and all the wives and husbands on this thread!

Blessings,
Judi
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Thanks Judi – ditto. :hug1:

So, no word on the job situation yet. I really thought yesterday would be it, but not yet. Perhaps today. DH reminded me last night that no matter what happens we’ll be OK and to trust God. It’s funny how I’m always praying for him, but when I start getting down, he reminds me of exactly what I need to hear…must be the Holy Spirit. 🙂

]PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(personal intentions)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

:grouphug:
 
Belle, I’m praying for a resolution to your situation as wel!!! 🙂

I do need some advice if anyone doesn’t mind giving it…when your spouse does something that you don’t agree with (not immoral) and it hurts you, how should you react? For example, I want to give him the cold shoulder, glare at him, etc…so that he knows how I feel, however, I think “what good does that do?”…BUT I worry that if I am nice and normal, he will think I am OK with it…does anyone have experience with this? How do I let him know I am NOT ok with his actions without being a vindictive wretch?? :confused: :o
 
Hi Monica Rose,
I am not a regular poster here but I do read this thread and pray for all of us and our husbands. I just asked this exact question in confession. My confessor told my to respond with “That really hurts me”, in a loving voice. Most of the time I respond by ( in a nice way) telling him that it is not right when he says mean things to me, and when he answers me in a condescending, derogatory or harsh way. This never has worked. Instead it often ends up in a bad argument or yelling fight. I have a temper and he can do the silent treatment real well. I’m am going to try this advice from my priest and see how it works. My husband is not Christian so it sometimes I start to loose hope.
 
Jesus please help our dear sisters inthe difficulties of marriage and holding things together. Jesus you have to just love us all. We all try so hard.
 
MonicaRose said:
Belle, I’m praying for a resolution to your situation as wel!!! 🙂
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Thanks MonicaRose! :hug1:
onmyknees said:
Hi Monica Rose,
I am not a regular poster here but I do read this thread and pray for all of us and our husbands. I just asked this exact question in confession. My confessor told my to respond with “That really hurts me”, in a loving voice. Most of the time I respond by ( in a nice way) telling him that it is not right when he says mean things to me, and when he answers me in a condescending, derogatory or harsh way. This never has worked. Instead it often ends up in a bad argument or yelling fight. I have a temper and he can do the silent treatment real well. I’m am going to try this advice from my priest and see how it works. My husband is not Christian so it sometimes I start to loose hope.
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Great answer (especially since it came from your priest in the confessional, so we know it’s actually Jesus’ words!) 👍

Onmyknees, don’t lose hope. With Jesus there is always hope, down to the last second we are on this earth. 🙂 ❤️
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(personal intentions)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

:grouphug:
 
Belle10 said:
Thanks MonicaRose! :hug1:

Monica Rose wrote,
Great answer (especially since it came from your priest in the confessional, so we know it’s actually Jesus’ words!) 👍

Onmyknees, don’t lose hope. With Jesus there is always hope, down to the last second we are on this earth. 🙂 ❤️
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Thank you so much Monica Rose! I will really try to have hope. This is always hard for me. I tend to go into despair sometimes. I am going to pray real hard for all of us here. Could I ask you to pray for me to respond to my dh the way my confessor suggested cuz we have been married so long and I have such a bad habit of responding without thinking.
 
Even though I don’t post a lot, I’m always praying for everyone on this thread. We can NEVER lose hope! Lord, have mercy on us.
 
You know it seems like a lot of us are, once again, in the same place at the same time. Must be a reason for this and must be a reason we keep coming back here to sort it all out.

I’m back asking for prayers again. I am so sad and so lonely, I just can’t stop crying these days.

Three or four weeks ago I confronted DH about several issues I won’t go into here. Suffice to say they were things I had to say. After I said what I had to say, I actually stepped away and left it where it was. Something I rarely do. I’m a rant and rave kinda girl who just can’t stop trying to “explain” things in a better way. All it ever does is make me get more and more mad if I don’t think he is getting it.

Afterward, he pretty much ignored me for two or three days, and I thought fine. This time I’m not going to go to him to smooth things over or be the one who makes all the effort to build our relationship back up. I just want to know he is willing to make the effort for a change. I’m always the one who steps in even when I’m still hurting or angry. It has been so long since HE made the effort to make our marriage work. It’s always ME who is expected to be the “repairman”.

Right now I feel like he is punishing me, but I just can’t do it this time. So, in essence, we are separated again. I’m not out of our bedroom, but I’m certainly not filling the role of a spouse and neither is he. We are just roommates right now and nothing more.

So, please pray for me to have strength and perseverance to endure this lonliness and that I may see past the sadness I feel to be able to detach and let him decide to plug into the marriage WITH me.
 
Oh Lamb!

I know EXACTLY what you are going through. Probably a lot of women on this thread do. Many times have I slept in the same bed with my dh and wondered: who is this man? why is he still here? why am I still here? I’m so lonely right beside him!

Ii think women are often the fixer-uppers. Men just don’t know how to do it or what to say. OR - they just won’t - for some silly reason… Anyway, hang in there - AGAIN! We’re all praying for you that things will get better. I’ll pray your dh gets “his act together” and see the Light. All is not lost.

You will be in my prayers and at Mass with me tomorrow!

Blessings,
Judi
 
Thanks Judi, it feels good (I guess) to know someone can sympathize with me and to know I’m not alone. Yea, I know I’m not alone with all of you gals here, but sometimes a living breathing person right in front of you is what you need, right? Right now my companionship is my 6 year old DD and my 11 month old DGD. I need big people!..LOL
 
Oh Lambie!

I know what you mean. It would be so nice to feel touch of your husband next to you in bed, wouldn’t it? Sometimes we’re so far apart on the bed, I almost flip off the bed! (not really funny if you could see me roll off!) But, at least, THANK GOD, we have our children. I get so much pleasure from them. I thank God that I have both my kids. But, I agree, an adult would be nice once in awhile. Talk to me whenever you want. I’d like an adult conversation once in awhile myself!!!

Love,
Judi
 
mom4truth said:
Oh Lambie!

I know what you mean. It would be so nice to feel touch of your husband next to you in bed, wouldn’t it? Sometimes we’re so far apart on the bed, I almost flip off the bed! (not really funny if you could see me roll off!) But, at least, THANK GOD, we have our children. I get so much pleasure from them. I thank God that I have both my kids. But, I agree, an adult would be nice once in awhile. Talk to me whenever you want. I’d like an adult conversation once in awhile myself!!!

Love,
Judi
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Thanks again Judi…I may just take you up on that. I’m thankful we ONLY have our relationship to deal with. I can’t imagine dealing with health issues on top of a stubborn headed husband.
 
Jesus please help my sisters in marriage with all the issues that are difficult and painful, and help them to flourish.

St Monica please intercede for our spouses and children
 
St. Monica,

Please help me to remain in my marriage. It is SO hard. You, through Christ, know my heart. I am very lonely and discouraged. Please give me and my husband a change of heart. Through Christ our Lord. Amen. 😦
 
Mom and Lambie, i am praying for you…as well as all others here!

The lonliness of empty arms, the stranger in your bed, the aquaintance passing you in the hall, and the sibling like peck on the cheek comming home from work before he disapears in the bath and then to some secluded TV.

Where once i had followed, asked, and confronted any problems, tried with all my might, left frustrated and teary…there is a silence now…a truce of sorts, and it screams being alone.

Alone is easy when you are alone, but being together and alone is terribly difficult…like a scab constantly picked at and never quite healing.

But, in this silence i beg myself to find the possitive. My children are less tense, sleep better, husband is down to once or twice a month drinking compared to daily, and he is home more often.

For this i am grateful, while my arms ache…i must know the strength to endure this, for the better of my family right now.

I offer this up to you Lord, every ache, every pain, and most of all, every tear! Please help my family find you through this pain.

Amen
 
Rammy,

My heart just aches for you! How I feel your loneliness. But you’re right. My house is calmer too. We offer all this up to the Lord in hopes that He will bring our husbands back to us. Christ’s peace be with you and all of us. May the Good Lord have mercy on us all. Amen.

Blessings and love,
Judi
 
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