St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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I’ve been attending Mass by myself for ever since April, occasionally rotating the kids, taking them at different times. My oldest gets church during school, he’s learning a lot there. So, I just want my others to be around it all, I sometimes even take my 3yo to Adoration with me.

Yep, my DH didn’t want to be there. He’s always been like this with the kids, I just thought we had planned it all, well in advance, so he could mentally get ready for it. He’s always been like this during church, regardless of where we would go. He’s always uncomfortable with the kids and never wants to take them all together. (He’s a wimp, hahaha!)

He won’t go to church without me, he won’t go on his own. I was so upset yesterday that I even told him that I might as well put RCIA off another year, then maybe we all could go to church together, and I’m still thinking that might be a good idea.

I’m am disappointed and down and out today. Sorry.
 
He probably doesn’t realize that he’s inadvertently letting the 3 yo run his life. :rotfl: He’s training them to “just say the word and we don’t have to sit through church, 'cause Daddy will jump at the chance to leave!” My advice for next time is for you to stay put. He wouldn’t leave you stranded at church, would he? 😉

Oh, and stay in RCIA. The last thing you want to do is give the devil a foothold. 👍
Thanks!

I’ve been attending Mass by myself for ever since April, occasionally rotating the kids, taking them at different times. My oldest gets church during school, he’s learning a lot there. So, I just want my others to be around it all, I sometimes even take my 3yo to Adoration with me.

Yep, my DH didn’t want to be there. He’s always been like this with the kids, I just thought we had planned it all, well in advance, so he could mentally get ready for it. He’s always been like this during church, regardless of where we would go. He’s always uncomfortable with the kids and never wants to take them all together. (He’s a wimp, hahaha!)

He won’t go to church without me, he won’t go on his own. I was so upset yesterday that I even told him that I might as well put RCIA off another year, then maybe we all could go to church together, and I’m still thinking that might be a good idea.

I’m am disappointed and down and out today. Sorry.
 
A Big :amen: to Pixie Dust!

What’s with this person? Was she older? I’ve noticed that sometimes older people can’t take much of anything when it comes to little children. Hang in there and don’t let dh steal your joy!

mom4truth:thumbsup:
 
Well here’s my story in a nutshell. First of all I am starting RCIA class in less than an hour from now so please pray for me:)

My husband fears this will break up our family for sure. He loves the Lord very much but doesn’t understand why I can’t worship the way I was in our non-denom church. No matter how much reassuring I give that the family will not break up he still fears the worst.😦

My heart hurts so much. I don’t want to hurt my husband but I can’t turn my back on God either. St Monica pray for us:gopray:
 
Well here’s my story in a nutshell. First of all I am starting RCIA class in less than an hour from now so please pray for me:)

My husband fears this will break up our family for sure. He loves the Lord very much but doesn’t understand why I can’t worship the way I was in our non-denom church. No matter how much reassuring I give that the family will not break up he still fears the worst.😦

My heart hurts so much. I don’t want to hurt my husband but I can’t turn my back on God either. St Monica pray for us:gopray:
Well, you can tell him assuredly that Catholics don’t believe in divorce, 😃 so he’s actually got less to worry about with you becoming Catholic. 😉

Earlier this year, I read a great book called When Only One Converts. It helped prepare me for any possible scenario I was going to face when I finally got up the courage to tell dh where God was leading me. I highly recommend it to anyone who’s spouse is not “on board” with their conversion.

Also, earlier in this thread I posted a link to the Bible Christian Society. I can’t recommend his CDs often enough. Perhaps your dh will give them a listen?
 
I desperately need help regarding my dh and his attitude toward me and the children. He’s Lutheran (as I pointed out earlier - somewhere - doesn’t matter). Anyway, he is very secretive about his comings and goings but goes to his church regularly. He used to come with my two children and I before he became a spiritual friend with a woman at work. That was 4 yrs. ago. Since he has now found his faith, because of HER, we have had major difficulties. Add to the package I am in poor health. Both of my kids have difficulties with their dad and point out his flaws. I’m at my wits end. I don’t know what to do (except pray, which I do constantly). I’d really like to smack him upside the head - which I wouldn’t do, but it’s an entertaining thought. (Had to get that off my chest). So – where do I go from here? Anyone have any suggestions?

getting frustrated!!:mad: mom4truth
 
I desperately need help regarding my dh and his attitude toward me and the children. He’s Lutheran (as I pointed out earlier - somewhere - doesn’t matter). Anyway, he is very secretive about his comings and goings but goes to his church regularly. He used to come with my two children and I before he became a spiritual friend with a woman at work. That was 4 yrs. ago. Since he has now found his faith, because of HER, we have had major difficulties. Add to the package I am in poor health. Both of my kids have difficulties with their dad and point out his flaws. I’m at my wits end. I don’t know what to do (except pray, which I do constantly). I’d really like to smack him upside the head - which I wouldn’t do, but it’s an entertaining thought. (Had to get that off my chest). So – where do I go from here? Anyone have any suggestions?

getting frustrated!!:mad: mom4truth
Get to counseling, even if he won’t go with you. I’m really sorry you’re going through all of this.
 
First, thanks to everyone for their prayers, to those who have answered and to those who have just read and prayed. You have no idea how much I appreciate it, how loved it makes me feel.
Know that I am also praying for all the husbands and families lifted up in this thread.
I was so upset yesterday that I even told him that I might as well put RCIA off another year, then maybe we all could go to church together, and I’m still thinking that might be a good idea.
Please, please, please - do not put off RCIA another year. I think perhaps it was the Rosary right in his ear, rather than the children playing up, that was just the excuse he used. Next time, take the last pew so that no one can sit behind you.

The lady who sat behind you certainly saw there were children in the pew in front and chose to sit there so she was probably not bothered by them at all. In fact, seeing as how there were so many other seats available, the presence of your children may have been what decided her to sit there in the first place.

Here in our parish, we have what is called the Family Mass at 10:00am, which is the main Mass of a Sunday. The last time I went to this one, every pew had at least 4 children. Before the Liturgy of the Word, the children are all invited to the Children’s Liturgy of the Word, celebrated in the parish hall, then they return at the Offertory. Perhaps your parish has a particular Mass when families are encouraged to come en masse. Then your husband could see that your children are not disrupting/interrupting any more than any one else’s.
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My heart hurts so much. I don’t want to hurt my husband but I can’t turn my back on God either. St Monica pray for us
When I first started going to Mass, my husband refused to come with me so I had to go all on my own. I didn’t know anyone there. We had just moved to this city and I knew absolutely no one. The thing is, is that this was so important to me that I just had to go forward to God and his Church, with my husband or without him. I just kept inviting him to accompany me and not taking it personally that he continually refused.

When I first contacted the parish and had discussions with the nun who had charge of the Inquiries, I had thought that God was calling me to be a nun myself, that I would have to leave my husband and son. She quickly disabused me of that notion and said that God had placed me in this marriage and had given us children and that my vocation was there.

Perhaps you can say that God has touched you and that you are convicted in your heart that this is His Church and the place where He wants you to worship. Tell him that your joining the Church will not break up your marriage, that in fact, you want to have a Sacramental Marriage with him. As others have said - Catholics don’t believe in divorce. No one will counsel you to leave your husband. Rather, they will encourage you to bring your husband with you. If he won’t come right away, just keep praying for him and Trust in God.

Here is a link to Theology of the Body which deals with the Sacrament of Marriage. You could also get Christopher West’s book on Theology of the Body. Then you might be able to explain to him that you want to deepen your relationship, not break it up.
catholiceducation.org/articles/sexuality/se0055.html
theologyofthebody.net/
 
I desperately need help regarding my dh and his attitude toward me and the children. He’s Lutheran (as I pointed out earlier - somewhere - doesn’t matter). Anyway, he is very secretive about his comings and goings but goes to his church regularly. He used to come with my two children and I before he became a spiritual friend with a woman at work. That was 4 yrs. ago. Since he has now found his faith, because of HER, we have had major difficulties. Add to the package I am in poor health. Both of my kids have difficulties with their dad and point out his flaws. I’m at my wits end. I don’t know what to do (except pray, which I do constantly). I’d really like to smack him upside the head - which I wouldn’t do, but it’s an entertaining thought. (Had to get that off my chest). So – where do I go from here? Anyone have any suggestions?

getting frustrated!!:mad: mom4truth
I am very sorry to hear about your dh. I agree on the counseling even by yourself. It’s a start. It will help. I have done the counseling alone and found that it worked. Eventually, your husband will come around. I will be praying for you, your husband and family.
 
Mom4truth, here is my advice (take it or leave it - I am not a marriage counseler).

I think that you should perserve in your daily prayers (even if it is for a brief moment). Offer up your illnesses to Jesus, he knows your pain. You are not alone. I know fibermialga is very deblitating. I have a relative who suffers with this same disease and I see the pain in her face as she tries the most simple tasks like brushing her hair. Offer up your holy communion for the protection of your marriage.

As for this other woman, you need to pray that God gives you the strength and courage to speak to your husband about this instead of letting it fester inside of you. Trust the outcome to God (not the worst possible scenario). Be patient with your husband and let him know that it really bothers you. Let him know that you love him and trust him but remind him that she is not his wife, but that you are. His spending time with this woman might be an attack on your marriage or it could be a test. It might actually bring you both closer together.

Did you know that some couples go to two different worship services? You are allowed to go to his church, just don’t take their communion and don’t forget your own Sunday obligation. Ask him if he would like you to go with him once a month and if he says yes, then ask him to go with you once a month as a compromise. You can also keep an eye on that lady and rebuke her, if you need to.

I am still praying for you.
 
Mom4truth, Much love and prayers to you, hon. :byzsoc: :console: :hug1: You are in my rosary prayers.
 
Mom4truth,

You are on my prayers. I hope everything works out between you and your dh.
 
Wow. Today I feel totally drained. You could knock me over with a feather. 🤷 1 day left of petitioning 🙂 .
 
I am praying for ALL of you tonight! 👍

(I went to RCIA last night…so I didn’t give up)
 
I am praying for ALL of you tonight! 👍

(I went to RCIA last night…so I didn’t give up)
Good girl! :hug3: Is your dh going with you? I’m guessing not since you said “I” and not “we”. 😦
 
Good girl! :hug3: Is your dh going with you? I’m guessing not since you said “I” and not “we”. 😦
I told him that I thought he could just show up every other meeting, I could keep him educated and they would still “let him in”…he laughed and said “ya think so?”

He said that we are going to try church again Sunday morning, or maybe even Saturday evening…he’s been working so late on Saturdays and doesn’t get home until after 5, but maybe he’ll be more comfortable at the Sat. evening mass.

It would be hard for both of us to go anyway, I’d have to find someone to watch the kids, and my mom already watches them all day on Monday while I work in our business…so…
 
3rd Novena completed. 😃 Yahoo! 😃

Tomorrow I will begin novena #4 (Thanking).

There is so much I have to be thankful of. I have felt so many graces poured out specifically during the time of the petitioning. Some of them hurt :crying: but God is good. I truely hope that those of you that have been doing the novenas have also been recognizing God’s love for each one of us and the graces that come with it.

God Bless you all!

:byzsoc:
 
Way to go St Gabriel 👍

I have 3 days left in the final novena. I can’t believe it’s almost over! I agree, the graces certainly come your way when you embark on a prayer commitment such as this…
God Bless
 
Okay. My dear friends, here is my problem. I have been wanting to do this Novena for my husband for about 1 or 2 months now. The problem is…and I have to be very honest with you…And I am ashamed to say but…I am having trouble myself right now!!! I cannot, for the life of me, get myself to pray the ROSARY!!! A big part of me is calling me to do it, and I pray other prayers whether formal or just conversation prayers but I cannot, CANNOT get myself to start. I am also afraid to start because what if I cannot comit to the whole 54 days! I don’t even think I can comit to 9 days!!! This is really pathetic. I really want to do this 54 days, but just seems like I’m being lazy or something. I really need to snap out of this but a part of me tells me I don’t feel like it. What is going on with me? I go to mass every Sunday (Husband, daughter and I), go to confession regularly(daughter and I) and also go to adoration, I offer my communion up on Sundays for the conversion of my husband and I pray to Saint Monica, Saint Joseph, and our Lord, Jesus, for my husband who is even more cold towards our faith than I am, but I cannot get myself to pray the Rosary for myself, husband or daughter. I mean I will pray other types of prayers, but get lazy or sidetracked when it comes to this one. I truly believe in it and believe it is one of our biggest weapons against the enemy, but I just cannot get myself to start it none the less do it. It’s like something is holding me back or stopping me. Am I just lazy? Please tell me what you think!!! What should I do because my husband, and obviously I, and our daughter need for me to pray the Rosary for us. I know some might think, “we’ll just do it.” But it doesnt seem that easy. It’s like I can’t get myself to do it.

HELP!!!
 
Have you tried using the free program at
www.virtualrosary.org ? It’s free and fast to download and it helps you pray the rosary and divine mercy chaplet, very easy, and with the rosary mysteries included to read!
 
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