St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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This is wonderful! My husband and I are separated, and I am praying for the conversion of my husband and our marriage, that one day we will be united in our Catholic faith and one day share the Eucharist together. That would be awesome!!!

I read a book called St. Monica and her son Augustine. I highly recommend it. It is a great “true” love story. Please pray for me and my husband Jason, and know that I am praying for you.
 
thanks to those who gave me words of encouragement. and expecially thanks to all who pray for each other and me. i came here because i needed to talk to someone. each of you is someone. i have over the years had various counseling, joined alanon in '85. my sponser and i get together for lunch. daily mass and communion are my life and make each day possible. still i am lonely and crave love and affection from my husband. as i said on another post i married for better or worse. the 8 kids and the 12 grandkids are the better. my husband’s mental illness is the worst. it is (i am sure) what led to his many addictions, silences, cruelties and hurtfulness. 5 years ago i left him. he wept and begged me to come home. we went to retrouvaille and for a couple of years things were so good. we prayed, loved, laughed, shared and even travelled together. now he cannot even make eye contact with me but absolutely refuses to get help. God can do all things. i am begging God to help us.
 
Mary_Leigh said:
This is wonderful! My husband and I are separated, and I am praying for the conversion of my husband and our marriage, that one day we will be united in our Catholic faith and one day share the Eucharist together. That would be awesome!!!

I read a book called St. Monica and her son Augustine. I highly recommend it. It is a great “true” love story. Please pray for me and my husband Jason, and know that I am praying for you.
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where you guys married in the CC? and if not, can you part take of the Eucharist?

Mapi
 
If you can get your husband interested, Scott and Kimberly Hann’s “Rome Sweet Home” is a really interesting documentary of their conversion. From Catholic hater to a top Catholic theologist! What a story!

As with most people, change is hard to embrace. It takes tons of love or a real awful experience to even consider it. Good luck to you all.
 
Please pray for my husband right now. Without going into details, he really needs a lot of them. Thank you.
 
newbetx said:
If you can get your husband interested, Scott and Kimberly Hann’s “Rome Sweet Home” is a really interesting documentary of their conversion. From Catholic hater to a top Catholic theologist! What a story!

As with most people, change is hard to embrace. It takes tons of love or a real awful experience to even consider it. Good luck to you all.
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That’s a great book! However, it might not be appropriate for most husbands yet. You all might want to read it first before leaving it in a “convenient to happen over” spot for you husbands. It is really powerful and deep. I DO love the ending though! 😃
 
Popping in again to ask some advice. I am SO ready to call the priest and talk to him about reconciliation, but I keep getting this feeling that I should wait so that dh and I can come into the Church together. He is quite happy doing his thing at the other “faith community” (if you ever went to a Sunday morning ‘service’ there you’d see why I hesitate to call it church) and I just don’t know if I can stand to wait for him!

So I’m wondering if the feeling I have is truly God saying “Wait for your husband” or is it Satan trying to keep me out of the Church as long as possible. I’m really really struggling with this. I am starving for Christ in the Eucharist. I am tired of being uprooted. I think I’m going to ask dh if he minds if I go ahead and talk to Fr John about all of this. I also want to discuss baptizing my ds. Please pray that the Holy Spirit gives me the words to say and that I can be content with whatever dh decides. :gopray2:
 
Convert_in_99 said:
That’s a great book! However, it might not be appropriate for most husbands yet. You all might want to read it first before leaving it in a “convenient to happen over” spot for you husbands. It is really powerful and deep. I DO love the ending though! 😃
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My dh listened to the CD of Scott Hahn’s conversion story (the ‘short’ version of Rome Sweet Home, LOL!) and it really made him think. He’s still not ready to convert (fear is playing a huge role in this) but he has The Lamb’s Supper on his nightstand and he’ll be reading it…eventually. Poor guy - I keep ‘throwing’ books at him and he’s the type who reads a couple of paragraphs and nods off to sleep. He’s trying really hard to understand where I’m heading and why, though. 👍
 
Pixie_Dust said:
So I’m wondering if the feeling I have is truly God saying “Wait for your husband” or is it Satan trying to keep me out of the Church as long as possible. I’m really really struggling with this. I am starving for Christ in the Eucharist.
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You answered your own question by saying that you were starving for Christ in the Eucharist. If your starving for the Eucharist, then Satan is starving for you. He sees he’s loosing the BIGGEST BATTLE EVER! And, wants nothing more than for you to just wait a few months/years more. Don’t let satan win! :nope:

Your husband may or may not decide to take this step. You can’t wait him out on it. I remember wanting my family to come with me, but they were no where near ready. I went ahead and joined in 1999. My darling mother was catholic by 2002. No one else is catholic. I would have had to wait three years for just one family member. Also, it might have been the three year’s worth of grace received in Holy Communion that aided her along! 😉

Go for it! Hubby will follow if and when he’s ready. 😃
 
This thread is a prayer answered for me. I came to CA today looking for insight into dealing with my marriage to a cradle Catholic whho does not really believe.

We have been married for 16 years. We are both cradle Catholics, and when we met, we both agreed we would like to marry Catholic and raise our children Catholic. Like many young people of our generation, we were somewhat lukewarm in practicing our faith before we married. After, we did our best, and seemed “matched” in our commitment. However, between sacramental preparation for our children, which I always handle, and participating in a faith-building course at our parish, my faith came alive in a very life-changing way over 4 years ago. since then, I have grappled with my husband’s lack of belief. I have often said I am on a great faith journey, with one foot nailed to the floor, because my husband does not budge one inch in his belief (or lack therof). He attends church sporadically, and when he is there, he is impatient, sighs, goofs around with the kids, and marches up to receive the Eucharist like he is just slamming back any old wafer of bread, and not the body and true presence of Christ. I just cringe! some people tell me I should just be glad that he sometimes attends church (versus spending Sundays in the office, oh that makes me so crazy) but I long to be a family that worships together, prays together, serves together.
Fortunately, my children seem to be moving along in their faith, especially my daughter, and God has equipped me for this role in their lives, but I still worry about my sons, as I feel they need the male role model in their father.

I don’t know why God would bless me with an ever increasing faith, and with holy people and priests who have such a huge impact on my life, yet I cannot have this one thing, a believing husband at my side. I want it so much for him, have prayed for it so much. He is so caught up in this world, and worldly pursuits, money, possessions, etc. and is missing out on the true joys of life.

Enough for now, I am taking this prayer to St. Monica and putting it into my daily prayer book, and I will begin to pray it daily. Thank you for this wonderful thread, and I pray for all of you, as I know how you feel, carrying this particular cross…
 
sandraladeda said:
This thread is a prayer answered for me. I came to CA today looking for insight into dealing with my marriage to a cradle Catholic whho does not really believe.

We have been married for 16 years. We are both cradle Catholics, and when we met, we both agreed we would like to marry Catholic and raise our children Catholic. Like many young people of our generation, we were somewhat lukewarm in practicing our faith before we married. After, we did our best, and seemed “matched” in our commitment. However, between sacramental preparation for our children, which I always handle, and participating in a faith-building course at our parish, my faith came alive in a very life-changing way over 4 years ago. since then, I have grappled with my husband’s lack of belief. I have often said I am on a great faith journey, with one foot nailed to the floor, because my husband does not budge one inch in his belief (or lack therof). He attends church sporadically, and when he is there, he is impatient, sighs, goofs around with the kids, and marches up to receive the Eucharist like he is just slamming back any old wafer of bread, and not the body and true presence of Christ. I just cringe! some people tell me I should just be glad that he sometimes attends church (versus spending Sundays in the office, oh that makes me so crazy) but I long to be a family that worships together, prays together, serves together.
Fortunately, my children seem to be moving along in their faith, especially my daughter, and God has equipped me for this role in their lives, but I still worry about my sons, as I feel they need the male role model in their father.

I don’t know why God would bless me with an ever increasing faith, and with holy people and priests who have such a huge impact on my life, yet I cannot have this one thing, a believing husband at my side. I want it so much for him, have prayed for it so much. He is so caught up in this world, and worldly pursuits, money, possessions, etc. and is missing out on the true joys of life.

Enough for now, I am taking this prayer to St. Monica and putting it into my daily prayer book, and I will begin to pray it daily. Thank you for this wonderful thread, and I pray for all of you, as I know how you feel, carrying this particular cross…
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Thanks for joining us…you are most welcome here. What a touching story! I am SO thankful to God that you are devoutly practicing your faith. I will gladly pray for your husband, please pray for mine (and all on this thread) as well! :gopray2: Mine is a protestant, never anything but. At least he’s devout and faithful though, more than a lot of the catholics I talked too. BUT, it would be so nice to share the Eucharist with him! 😃

Thanks and may God bless you and yours! 🙂
 
I’ll tell you a bit about me and a similar “faith gap” situation…

My wife got laid off from work. The house, the kids, her, me were all a wreck. So I expected that things around home would get better now that she had extra time. Well, she goes to CRHP weekend. OK just a weekend I’m told. That turns into 1 or two nights a week for months! This turns into bible study, etc. I felt absolutely deserted! (It wasn’t just CRHP, BTW, helping at school, and other charities)

I converted in 88 and didn’t do much more than go to mass every week (but I do pay attention). Then a friend brought over “Rome Sweet Home.” I don’t know why I read it (I’m the 2 pages and out like a light type, too), but I did. It changed my life and direction. So much so, DW is now suspicious of my behavior.

I am teaching our teenage boys about chastity. Something I never practiced well! Heck, I’m even starting to enjoy confession!

So I guess, I’m saying, don’t give up but plant seeds and wait for harvest. He may be put off by your rapid acceleration. I know I was. Nothing is so irritating as a wife speaking (not even bragging) about how fill in the blank she is and DH feeling like he could never measure up. If the relationship with your husband is good and growing, the kids come along, too. Marriage Encounter? 10 Great Dates? (BTW, the average length of marriage in our 10GD group is 16 years…hmmm)

Sometimes you have to pull. Sometimes you have to push, but you can do neither well if you are too far apart. It’s all about leverage!
 
newbetx said:
I’ll tell you a bit about me and a similar “faith gap” situation…

My wife got laid off from work. The house, the kids, her, me were all a wreck. So I expected that things around home would get better now that she had extra time. Well, she goes to CRHP weekend. OK just a weekend I’m told. That turns into 1 or two nights a week for months! This turns into bible study, etc. I felt absolutely deserted! (It wasn’t just CRHP, BTW, helping at school, and other charities)

I converted in 88 and didn’t do much more than go to mass every week (but I do pay attention). Then a friend brought over “Rome Sweet Home.” I don’t know why I read it (I’m the 2 pages and out like a light type, too), but I did. It changed my life and direction. So much so, DW is now suspicious of my behavior.

I am teaching our teenage boys about chastity. Something I never practiced well! Heck, I’m even starting to enjoy confession!

So I guess, I’m saying, don’t give up but plant seeds and wait for harvest. He may be put off by your rapid acceleration. I know I was. Nothing is so irritating as a wife speaking (not even bragging) about how fill in the blank she is and DH feeling like he could never measure up. If the relationship with your husband is good and growing, the kids come along, too. Marriage Encounter? 10 Great Dates? (BTW, the average length of marriage in our 10GD group is 16 years…hmmm)

Sometimes you have to pull. Sometimes you have to push, but you can do neither well if you are too far apart. It’s all about leverage!
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Thanks for sharing your touching story. 🙂 God bless you and yours. You are in my prayers!
 
Ok, please help me out here. I am a catholic who left the church and now I’m coming back. My husband is not a catholic. I thought because I am married to a none catholic I could not partake of the Eucharist. Am I wrong and indeed I could partake?

Thanks,

Mapi
 
Mapi said:
Ok, please help me out here. I am a catholic who left the church and now I’m coming back. My husband is not a catholic. I thought because I am married to a none catholic I could not partake of the Eucharist. Am I wrong and indeed I could partake?

Thanks,

Mapi
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If you married OUTSIDE the Catholic church (with a justice of the peace, protestant minister, rabbi, etc.) you are right NOT to receive communion. You will need to have your marriage convalidated (just speak to a priest about this) before you recieve communion. It will take some time, but it is worth it.

However, if you married IN the Catholic church with a priest, all you need to do is to go make a good confession, tell how long you were away from the church and that you are sorry you left, and all the mortal sins commited since you last confessed. Then you can go to communion again, with a peaceful, joyful heart. 🙂

Your non-catholic husband would NOT have to convert to the catholic faith.

Welcome home Mapi! :grouphug:
 
Thanks. Do I need my husband approval for the convalidation of my marriage in the church?

Thanks again,

Mapi
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