St. Monica, Pray for us!

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Well, to no surprise, DH chose to go out with his co-workers drinking. He was kind enough to ask me to go with him early in the evening to have dinner w/ them all (it was like breaking his arm to get him to ask his parents to come and stay w/ the kids a 2nd night in a row). I was actually glad to go, not psyched about being around his co-workers so much, but I knew we wouldn’t be there long.

I thought this small gesture of submitting myself to a crowd he knows I despise might get us on the right foot. But, after he brought me home and his folks left, he went back out by himself - he typically does. I really didn’t get an opportunity all evening to tell him I had plans to hang out w/ the boys on Saturday, but I finally dropped a hint before he left to go back out.

I got the kids in bed and went and crashed myself. Around 12:30 when DH still wasn’t home, I closed and locked our bedroom door. With the way things have been between us, I didn’t want him coming home and crawling on me smelling like smoke and beer and using me.

I tried waking him @ 10:30 a.m. and he mumbled that he needed to go to work. Great, I thought - sure it stinks that he won’t be with me and the kids, but at least he’d be doing SOMETHING, and we really need the extra money. So, the kids and I go on our outing, come home, eat, then down for naps. It’s after 1 and DH still isn’t up. I gripe at him to get out of bed and take a shower; he complies, but comes straight back to bed.

I’m so angry I couldn’t get a nap with him right there, so I just get up and take DS to the grocery store. Come home, 4pm, DH’s still in bed. He has 15 hours of mandatory OT left to get in this month and I have a feeling it isn’t going to happen all in one week. Anyway, I tell him to get up b/c I’m leaving. I head to confession really questioning the validity of it considering I am not ready to forgive DH or be kind to him.

Our weekend is basically shot. I mean, I look forward to spending time w/ the kids on the weekends and getting things done around the house, but I’m limited in what I can do b/c I really do need DH’s help. It makes me so angry that he doesn’t stop and think “Is missing out on precious time with my kids and the state of my marriage really worth a night out w/ a bunch of people who really don’t have my best interest at heart?”

Being around these women, I can’t help but thinking I wish DH could get another job working somewhere else where his coworkers actually encourage sound morality - he doesn’t seem strong enough to be that strength and encouragement to others.

So sick of all of this!!! I really wish he would leave already - I just cannot stand to be around him right now!
 
Eli,
I cried when I read about your husband reading a story about Jesus to your two year old. That is beautiful. 🙂

I am praying for all of us here, I am in a similar situation in my marriage. I try so hard to focus on the blessings I have, beautiful children, loving family, but it is really hard sometimes when all you want is a “normal” husband…one that works, WANTS to spend time with you, and doesn’t lie to you.

Saint Monica, please intercede on the behalf of the women in this forum. Please pray that we will be graced with strength and patience…and Peace.

Saint Joseph, please pray for our husbands and our families. Please pray that they might also hear God’s truth in their hearts.
 
DEAR LORD,
GRANT ME THE PATIENCE TO ENDURE MY BLESSINGS,
AMEN.
:signofcross::console::amen:
LOVE JACQUELINE IN NZ
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

my oldest son, who leads a troubled life,
and my youngest son, who struggles in his life,

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

my husband that he will become closer to God
and son to grow up loving God

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen

MonicaRose,
Thanks for your kind words.
eli
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all women on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen
 
How is everyone doing?

We just found out that I am pregnant. DH is handling it amazingly well, being very kind and loving towards me even though it puts us in a scary financial situation that he will be asked to get us out of by putting more effort into his job searching. He is growing in charity every day, and without joining Christ’s body through baptism! This must be the unbeliever being sanctified through his spouse. Imagine how much he will grow and bear fruit, should Jesus ever call him directly with a voice he cannot resist!

I can’t handle waiting three months to tell everyone about the baby, so our children know. They just accepted it quite naturally: “Oh, there’s a baby there? Oh! Okay.” Life is unchanged for them, except for a heightened interest in playing with baby dolls again. Iliana chose to sleep on the ground near her sister last night so that her baby dolls could have her bed and favorite blanket!
 
Hi folks!

I’m posting in this thread because I’m just so frustrated about how MEAN and SELFISH my son can be! He’s only 10, but it seems like he has no empathy at all.

Meanwhile, some good news. I reverted to the Church after my husband and I were married, and I told him a month or two ago that I would like to have our marriage convalidated. He went off on a sulky tirade about how I was bent on converting him and I was going to make him do all these Catholic things. I dropped the subject then, but approached him again last night. He told me that he thought we had already agreed to do it and apologized for being grouchy about it the first time. So, we’re going to have our marriage convalidated. Yay us!

So, please pray for my family: For the conversion of my husband, that the convalidation process goes well, and for my son to grow in love.

Pax,
-S-
 
I haven’t been around in a long time (not sure if anyone will remember me :p)…been enjoying being home (thank you God!) with my kiddos and being “just” a housewife. 😉 DH has been attending Mass with us quite regularly, though not every week. I keep praying for his conversion, confident in Christ’s promise that if we ask for anything in his name, God will grant it. (It may take our whole lives, like it did for St. Monica, but we just have to keep praying, right?) Anyway, prayers for all here – those struggling, those with good news, everyone. I ask for prayer for my parents if you have a moment – thanks so much.

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :crossrc: :crossrc: :crossrc:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

my girlfriend’s conversion and struggle with lust and other personal temptations

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen
 
Longing for Light-Congratulations!!!

Belle-I’m so happy for you that you are able to stay home!

I am now back at work 😦 my kids are with my mom and my husband is working a seasonal job…I am so happy he has the employment-but am praying that he can find something permanent with benefits so that I can do something part time instead of my current job.

I am praying for all the intentions on this thread!

👍
 
Belle10 said:
I haven’t been around in a long time (not sure if anyone will remember me :p)…been enjoying being home (thank you God!) with my kiddos and being “just” a housewife. 😉 DH has been attending Mass with us quite regularly, though not every week. I keep praying for his conversion, confident in Christ’s promise that if we ask for anything in his name, God will grant it. (It may take our whole lives, like it did for St. Monica, but we just have to keep praying, right?) Anyway, prayers for all here – those struggling, those with good news, everyone. I ask for prayer for my parents if you have a moment – thanks so much.
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
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I remember you Belle! :hug1: I’m so glad you came back and so happy you are now able to stay at home with the children. 🙂 Your words are so true, it may take our whole lives, but it will happen. We may not even be alive to see it happen, but it will. You have great trust. I’m so happy your husband is coming with you more to church. Praise God! :gopray:

I haven’t posted in this group for a long time either. I ask that you all continue to keep my husband in prayer. I long with all my heart for his conversion to the catholic faith. He is a practicing protestant, but attends mass with me almost every week, just to be with me. I pray it’s soaking in and that he grow to love it not just for his wife’s sake, but also for himself. Praying with and for you all. :gopray:
 
Wow! I haven’t visited in forever!!!

Well, an update to give hope!!! My husband came into the Church this Easter Season! I can’t say his family was too happy, his mother bawled her eyes out in sheer sorrow, she said he’s making a mistake. But… he joined and he’s happy with his decision. It was a joyful event too because our second child also made her First Holy Communion so she got to receive Christ in the Eucharist for the first time right alongside her father. It was PRECIOUS!

And how does God bless a marriage with such joyful news of the spouse coming into the Church and thus making the entire family truly Catholic? With a new baby! We are expecting #5 in January!!

I will pray for all of you that have posted your struggles. My heart breaks reading them. :grouphug:
 
Convert_in_99 said:
He is a practicing protestant, but attends mass with me almost every week, just to be with me. I pray it’s soaking in and that he grow to love it not just for his wife’s sake, but also for himself.
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That’s great! And it makes such a difference, too. Thanks for posting 🙂

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

O my Jesus, forgive us our sins.
Save us from the fires of Hell.
Lead all souls to Heaven,
especially those in most need of Thy Mercy.
Amen.
 
:hug3:Belle10 welcome back! I remeber you and congrats on staying home.
st. Monica,
Please bring my hubby closer to God everyday and all those who we are praying for on this thread.
Amen

blessings to all,
Eli
 
MonicaRose said:
Longing for Light-Congratulations!!!

Belle-I’m so happy for you that you are able to stay home!

I am now back at work kids are with my mom and my husband is working a seasonal job…I am so happy he has the employment-but am praying that he can find something permanent with benefits so that I can do something part time instead of my current job.

I am praying for all the intentions on this thread!
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I’ll add my congrats to you Longing For Light!
MonicaRose, sorry you’re back at work, praying for you. At least your kids can be with their grandmother instead of at a daycare center. :hug1: Praying for your family that your DH can find permanent employment and you can stay home!
Convert_in_99 said:
I remember you Belle! I’m so glad you came back and so happy you are now able to stay at home with the children. Your words are so true, it may take our whole lives, but it will happen. We may not even be alive to see it happen, but it will. You have great trust. I’m so happy your husband is coming with you more to church. Praise God!
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You know, what else can I do? I just HAVE to trust, otherwise I’d get so upset. There are still tough days, but I have to believe that God led me to this man for a reason…that perhaps my life, even if it is filled with hardship, is meant to somehow help bring DH to God… ?
Convert_in_99 said:
I haven’t posted in this group for a long time either. I ask that you all continue to keep my husband in prayer. I long with all my heart for his conversion to the catholic faith. He is a practicing protestant, but attends mass with me almost every week, just to be with me. I pray it’s soaking in and that he grow to love it not just for his wife’s sake, but also for himself. Praying with and for you all.
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Praying for you and all here. :crossrc: :grouphug:
tamccrackine said:
Wow! I haven’t visited in forever!!!

Well, an update to give hope!!! My husband came into the Church this Easter Season! I can’t say his family was too happy, his mother bawled her eyes out in sheer sorrow, she said he’s making a mistake. But… he joined and he’s happy with his decision. It was a joyful event too because our second child also made her First Holy Communion so she got to receive Christ in the Eucharist for the first time right alongside her father. It was PRECIOUS!

And how does God bless a marriage with such joyful news of the spouse coming into the Church and thus making the entire family truly Catholic? With a new baby! We are expecting #5 in January!!

I will pray for all of you that have posted your struggles. My heart breaks reading them. :grouphug:
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Congratulations, congratulations, congratulations!!! So many blessings to be thankful for! 😃
eli1118 said:
:hug3:Belle10 welcome back! I remeber you and congrats on staying home.

blessings to all,
Eli
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Blessings to you too. (and thanks, I’m glad you guys remember me! 😊 🙂 )

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
 
Hello St. M’s posters!

Belle! It is so good to hear from you and praise God for His goodness! I am so happy for you to be able to be home with your children now. What an amazing blessing 🙂

I ask for your continued prayers. Mine is a very up and down situation. The downs are very down unfortunately.

Pray not only for my husband, but for me and especially for our marriage. We are in a really rough place these days. On my birthday I lost it. I mean totally lost it. I was so angry because I felt like a complete after thought to him. This was after Mothers Day and basically the same thing. Anytime gift giving or care for me was in the picture, I was out of the picture…does that make sense? I was so furious because he was acting so aloof and distant I thought he was mad and asked him about it. He instantly got mad at me and shut me out. Well that did it. I flew off and screamed at him, pounded on a door and told him I hated him and hated the way he was treating me that he was making me hate holidays! My rage induced (door pounding) three large painful bruises to remind me of my behavior and to force me to remember letting myself get that angry is definitely not good.

The last few days he has been nicer, but we’ll see. I just need all the prayers I can get. WE NEED all the prayers we can get.

Thanks everyone! My prayers for all of your intentions as well.
 
Lamb_Serenade said:
Hello St. M’s posters!

Belle! It is so good to hear from you and praise God for His goodness! I am so happy for you to be able to be home with your children now. What an amazing blessing 🙂

I ask for your continued prayers. Mine is a very up and down situation. The downs are very down unfortunately.

Pray not only for my husband, but for me and especially for our marriage. We are in a really rough place these days. On my birthday I lost it. I mean totally lost it. I was so angry because I felt like a complete after thought to him. This was after Mothers Day and basically the same thing. Anytime gift giving or care for me was in the picture, I was out of the picture…does that make sense? I was so furious because he was acting so aloof and distant I thought he was mad and asked him about it. He instantly got mad at me and shut me out. Well that did it. I flew off and screamed at him, pounded on a door and told him I hated him and hated the way he was treating me that he was making me hate holidays! My rage induced (door pounding) three large painful bruises to remind me of my behavior and to force me to remember letting myself get that angry is definitely not good.

The last few days he has been nicer, but we’ll see. I just need all the prayers I can get. WE NEED all the prayers we can get.

Thanks everyone! My prayers for all of your intentions as well.
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😦 I’m so sorry Debbie. :hug1: :crossrc: Prayers for you and all here. :hug1:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the intentions of all on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
 
Bell…and Lambie…hello my friends…how i have missed you!

Long story short, got down, stopped praying, and wondered why i felt so alone!
Duh!
So haggardly, i am trying to make it back on the right path.

I think of you here on this thread often…

Lana
 
My situation too continues to have ups and downs, more of the latter and less of the former, as usual. DH had been doing well for some time getting up and helping with the boys, but most days he would just go back to bed right after we left. I’d wake him when I come home for lunch. He may as well just not get up at all b/c going in to work and staying past the kids’ bed time is no help to me. I’ve been coming home just to do my chores on my lunch hour b/c with this PG, by the time I get the kids in bed, I have no energy left for anything else.

A little ticked that he doesn’t give me the time I need to have to myself to do some extra things around the house or run errands without dragging the kids all over God’s green earth. I truly feel as though I don’t have anyone else, family or friends, who I can call to come sit for 30min-1hr just to let me run and get some things done. So it’s pretty well DH or nothing (which is about one and the same).

He wasn’t feeling well yesterday which I imagine has to do mainly with not getting any sleep the night before on account of the storms. Then, the longer he stays in bed, the worse he feels. He finally got up @ 5:30 PM!!! b/c worked called him to come in and offer some relief for the massive work load. Hah! I wish he’d work that way for me!!! But I can’t fire him like his employer. So, even when he called to moan, he didn’t get any sympathy from me. I NEVER get the break I need or the kind of break HE gets when I’m not well. Most of the time I end up at least putting in a half day at work to stay out of trouble. Anyway, yesterday I was sleep-deprived too, so much so that I was extremely dizzy and having to catch myself with every step or turn all morning, but I had to shove on thru - do I get any sympathy when I feel this way EVERY DAY being PG and caring for 2 little ones?

My charity, patience and mercy for DH are completely exhausted and I’m not inclined to ask God to increase these virtues in me for him. He has already refused to go to Retrovaille and I’m not inclined to seek counseling on my own. He even allowed me tear into him last week about the same ol’ stuff and agreed w/ me, but does anything change? Nope!!! I wish he’d deal with all his personal issues already so we could move forward. I feel like everything in my life is being held back b/c of him!!!
 
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