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Prometheum_x
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Love isn’t blind – instead, it is only love that is capable of seeing true beauty.
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ianraygor
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Age factors in a little, I’m 33, so I’d like someone 26 or older. I think being healthy is important …too many people today have very unhealthy diets and lifestyles (an interest in martial arts would be great). Nationality is something I’ve thought about but haven’t come to any conclusion (I’m mixed: Spanish, Mexican, Cuban, Puerto Rican, and Irish). There are so many types of intelligence it’s really difficult to say. I tend more towards Mathematics, Science, Logic, etc. It would probably be best if I found someone to balance that out with Art, Literature, Music, etc. Personality is a key factor…someone gentle, kind, and affectionate, yet strong. Most important, of course, is someone who knows and loves the faith. I’ve witnessed many mixed marriages, and while they can work I’m not interested in having as many conflicts in the home as I do outside it as regards the faith…Marriage is probably difficult enough without that.
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misericordie
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SEEMS you are very focused solely on exteriors. Well, is that all?? Well, then I am looking for a 459 pounder, 5’6 brown eyey, and 87 years ld smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_8_206.gifJust Kidding. Well, seriously, I would like a mature 21-30 woman who is normal weight for her height, and hazel, blue or green eyes. Black hair, very well spoken an minimum of 4 years college, above ALL!!! A serious Catholic, who is Compassionate, loving, Chaste, pure(will wait till she is married IN CHURCH) sense of humor, High morals, politically like me: a conservative, down to earth and does not toot her own horn, comes from a very humble god fearing family who is not looking for Mr. perfect for their daughter. smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_3_10.gif I would really make her so happy, and we can help each other in our relationship with God. smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_4_5.gif It would be great if Physically she looked like Jennifer love Hewitt smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_3_1.gif Again, just adding humor to all this, though she IS very beutiful smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_3_11.gif
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I don’t mean to criticize here, but this would almost seem like an inappropriate post. You’re asking for a physical description of a “dream girl.” I can only gather from the numerous responses that the physical aspect is what these men find most sexually appetizing. Otherwise, why are we addressing almost purely aesthetic physical characteristics? It’s as though we’re looking for a particular product with the correct, aesthetically-pleasing collection of parts. And although we’re not getting too graphic yet, we’re certainly moving in that direction. I just wonder whether this is ever an acceptable way to think about the opposite sex, or to think about a person in general.
Incidentally, it would seem that the people who did respond seem to tend toward near-anorexic “dream girls,” which I’m sure isn’t a good example for all those young women who feel a need to be dangerously thin.
I’m betting that every girl’s dream guy wouldn’t participate in a physical evaluation such as this.
Incidentally, it would seem that the people who did respond seem to tend toward near-anorexic “dream girls,” which I’m sure isn’t a good example for all those young women who feel a need to be dangerously thin.
I’m betting that every girl’s dream guy wouldn’t participate in a physical evaluation such as this.
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Hermione
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Healthy weight for women:
healthchecksystems.com/heightweightchart.htm
Aside from being extremely superficial, a whole lot of the guys who replied to this post want their wives to have anorexia. Shame on you. So many girls are dying from this disease (a 15% death rate) and you are encouraging it.
90-110 pounds for an average height woman?! You must want your wife to die from a heart attack. I wonder what you will do after your wife has a few children and gains 50 pounds or so, kick her out and get a new one?
To say the least, I am very saddened by these posts. Because of attitudes like yours many girls suffer from eating disorders. I used to be one of them. I’m 5’5" with medium bone size and the lowest I weighed was 115 pounds, to get there I ate very little and for two days a week I ate nothing at all. This is not even close to the 90 pound requirement of one of you “protectors” of God’s children, and I had a very low and weak heart beat, heart palpitations, chest pain, dizziness, a lack of mental clarity etc.
I wonder if Jesus would ever treat women like pieces of meat. I wonder if Jesus would ever sacrifice their mental and physical health so that He could make them conform to his ridiculous aesthetic ideas. But there’s a flaw in this question because Jesus is God and He created women with more than skin and bones. He also created them with various eye colors, facial features, heights etc. Perfect in God’s eyes but not in yours? Something is wrong with that.
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Aside from being extremely superficial, a whole lot of the guys who replied to this post want their wives to have anorexia. Shame on you. So many girls are dying from this disease (a 15% death rate) and you are encouraging it.
90-110 pounds for an average height woman?! You must want your wife to die from a heart attack. I wonder what you will do after your wife has a few children and gains 50 pounds or so, kick her out and get a new one?
To say the least, I am very saddened by these posts. Because of attitudes like yours many girls suffer from eating disorders. I used to be one of them. I’m 5’5" with medium bone size and the lowest I weighed was 115 pounds, to get there I ate very little and for two days a week I ate nothing at all. This is not even close to the 90 pound requirement of one of you “protectors” of God’s children, and I had a very low and weak heart beat, heart palpitations, chest pain, dizziness, a lack of mental clarity etc.
I wonder if Jesus would ever treat women like pieces of meat. I wonder if Jesus would ever sacrifice their mental and physical health so that He could make them conform to his ridiculous aesthetic ideas. But there’s a flaw in this question because Jesus is God and He created women with more than skin and bones. He also created them with various eye colors, facial features, heights etc. Perfect in God’s eyes but not in yours? Something is wrong with that.
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katybird
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I think it would be less offensive if the original poster had condensed the physical appearance thing to ONE point on the list. Like “I like long brown hair and big brown eyes on a petite woman” and then went on to talk about “She’s been raised in a home-school family” or “She prays the rosary daily.”
I would also find it interesting to know the ages of the men who posted their preference.
And, for how many is this just a “dream fantasy” and they’re actually much more pragmatic about who they’ll probably marry?
Because, if you were to ask me for my DREAM husband:
He’d be about 6’2" and slender but muscular. He’d have dark hair and dark eyes. 36 years old. He’d be a conservative Catholic but open-minded and compasionate. He’d maybe be a convert to Catholicism who wasn’t always a saint. He’d have a good-paying job that didn’t pull him away from home too much and he’d believe in traditional marriage roles so that I could stay home with the kids. He’d be gaga in love with my son to the point of insisting on adopting him ASAP. He would be funny and smart and he’d think that I was funny and smart.
I could throw out the appearance and age thing in a heartbeat for the rest of the list. If I found such a man, I would devote myself entirely to serving God through serving him. I would put his every incidental and trivial comfort before my own and I would see to it that he lacked for nothing a wife could possibly give him. Most of all, I would be sure to do this in a way that my husband never noticed. I would NOT be some long-suffering martyr, but I would sincerely strive to offer up everything, seek to rid myself of all selfishness, and seek my glory and happiness in serving and obeying my husband.
I would also find it interesting to know the ages of the men who posted their preference.
And, for how many is this just a “dream fantasy” and they’re actually much more pragmatic about who they’ll probably marry?
Because, if you were to ask me for my DREAM husband:
He’d be about 6’2" and slender but muscular. He’d have dark hair and dark eyes. 36 years old. He’d be a conservative Catholic but open-minded and compasionate. He’d maybe be a convert to Catholicism who wasn’t always a saint. He’d have a good-paying job that didn’t pull him away from home too much and he’d believe in traditional marriage roles so that I could stay home with the kids. He’d be gaga in love with my son to the point of insisting on adopting him ASAP. He would be funny and smart and he’d think that I was funny and smart.
I could throw out the appearance and age thing in a heartbeat for the rest of the list. If I found such a man, I would devote myself entirely to serving God through serving him. I would put his every incidental and trivial comfort before my own and I would see to it that he lacked for nothing a wife could possibly give him. Most of all, I would be sure to do this in a way that my husband never noticed. I would NOT be some long-suffering martyr, but I would sincerely strive to offer up everything, seek to rid myself of all selfishness, and seek my glory and happiness in serving and obeying my husband.
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jrabs
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My dream husband? One that will go to church and Adoration with me, pray the rosary daily with me, who respects woman, is charitable and has found truth through God.
All other things do not matter - not money, looks, hot physique. I have realized that outward appearance is unimportant. I married a hottie who turned out to be lacking in moral fiber. I have dated the most unattractive men, because I was drawn to their intelligence, faith and sense of humor and responsibility.
Dig deeper, because God often hides the very best attributes of people from our sight. You cannot determine charity, honesty, love, faith and compassion by a person’s long blonde hair and 110lb frame.
All other things do not matter - not money, looks, hot physique. I have realized that outward appearance is unimportant. I married a hottie who turned out to be lacking in moral fiber. I have dated the most unattractive men, because I was drawn to their intelligence, faith and sense of humor and responsibility.
Dig deeper, because God often hides the very best attributes of people from our sight. You cannot determine charity, honesty, love, faith and compassion by a person’s long blonde hair and 110lb frame.
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Apologia100
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She is just like my wife, which is why she IS my wife. 
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martha_martha
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ryan, are you praying for your future wife?
jrabs hit the nail on the head - i had dated many men who were attractive on the outside, nothing of substance on the inside. i ended up married to a man who was so far outside of my “mold” as far as looks were concerned, and he ended up being exactly who God intended for me.
i know this in my heart, because i prayed for him.
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jrabs hit the nail on the head - i had dated many men who were attractive on the outside, nothing of substance on the inside. i ended up married to a man who was so far outside of my “mold” as far as looks were concerned, and he ended up being exactly who God intended for me.
i know this in my heart, because i prayed for him.
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MommyWannabe
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Y’all, this thread is so rude. It’d be one thing if it was about the virtuous descriptions a wife should have developed by the time she marries, but everyoene seems bent on describing their vision of lust.
I am married to a professional athlete. He is beautiful and in perfect shape.
I, however, began to put on weight when we got engaged (bout a year ago). Never did I hear a single comment from him; he only told me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me and cant wait to be my husband.
I am now a lil over 75lbs overweight. Im 5’11 so I carry it real well but my hubby has never said one word, except to say he understands the underlyin issue and that we will work together to get me healthy.
If he was like the men on this thread , Im sure hed have said FORGET IT when I had to have my wedding dress let out.
Instead I married a man who loves me for me, who sees within me the soul striving for salvation.
He is a man I submit to be cause he takes on my problems as his own and leads me to where I need to go, he is my spiritual leader.
In his field of sports and physical perfection, it is amazin to me that he is able to get past the superficiality and see the beauty in my interior.
I used to be bulimic for years–and yes I was sooooooooo thin and very unhealthy. I got a lot of attention. But it was all false.
I met my hubby when i was 15 pounds overweight. We met in Church. He saw me singin in the choir when he was visiting for a game and said he saw the love of the Lord on my face.
Now that Ive gained all the weight, he still loves and supports me.
Y’all have made me REAL thankful God gave me him and not any of you!
This thread denigrates marriage.
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I am married to a professional athlete. He is beautiful and in perfect shape.
I, however, began to put on weight when we got engaged (bout a year ago). Never did I hear a single comment from him; he only told me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me and cant wait to be my husband.
I am now a lil over 75lbs overweight. Im 5’11 so I carry it real well but my hubby has never said one word, except to say he understands the underlyin issue and that we will work together to get me healthy.
If he was like the men on this thread , Im sure hed have said FORGET IT when I had to have my wedding dress let out.
Instead I married a man who loves me for me, who sees within me the soul striving for salvation.
He is a man I submit to be cause he takes on my problems as his own and leads me to where I need to go, he is my spiritual leader.
In his field of sports and physical perfection, it is amazin to me that he is able to get past the superficiality and see the beauty in my interior.
I used to be bulimic for years–and yes I was sooooooooo thin and very unhealthy. I got a lot of attention. But it was all false.
I met my hubby when i was 15 pounds overweight. We met in Church. He saw me singin in the choir when he was visiting for a game and said he saw the love of the Lord on my face.
Now that Ive gained all the weight, he still loves and supports me.
Y’all have made me REAL thankful God gave me him and not any of you!
This thread denigrates marriage.
Jenna
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SeekerJen
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Yup. Hey, I’m 5’ tall, and weigh about 105 lbs. (I purposely don’t own a scale because I would weigh myself several times per day if I did). I’m small-boned and wear a size 2 at my normal weight of 105 lbs.
Believe me, I’ve heard over and over that with my height and frame, I should weigh at most 100 lbs. And believe me I’ve tried. I found out the hard way in high school and college that my body does not go below 100 lbs. unless I stop eating and work out 2 hours per day (not fun, take it from someone who’s been there).
No woman should have to starve herself to meet unrealistic expectations of someone’s “dream girl”. Quite honestly, this “dream girl” may end up being just that- a dream. If you’re trying to get a date, go for the nice and friendly girl whom you find attractive and who seems interested. DON’T make her weight a priority. She might be an athlete who weighs 15 lbs more than you would guess due to great muscle tone. I’ll tell you this: if any guy had asked me how much I weighed when we were dating, he wouldn’t have gotten another date with me.
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La_Chiara
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Well, ladies, about all I can say about this thread is “boys will be boys…” 
(Though some of them do mature into real men, and some of us were lucky enough to wait and marry one! 
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(Though some of them do mature into real men, and some of us were lucky enough to wait and marry one! )
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michael8975
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Ryan,
First off, let me say that I relate to your desire to find an attractive woman. I’m a 29 year old guy and am currently looking for one of these beauties, but am starting to realize that I’m missing the point. It IS all about what’s inside of a person first and foremost. Looks are just icing on the cake. That doesn’t mean that it’s not right to be attracted to a woman’s looks, but also be open to women that may not be as gifted in that department. When you meet a girl who is not your ideal, try telling yourself to “give her a chance”. You might be amazed how much she has to offer. Maybe you should watch the movie “Beautiful Girls”. It really seems to drive this point home(even though it’s not the most wholesome film).
First off, let me say that I relate to your desire to find an attractive woman. I’m a 29 year old guy and am currently looking for one of these beauties, but am starting to realize that I’m missing the point. It IS all about what’s inside of a person first and foremost. Looks are just icing on the cake. That doesn’t mean that it’s not right to be attracted to a woman’s looks, but also be open to women that may not be as gifted in that department. When you meet a girl who is not your ideal, try telling yourself to “give her a chance”. You might be amazed how much she has to offer. Maybe you should watch the movie “Beautiful Girls”. It really seems to drive this point home(even though it’s not the most wholesome film).
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Apologia100
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Pamela Anderson is a beautiful woman, but my senile grandmother has more sense than she does. A woman’s true beauty flows from a godly spirit.
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Christian4life
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Is anyone else offended by the fact that ALL these guys seem to think the ideal woman has dark hair and wieghs 125 lbs. or less??
What would ya’ll think of a woman who is blonde, who wieghs 170 lbs. and has a sweet personality?
My husband thought I was just the very picture of beauty. Thank God I’m already married, otherwise this thread would make me very depressed!
What would ya’ll think of a woman who is blonde, who wieghs 170 lbs. and has a sweet personality?
My husband thought I was just the very picture of beauty. Thank God I’m already married, otherwise this thread would make me very depressed!
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Christian4life
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BTW I have a picture of my family in my profile. I am still hot!
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jrabs
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La Chiara:
I guess I’ll just keep on waiting…and try to maintain my weight…and not cut my long hair. Sheesh! the pressure!Well, ladies, about all I can say about this thread is “boys will be boys…”
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jrabs
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Then you will make an AWESOME husband to one very lucky lady!
May God bless all of His single faithful servants and let us be open to His choice for us.
It’s the waiting part that is sooooooo horribly hard!
Trust trust trust.
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Apologia100
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Liar liar, pants on fire. No you don’t I checked. smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_6_2.gif
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