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Try Ave Maria Singles site. It has a more spiritual emphasis.Right on bro!
I mean, take a look at sites like CatholicMatch.com. With each profile is the first thing you notice a description of the person’s personality? No, of course not! Although these are also mentioned later on in the profile. It’s interesting to note the order by which CatholicMatch (and nearly all other Catholic dating sites) list categories in each profile listing:
1) Photo (very heavy emphasis on physical/exterior)
2) Age (emphasis on physical/exterior)
3) Gender (emphasis on physical/exterior)
4) Location
5) About me (slight empahsis on personality)
6) Seeking (slight emphasis on personality)
7) My Appearance (heavy emphasis on physical/exterior)
8) My Background [including marital status, children, ethnic background, education, etc.] (emphasis on physical/exterior)
9) My Faith (heavy emphasis on personality)
10) My Favorites (very heavy emphasis on personality)
The first thing a guy reading each profile notices is what the girl looks like and how old she is. Next, a short sentence or two mentioning who the person in and how she is looking for some guy who is “loving and caring” (which every guy who reads it says to himself, “yep, that’s me!”). Then the guy reading the profile notices what the girl looks like (in case the pictures are not clear enough). Background information is important, too. Last and least is mentioned the girl’s faith and her favorite movies, music, etc.
In any case, while the profiles cover both the physical characteristics of and the personality of the individuals therein described, the profiles, through the order by which each category appears, place an emphasis on the girl’s physical characteristics rather than on her personality.
Oh, I wasn’t offended by the weight thing… I was offended by the height thing… All these guys are looking for women who are quite a bit shorter than me… I am about 5’10" I can’t help being tall… Good thing it was one thing my husband was attracted to me for…I think alot of the women on here are over reacting a little bit. This thread is not meant to say that all women who do not fit the descriptions are unacceptable or unattractive. They are basically just dreams. I am sure that most of the people who responded to this thread are much more flexable than what there post says.
I am sure no one wants there wife or girlfriend to be anorexic.
As I said, I think alot of people are more flexable than they posted.Oh, I wasn’t offended by the weight thing… I was offended by the height thing… All these guys are looking for women who are quite a bit shorter than me… I am about 5’10" I can’t help being tall… Good thing it was one thing my husband was attracted to me for…
You have any romantic interests in this ideal woman?Originally Quoted by Pyrosapien:
To me, the ideal woman is clothed with the sun, with the moon under her feet, and on her head she wears a crown of twelve stars.
That is okay… I am teasing.As I said, I think alot of people are more flexable than they posted.
Pyrosapien said:MEN BEWARE!!!
This post is some sort of conspiracy!
Any answer you give will be wrong. If you describe your wife/fiance as she is, you will be accused of kissing up. If you describe the secular culture’s ideal woman, you will be recognized as shallow. If you are married and talk about the interior woman, your wife will assume that you don’t like the way she looks.
To me, the ideal woman is clothed with the sun, with the moon under her feet, and on her head she wears a crown of twelve stars.
Originally Quoted by Alterum:
Aw, don’t be too worried. You can find it all in the Bible!It’s as though we’re looking for a particular product with the correct, aesthetically-pleasing collection of parts. And although we’re not getting too graphic yet, we’re certainly moving in that direction. I just wonder whether this is ever an acceptable way to think about the opposite sex, or to think about a person in general.
**Song of Solomon 4
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" How beautiful you are, my darling,
How beautiful you are!
Your eyes are like doves behind your veil;
Your hair is like a flock of goats
That have descended from Mount Gilead.
I don’t see anything that makes her seem particularly appealing, either. Breasts like baby deer? What kind of analogy is that? Teeth like sheep, neck like a stone fence? Solomon wasn’t the smoothest talker was he? Try this for a description, this is my wife:Aw, don’t be too worried. You can find it all in the Bible!
I don’t see Solomon saying anything about his bride’s great personality
I wasn’t offended by the weight thing at all. I am thin - probably due to a hefty dose of hyperactivity. What I think is sad is that the list is comprised of physical attributes. She’s gotta have this and gotta look like that. Where are the virtues, and spiritual qualities? Those are the things that really determine who a person is.I think alot of the women on here are over reacting a little bit.
There is nothing wrong with that… My husband and I love hikeing, it is something we can do together. I love photography, it relaxes me, so I always take my camera with me. We also have common interest that aren’t along the same line but different… For example music… He loves heavy metal, I love country, we both love classic rock… We can appreciate eachothers interest… We both love to draw, although we draw very different things.In any case, I want a girl who’s active. So if she is active and likes the outdoors, then it is less likely that she will be overweight anyhow.
fast forward to the 3 pregnancies…for some women, baby weight is difficult to get off. It can be stressful. Man oh man - I hope you are merciful to your wife when that time comes.Maybe not the perfect dream girl I have in mind, but I’m not going to marry someone who isn’t ugly either–especially if she is more than a little overweight.
In any case, I want a girl who’s active. So if she is active and likes the outdoors, then it is less likely that she will be overweight anyhow.
Is anyone else offended by the fact that ALL these guys seem to think the ideal woman has dark hair and wieghs 125 lbs. or less??
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I was actually very surprised no one said blonde. I have dark hair and was very flattered because I always got the impression that men were into blondes.
We’re talking about young men here and what their “dream girl” is. First off I think young guys are not particularily realistic when it comes to estimating weight. Second the emphasis is “dream”, I don’t think 22 year old girls dream about fuller men and more then 22 year old guys dream about fuller women. Don’t take it personally when maturity sets in most become more realistic, and less superficial.
Hey at 32 I’m not 112lbs anymore! (And I’m not telling either. )
My husband still tells me I’m beautiful and perfect just the way I am.
none whatsoever :nope:You have any romantic interests in this ideal woman?
Guess what guy. Looks don’t last forever. What happens if your beautiful wife gets burned in an accident, or after after bearing your children has stretch marks and gains 50lbs. You are as shallow as they come.:banghead: No wonder your single and I hope you stay that way, you deserve to!Sure, looks aren’t everything! If you had read my description then you would have found out that I like personality, too. Reading your posts, I don’t see why I should go after some 300-pound toothless porker when I can marry someone who is somewhat hot (at least initially attractive) and still has a great personality. Fat women are the biggest turn off to me. I think many of you people are just trying to set my standards too low. And I’m not going to listen to it. There are tons of pretty women out there; and I don’t see why I should force upon myself someone whom I can’t stand to look at. Maybe not the perfect dream girl I have in mind, but I’m not going to marry someone who isn’t ugly either–especially if she is more than a little overweight.
In any case, I want a girl who’s active. So if she is active and likes the outdoors, then it is less likely that she will be overweight anyhow.