What's the point in dating in today's society

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It’s important to at least try to keep an open mind, I’ve known some couples with different political affiliations for example. I’d maybe just try to work on broadening your social life a bit.
 
Great, if you’re independent you can go to both parties’ events and meet twice as many women. Although the Republican ones are probably more likely to be what you’re looking for.
 
You’d think that but a lot of them seem hell bent against catholic social teaching
 
No need to be sorry. It’s just you sounded so lost, I only wanted to offer advice and hope…my bad, I haven’t read all the other posts as scrolling is not so easy.

If you are doing all those things then, don’t worry you will find a way. It is great that you are concerned enough about the world that you fear these things! Society is messed up and there are more lukewarm Catholics out there and people do think you are weird out there if you want to wait til you are married… but those people are not worth it, it’s them that are weird. Jesus said people would hate you in His name, cos they hated Him first. So if people think you are weird or don’t like you feel comforted by the fact that they didn’t like Him either or His ways. That’s all I meant by letting Him guide you. Didn’t mean to make you feel disheartened. You can do it! There’s an organisation called catholic truth society which has little pamphlets, there should be some in your parish or online you can read about Catholic dating and that sort of thing to help guide you, or perhaps other resources…sorry hard to advise when we are all in different countries and I don’t even know which one you are in though guessing US? Good luck
 
I’ve come to the conclusion that it pretty much determines where you live. I live in the Seattle area and I’ve given up on dating in general. Finding single women in general is all but impossible let alone the flying unicorn that is a single (age appropriate) Catholic woman. In the Seattle area, thanks to the huge tech sector, there are nearly 150 single men for 100 single women and that includes. Trying to strip that down to Catholic women is impossible here.
 
I’m in St. Petersburg Florida. There’s more elderly than anything and then if I’m seeing people my age they are mostly atheist hipster liberals. If they happen to be religious then they’re probably Protestant. Or if they’re catholic they’re nominally catholic. When I go to daily mass (and I’ll go to different parishes) there are hardly any people there my age. There are some parishes in Tampa that have more people my age but still even then they have more elderly than anything. People suggested I move but I have properties and a business here that’s doing well. It wouldn’t be smart to sell.
 
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I’ve come to the conclusion that it pretty much determines where you live
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I’ve no doubt that’s a factor. I’ve generally been in the Midwest and never had problems finding great Catholic communities wherever I have been. I consider myself very blessed to have lived where I’ve lived and known who I’ve known.
 
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Bataar:
I’ve come to the conclusion that it pretty much determines where you live
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I’ve no doubt that’s a factor. I’ve generally been in the Midwest and never had problems finding great Catholic communities wherever I have been. I consider myself very blessed to have lived where I’ve lived and known who I’ve known.
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It’s just crazy here. Like I said, I’ve given up. I’ll take a class here, photography, cooking, bonsai trees, etc. There will usually be about 20 people in the class, 15 of the 20 will be men. The 5 women will either be there with their husband or about the same age as my mother. I’ll take my cute little dog for a walk at a beach park. While there, I’ll see about a dozen other guys walking their dog, occasionally there will be a woman with her husband walking their dog, and again, the occasional elderly woman walking a dog. Wherever I go, there’s just other men. A buddy of mine suggested I take a dance class, but the idea of dancing with other men just doesn’t appeal to me. 🙂
 
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Wherever I go, there’s just other men. A buddy of mine suggested I take a dance class, but the idea of dancing with other men just doesn’t appeal to me. 🙂
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I’m sorry that I laughed at this. 🤣 That is rough.
 
Dating for the sake of dating in my honest feeling has bo purpose. Like other posters have aaid maye your problem is not that all girls you met are this and/or that, is that you haven’t met anyone who got your attention, reagardless of her looks (you mentioned frizzy hair and unrully look is not a problem). Maybe you just need to start with the one you like and then see if dating or not. By hypothetical dating just meeting people you may or may not like does indeed look pretty pointless. The one who gets your attention that is who you should date first and then you will.see if she fits in all the other categories as well and…if you care about those categories anymore.
 
I’m in the UK which doesn’t seem to have a thriving Catholic population from what I’ve seen, I think city parishes do better if only because of population density. I luckily met my husband at uni, I haven’t been actively looking for men to date at church but can’t help but notice a lack of contenders, unless I try to seduce someone’s single grandpa!
 
It’s not you. These kinds of threads tend to usually break out into a battle of the sexes. You ought to be proud that it didn’t happen immediately.

It happens so often that a lot of posters tend to default to being on the harsher side with the single male OP. So, try not to take things personally.
 
I agree with you. Religious difference can break up a family, and lead to divorce. It is a shame that people ridicule chasity. Stick to your standards, and keep looking. She is bound to be out there. I’ll pray for you to find her. Btw, try saying a prayer for your future spouse as well. If God calls you to matrimony, then he will also send you someone.
 
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People suggested I move but I have properties and a business here that’s doing well. It wouldn’t be smart to sell.
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It depends what your goals are.

Edited to add: There’s also the question, what if you met someone fabulous and started a family where you are. Is it a good place to raise a family? Are there good resources and peers for Catholic families? Good schools with like-minded parents?
 
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Providing for my mom and dad and myself and my parish are more important than finding a spouse
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Who is going to provide for you when your parents are gone?

I think it’s rather bad of your mom to pooh pooh marriage, when marriage is presumably how she got such a dutiful son.
 
How about you do what a lot of men do and bring in a spouse from the Phillipines? Lots of Catholic women there.
 
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I’ll provide for myself. I don’t see why I need to be provided for
 
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