What's the point in dating in today's society

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Then if it’s not a goal for you, don’t be too bothered if it doesn’t just happen. Some people are lucky and a spouse falls into their lap. Some people might have to work at it.

By the way, you’re acting very much “like an attorney” by arguing against almost every piece of advice you have been given on this thread.
 
I read through a lot of this thread and I have some (name removed by moderator)ut for whatever it’s worth.

First off, I feel your frustration. That was me too not that long ago. Check this out… I went on one date when I was 18 then did not date at all until 27. I spent most of those 9 years doing drugs, drinking and getting in trouble with the law. I got two felonies to prove it. Jail, court ordered rehab, hundreds and hundreds of forced aa/na meetings. Then I turn about 25 and I start to wisen up a little. Two years later I’m wanting to convert to Catholicism. I am 33 and I have had two girlfriends iny life. And I did not get my first girlfriend until I was 29.

You are off to a better start then I had. I was morbidly obese until I was 16 and I dropped out of school. I did not know how to talk to girls because girls would not talk to me. No real dating experience. I was in my early 20s drugged out, drunk, in jail etc. Then when I wanted to begin dating I was working for $11 a hour. I was broke. I only got a good career in 2013 when I turned 29. I started dating broke, with a criminal past and no dating experience all through my 20s. But I met my girlfriend a couple years ago and we have been together for. Year now. If I can do it, you can. I know the frustration. I went on like 2 dates a year for like 5 years. My first girlfriend and me broke up after 4 months. I know rejection and heart break. I did online dating and yes, you only get about 1 date for every 100 women you message. But it’s possible to find someone. Don’t let the frustration of waiting make you give up. You have hope. If I can find someone, you certainly can. You write well, you are smart, you seem like you are not socially awkward. You can find someone. Try online dating. But only Catholic sites. That’s how I found my girl and we have been together for a year now and talking about marriage. It’s possible to find a devout girl. They are out there as hard to find as they are.
 
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I remember your posts and am happy to hear that your life is moving in a positive direction. May God continue to draw you closer to him.
 
True, women do it too. Although in my case, I don’t. What is weird is that they’re the one who initiated and then later on disappear. They could have not contacted me in the first place.
 
Maybe they were talking to you and someone else at the same time and then started dating them.
 
You’re right, a lot of people do that. They could have told me that they are now dating someone else. I am ok with that.
 
Yes, I remember you too. I really like hearing about positive experiences. Congrats to you and your girlfriend as you discern marriage!
 
Maybe, maybe not. Some kids get though it ok, some don’t. Considering the jab at homeschool kids I imagine you’re probably alright.

You know, for someone who really “regrets” making this thread, you sure are bumping it a lot.
 
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my mom thinks it would be better if I never married because she’s convinced that women will just want to take advantage of me because I’m financially well off.

It makes sense. There are a lot of divorces out there. My mom would rather me just live with someone and never marry.
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Do you still live with your mother?
 
Try online dating, It’s very easy. It’s mostly getting to know each other through email. It doesn’t take much time out of your day, and there’s no drama of discontinuing the conversation.
I met my husband on Catholic SIngles. We corresponded for 2 years before I went overseas to meet him.
 
I might suggest that you not be too hung up on the nominal thing. Couples are not usually at the same spiritual level. Part of being a husband is being a spiritual leader. Most of our evangelizing is done by how we live. I would bet that such a situation will either result in spiritual growth, or being dumped for being “too nice.”
 
Well hey, I don’t know why you’re so regretful. You got to humble-brag about law-school, got some PMs from a nice Catholic QT, got some encouragement from the beautiful older ladies of CAF, had some older men come in to give you a ‘listen here sonny’ pep talk, had a few people respond to your homeschool bait, and even had a certified misogynist come in to provide a good contrast for your friendly, ‘Aww shucks’ perky attitude.

Seems to me this thread was a roaring success.
 
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