When did you have your first child?

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SavedByHim:
It’s the day care costs that can kill you, but it sounds like you’ll be staying home, so good for you! 👍
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I believe God always provides. My wife is due in January and we were able to find a Day Care that charges by the day. Since I work shift work (my wife works at a high school) we will average about $60 a week for day care. Also that day care will only be needed an average of 16 hours a week. I have heard of other creative solutions. This was ours.
 
We had our first child when I was 39 and my husband 60. No lack of energy. It’s great.
 
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Faustina:
My first child was born when I was 20. I was unmarried, and put him up for adoption.
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God Bless you for sharing that with us. I am so thrilled that you don’t regret it now, and that God blessed you with more children.
I had my first child at 28, and then I had 3 more. My last one was when I was 40. I have three girls and one boy. They have all been a blessing to me and my husband.
 
I was barely 22 when we had our first. I am 26 and just had my second on June 8th. I, too, have PCOS and our first was conceived without medical treatment. Little miracles they both are. 😃
 
Gave birth at 23 for the first time. Now have 4 living children, and have miscarried 4 times. My sister says I have 4 angels waiting for me in Heaven!

My womb is too scarred to carry any more children because of the last miscarriage, at almost 19 weeks gestation. My doctor also all but forbids more children due to health issues. We watched very carefully when, against all odds, I became pregnant once more. I was not expected to carry the last baby much past 12 weeks.

God knew best. We have 3 sons, and God blessed us with a lovely little girl 9 years ago!
 
I had our first child when I was 36. Now I have a 16 year old, 15 year old and a 13 year old. We got married when we were both 33 and lost two to miscarriage before the first one. The last was born two weeks before my 40th. I tell her she is the best birthday present I ever got.

I am 53 now. I crave sleep, while my kids are night owls that want to stay out late with their friends. Late to me is 10:30 (Yawn!). Late to them is midnight or later. Imagine the disagreements over that one! They don’t like it one bit that I insist they are home before I go to bed. I don’t have the energy to stay up later, though. I’ll be 62 when the youngest is out of college. I wish I could retire sooner, but oh well. I’m glad I had all of them.

If I had had kids younger, I wouldn’t have all the wisdom I have acquired along the way, but I would have been able to stay up later - Trade offs that I wouldn’t trade.
 
I was 23 when I had my first. I wish I would have waited!!!
There are two reasons, I believe, as we grow older we get wiser. Plus, as I age I learn patience.
Lastly, I wish I did all those things I wanted to, for example, go to the Galapagos Islands and see the huge tortoises, completed school etc.
 
I was 19 when I conceived my first and had been married for a year already. I have not had a single regret.
 

I can’t help but comment about the cost of children, as a reason to delay. I’m surprised how little mine cost. Considering how many people want to “dump” their baby stuff on you. I haven’t bought anythng for my children, regarding furniture, clothes and toys.​

In my opinion the cost gets worse when they get into grade school. Glasses, braces, and clothes are not “dumped” on that age group as much.
 
My husband and I were married at 24 and had our first child nearly 12 months later.

Everyone that I told that we wanted to have a baby tried to dissuade me from it and tell me to wait a few more years. We were told that we hadn’t been married long enough and that we needed some time on our own.

We didn’t take these peoples advise and I can say to this day, I have never regretted my decision to start our family straight away. My husband and I have grown more in love through having children and through giving to each other, not by spending time alone without children.

I am now 37 and we are expecting our 7th child next Feb. God is so good and the blessings that a child can bring to your marriage far out way any thing that you can gain by putting it off.

blessings
Therese
 
I was 20 when I had my first. I had been married only 6 months when I got pregnant. We were thrilled. My daughter is now 20 and has a one-year old. She and her husband were only married about 6 months when she got pregnant. I am so blessed to be a Nana, even at my young age!🙂

God Bless you and your additions (whenever they come)!
 
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MooCowSteph:
I’m wondering, how old were you when you had your fist child? Do you wish you’d waited longer or tried earlier? I am 24, married 3 years, and am starting to feel the baby-bug coming on! Many people (mostly people who do not know me very well) keep saying, “you’re too young” or “you’re just a baby!”. The thing is, my husband is quite a bit older than me, and that’s just one reason I don’t want to wait too long. We’re thinking I’ll try to get pregnant is about a year. I am excited, as is my mom!
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I was 24 when I got married because I wanted to be a parent. I actually became immediately a father to my wife’s daughter and a year later, to our son. Almost 15 years later, I wish we’d have had more and not gone through sterilization (I was away from the Church then). 😦

In my home country, 24 is an age known for the baby-bug. I believe that the sooner, the better. In the US people tend to be either selfish or isolated and marry late. I see friends in their 50s with babies and feel for them not being able to see their great-grandchildren.
 
My husband and I are the same age. Married at 21, baby 2 weeks before I was 23, baby 3 weeks before 24, baby just after 26 and our last at age 32. We are celebrating 20 years next month. We are just as broke as the day we got married, however we have 4 precious gifts from God. We would of had more, but I was sterilized after the 4th( I was not in the Church, had no support at the time and was being pressured by everyone to be sterilized). It doesn’t matter that we are poor financially, the only regret is that we had me become sterile. I am glad though that I had my children when young. I am 10th of 11 children and my dad was 41 when I was born. He died shy of his 65th birthday. I regret that my children don’t have a grandpa and that he isn’t here to be with them. He loved and lived for his grandkids.
I don’t go with the current rage that says kids are so expensive. I never bought furniture, maternity clothes, etc. My teenagers today are still having trouble spending money on clothes at even Wal-Mart. 2nd hand stores, Salvation Army and garage sales. As for braces, etc. it depends on whether they are necissary or not. If needed, a way will be found with God’s help. If not, like my girl wanting braces because her teeth aren’t perfectly straight, she can buy them with her own money if she so desires.

Good luck.

Kelly
 
I was 19 and my husband was 28 when we had our first 11 years ago, we had our second when I was 21 I lost a little angel when I was 23 welcomed our third child at 24 and finally number 4 at age 29, I’m now 30 and hubby is 39 and our life is full and fun, I think whenever your ready you’ll know, good luck and God bless.
 
I married at 23, had my first daughter at 26, second at 28 and third at 31. I had terrible “baby fever” for the first two years of our marriage. I wish my husband had consented to try to get pregnant earlier, but finances were of course dismal and the prevailing wisdom said wait a few years. Ironically, our finances didn’t improve until we learned I was pregnant with our first and we were inspired to make changes in our life by moving to another town, networking to find my husband a better job, etc. Today we finally own our first home (10 years married) and at age 33 I hope we have another child or two or three before the body gives out! 🙂

Regarding children and expenses: I spent way more for my first than was necessary and even now that our finances are better I rarely need to buy anything for our second and third daughters. Shoes, socks and underwear are about the only thing I insist on buying new.

The girls have been given so much by generous relatives that they really don’t need toys (although if you ask of course they’ll say they want X new thing). I hate to buy junk just for the sake of buying “something” so I have trouble thinking of what to get them for Christmas! They really lack for nothing material.

We don’t have them in any activities right now and the oldest is in public school, so there aren’t a lot of fees at this point in life.

LeeAnn
The Hidden Life
 
I had my first son at 30, second at 32, before my marriage failed.
I remarried and we adopted my third son when I was 51, our daughter at 52. My only regret is that I didn’t start adopting sooner, we could have more kids, and a little more energy. They are a delight, and keep me young.
 
Your question kinda made me laugh, because I just turned 25 in mid-August and had my darling baby girl on August 30th…but I had been hearing for YEARS from DHs family “WHEN are you going to have kids???”

We had quite a bit of trouble getting pregnant, and I would have loved to have started a little younger. We celebrated our 5th anniversary in July.

If you feel like you are ready, go ahead and give it a try! As it is often said “God won’t give you more than you can handle!”

-Lori
 
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MooCowSteph:
I’m wondering, how old were you when you had your fist child? Do you wish you’d waited longer or tried earlier? I am 24, married 3 years, and am starting to feel the baby-bug coming on! Many people (mostly people who do not know me very well) keep saying, “you’re too young” or “you’re just a baby!”. The thing is, my husband is quite a bit older than me, and that’s just one reason I don’t want to wait too long. We’re thinking I’ll try to get pregnant is about a year. I am excited, as is my mom!
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I was 24 when we had our first child. We had been married a year. My children (I now have 4) are God’s greatest gift to my wife and I. I never wished we waited longer, I now know how much hard work being a parent is and to be honest I’m rather glad that we started fairly young! My oldest is now 7 and I can still keep up with him! He really is my absolute pride and joy!

Good luck and God bless!
 
I had my first and second (twins!:bigyikes: ) when I was 25 and my husband was 31. We had been married 4 years.

We then had a miscarriage last year, and then concieved a few later and we now have a 6 month old son. I am now 29 and my husband is 35.

I know so many people who are waiting for a “perfect” time to have children. There is never a “perfect” time to have children. So don’t wait too long!
 
I was 30 years old when I had my first child. It wasn’t that I
was putting it off, I was married at age 29. 🙂
 
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