Why being a virgin is hard

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Just an observation. You say you’re a virgin and have very little sexual experience. It seems to me that if you’re a virgin, you shouldn’t have any sexual experience.

Perhaps you mean something different by the term “sexual experience.” Could you please clarify your meaning?
 
The OP shouldn’t have to go into detail about their sex life on a public forum. I’m not sure why anyone would even ask this question of another person on here, especially when the person is making it clear they are not having sex and are looking for prayers to meet their future spouse.

In any event, I assumed from reading the post that the person was a virgin in that they had not had sex, but at some point they might have engaged however briefly in an activity like kissing or petting that could create sexual feelings.
 
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That’s why I asked the OP for clarification because to me, kissing someone on a date isn’t the same thing and doesn’t lead to those feelings. Anything more, however, could which is why she needs to not lead anyone she dates on. And no, I don’t want details of anyone’s sex life. Ew. Gross.
 
Hmmm…I originally came from Australia… quite a few years ago now…the term “make out” was pretty well understood then…what term do they use now I wonder
 
drz888 said:
Our Father, Who art in heaven…
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“And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others.”
HNA444 said:
I am single, with hopes of getting married some day. I really feel marriage is my vocation, but I also have to be realistic and know that I might never get married. I am so worried, because I am a virgin and have very little sexual experience (by choice), but I am not 21 anymore so now I feel like guys will not want to bother when they can find another girl who will do sexual things with them, not just sex.
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As a married man let me tell you, when you care for someone you don’t worry about the experience as much as learning about each others likes and dislikes and most importantly what makes the other happy.

I’m trying to be helpful here without being too explicit so I’m going to take the plung but warn you I’m just being honest.

What gives me the most satisfaction is pleasing her, being receptive to what your partner wants. Nothing feels closer to another human then when your partner really wants to make you happy both emotionally and physically.

Now there will be days where its less tender and your more ‘romping or playing’ something rough you smile at each other about because you took care of each other 10 minutes before going out in public but thats comes with time.

Bottom line your grew together in the experience. Not everyone likes the same things and your first time is going to be special because you explore that.

So don’t worry, its really something your body already knows how to do. Just be you, focus on you, be the best you. Sex is the lest of your problems.

Now fights about money… ha… that will kill ya.
 
Same here.

It seems like the older I get the less I understand the sexual games a lot of people like to play.
 
I was not as clear as I previously thought.

When I mean games, I mean all the drama, unnecessary drama that comes with extramarital sex. To me it is a lot more trouble than it’s worth.
 
Agreed but young bodies are like magnets, endless attraction and big balls of clumped pulling in all directions.

The drama I mean though the other thing is kinda true too.
 
I know a couple who married at ages 39 & 37 - both were virgins. They had 3 healthy kids after age 40 and have a ridiculously great marriage, the best on both sides of their families. HANG IN THERE! God is with you, he loves you. Check out what Jason Evert has to say about Chastity on YouTube or on the Chastity website. Don’t lose hope - God will reward your faithfulness beyond what you can imagine.
 
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Hmmm…I originally came from Australia… quite a few years ago now…the term “make out” was pretty well understood then…what term do they use now I wonder
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Perhaps the area you lived in was more Americanised Peebo.It just wasn’t part of our vocabulary,and neither was any suggestive talk ,at high school even in the late 80’s.
 
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That’s not charitable. The OP brought a legitimate concern
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My comment has nothing to do with a legitimate concern. I am personally glad I don’t have to be concerned any more. Perhaps when I was the OP’s age, I felt differently.
It’s not very charitable for you to criticize people over basically nothing.
 
I wouldn’t hold hands or kiss a woman on the cheek in the front pew of a church… yet I don’t consider those objectively sinful in other contexts. No personal displays of affection, chaste or otherwise, are necessary in a church.
 
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I wouldn’t hold hands or kiss a woman on the cheek in the front pew of a church
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DH and I hold hands during Mass, I exchange a kiss at the sign of peace with family, some friends. While this may be your personal practice, it is not unseemly.
 
I’d like to offer an opinion, but seeing as how the OP has not offered anything but her original post, I have to wonder if this is a trolling or baiting post. After all, if someone is as “agitated” as she is, why isn’t she in on the conversation. I think the OP is just “winding up” the audience and sitting back to laugh at the responses. I think this thread needs to die.
 
Here is a different side view HNA444.

Are involved in Your local Parish Church?

Does the Parish Priest (PP) or other Priests know You are still single.?
Sometimes it may help to arrange suitable suitors (men to be) from Your Parish.

Have You tried the Catholic Singles Web Site that was mentioned?

Have You ever thought about travelling and meeting a single Catholic Man in your travels?
(or joining a club or tour group to travel with)
Or sometimes men from a different culture or country?

Play any sports or hobbies which can have single men involved?

I suppose the list can go on forever.

Do not ever give up and do not lower your standards either.

Pray sincerely to God every night (Rosary too) and tell God all about it.
(probably already do but keep Believing)

PS Are any of your female friends (or best friend) married?
Sometimes it makes it much easier for them to match-make
from Single men they know from both sides, ie Husbands and Wives. (Wife)
Maybe tell them if not. But You have to be “positive” and also “present Yourself to the world”.
Give still hints I am still single & looking (like Facebook etc) or at Your employment or Studies.
 
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