Why being a virgin is hard

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I don’t know if I can take someone with the username : “Capta(name removed by moderator)rudeman” seriously. It seems like a joke. lol
 
I’m very serious. You don’t need to eat somebody’s face to prove that you love them.
 
LOL!! You can’t be scared of someones face and claim to love them at the same time.
 
Just because you won’t make out with someone doesn’t mean you’re “scared of their face.” It just means…you don’t want to make out.
 
Everyone has different expectations. All need to be taken into consideration.
 
That includes considering that maybe somebody can love you and not want to kiss you right now. They could just be like me and see significance in the kiss that makes them want to save it for somebody that makes the promise to love them forever.
 
Or they can be like me and disagree with you. I am sure you will find someone with that same mindset. I personally wouldn’t save kissing for marriage. To me it makes no sense.
 
Interesting find. Kind of a hard thing to use today as most people who wait until their 20’s or 30’s for marriage today. Back in the 1600’s - 1800’s people got married at a young age when most people went directly from mom and dads house to live with their spouse. Today people like me live alone and don’t ask parents permission to date. If you think about a lot of parents in today’s culture they either A) tend to neglect their kid or B) can be over protective and do not allow their teen to date. Today, a lot of people do not date until college when they are out of mom and dads house.
 
Will pray for you and I’m sorry you have to go through this in today’s society. But there are certainly guys who do value virginity.

Anyway we all need help with this. Whenever I think being a virgin is hard, I remember there was once a girl who was truly virgin but had to tell her fiancé that she is pregnant and probably became talk of the town. Yet she persevered and became great.
 
Marriage is INCREDIBLY hard. That should never be understated to singles who spend all their days yearning for a future marital paradise. There’s a reason why nearly half of marriages end in divorce. It is extremely hard work… even when you love your partner.
 
It can be extremely hard. I surely don’t expect it all to be Disneyland when I get married. But I tend to hear more negative than positive from older people about marriage. It has come to a point that even older people tell me and my friends to “never get married.” People who are faithful Catholics.
 
Well, if I run for President, the last thing I want is a family to drag around. I’m a Catholic Free Spirit 😃
 
I’ll have to get myself one, up the “innocent Catholic boy” appeal a ton.
 
I’m a catholic man and honestly I don’t think that would deter me at all if I were interested. Don’t be afraid to take a risk( appropriate) or two in life, you stated you were more guarded? But I would be maybe a bit intimidated as I’m not as innocent, but I wouldn’t let that get in the way of anything if I truly wanted to get to know you. If anything it makes people more attractive,they have virtue.
 
Making out is a mortal sin since it gives rise to sexual passions.

According to a decree of Pope Alexander VII in 1666, a kiss is not “merely a venial sin when performed for the sake of the carnal and sensible delight which arises from the kiss, even if the danger of further consent and pollution is excluded.”

– Alexander VII, “Condemned Decrees” proclaimed on the 18th day of March in 1666 (Denzinger 2060, 1140 40).
 
You are doing good. Pray and offer this to God. Things r getting harder I think. Sadly I have had two guys who are married ask me out. Very humiliating. A third guy was suggestive. A number of the guys i work with purposely choose not to wear a wedding ring. I’m just saying being careful is good.

I think saying a kiss is always a sin is a little too far. The Bible refers to good kisses and bad ones. It is about what the kiss represents.
 
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