Why being a virgin is hard

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Other people’s divorces shouldn’t scare you in the least. Firstly, you need to know yourself very well. Then you need to get to know the woman you are dating very well. The most important thing to find out is her commitment to the idea that marriage is for life. You may not be able to ask these questions directly, but may need to do some sleuthing. What sort of things has she committed to in the past? Has she ever kept at something even though it wasn’t much fun? What struggles has she had? How does she cope with stress? Does her family think of her as a stable person?
 
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OsculeturMeOsculo said:
Because love isn’t always physical.
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Thank you! I wish more people realised that. We have a saying and it’s “My soul loves your soul”, heck—bodies change, so does our style, haircuts, etc. and it feels so uplifting to know that someone loves you for you, not for an exterior presence.

Of course, I am not talking about letting yourself go or being a slob, but even then—love has to be worked on. 💗
 
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Imagine, if you will, being a teenage virgin in a very strict society. Suddenly, you are pregnant, and not married! Yet, you are still a virgin. Then, you have to travel all over the place, by donkey. First to one small town where you are treated like an outcast. You give birth in the most unsanitary conditions imaginable. Then, you find out that the powers that be are out to kill your baby. You flee and they kill all other baby boys in that town.

Then, you have to flee to a foreign country - one that you hate and whose people hate you. Then, you are uprooted once again and have to go back home,but you can’t, as the powers that be still want to kill your baby! So, you divert. And, not only do people tell you crazy talk about your baby, He wanders away from you for three days when He is 12 years old - old enough to know better! You watch your boy grow, perform miracles, end up betrayed, tortured and murdered.

Yes, being a virgin is difficult indeed.
 
Virginity in all times and nations was and will be a priority for married life. It needs not to be ashamed but to be proud of.
 
If it is intertwined with lust, and is outside of marriage, yes it is. I suggest you read “On our passions” by St. Anthony of the Desert. God bless.
 
Foreplay is reserved for marriage.

What most people call making out is deep kissing, fondling, it is the very definition of foreplay.

If you would do it on the front pew of Church in front of your priest and her father and his mother, then it is cool before marriage.
 
I’l just hold hands until Marriage 😊 But not on the first date 😠

Now where’s that courting candle… 🕯️
 
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We are not talking about offensive headgear, we are talking about sexual acts.

Ask you this, would you french kiss your sister?

Or, when you are married, are you okay with your wife french kissing her co-worker?

Of course not, because we all know that french kissing is an overtly sexual act.
 
I am so impressed by you. I knew a guy like that once a 40yr old catholic guy (virgin) and he is the most impressive guy I ever knew (I moved away now so I don’t know how he is getting on).
I think you guys rock and I most certainly will pray for you, as one of the fallen one’s…don’t do it…it is not worth it. I will most certainly pray for you. May God always give you strength
 
Removing my MAGA hat in church is just following the cultural norm, it has nothing to do with any snowflakes that I might be offending.

My point was that your metric of measuring appropriate behavior between the members of an unmarried couple is not a good one.
 
Is it your point that french kissing is not a sexual act? Again, would you french kiss your mom?
 
Be strong and pay no attention to those who criticize your choices. I think you’re awesome for the stand you take.
 
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