Shibboleth:
Not beleiving in God is an action. Intentionally not doing something is a decision which is an internal action.
I do understand what you are saying but it still does not change that you are intentionally doing things to avoid conception. It is most likely better than the alternatives but it is still doing things so that ones seed is more likely to be wasted.
Well, not spilling your seed is indeed not “wasting” it. Let me offer Christ’s words…
from Matthew 19:
1] Now when Jesus had finished these sayings, he went away from Galilee and entered the region of Judea beyond the Jordan;
2] and large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.
3] And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?”
4] He answered, “Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female,
5] and said, `For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?
6] So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.”
7] They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?”
8] He said to them, “For your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
9] And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity, and marries another, commits adultery.”
10] The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is not expedient to marry.”
11] But he said to them, “Not all men can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given.
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12] For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to receive this, let him receive it.” **
Those who abstain “for the kingdom of heaven” do not “waste” their seed. Neither does a man who abstains for a greater good, properly discerned in prayer and spiritual guidance, when he chooses to “wait” to have relations with his wife. I dislike using “abstain” in the context of marital chastity…we only wait - priests and religious, now they
abstain.