Brad:
Yes - but a man needs marriage for his eternal salvation every bit as much as a woman (many would say moreso). I agree that from a civil perspective it is better for women and children that men are married.
And that’s what I’m talking about – a religion-neutral approach. My point is, Gods commandments are as logical as His rules for chemistry and physics.
Brad:
I understand that. You had a very personal and emotional need. But what you are asking is the government to make subjective determinations of need which I don’t think is feasible…
No. There is no subjectivity about who my parents were, nor that I was at the time unmarried. My mother and father were my immediate family at that time.
Now, as for need – the married man’s need was as subjective as mine – based on a physician’s diagnosis. And my mother’s cancer was as real as the child his wife was carrying.
Brad:
Should they provide for your mother or your father or both? What if your sister and brother were also gravely ill? .
What if my wife and all 12 children were gravely ill? Would you have a military hospital turn away, say children 5 through 12?
Brad:
What if your sister had health care through her spouse but it was not as good as yours?.
If my sister had a spouse, he would be her immediate family. The law has no problem in finding that her husband has rights and responsibilities to her that I do not have.
Brad:
There is no line here and great abuses would occur.
Abuse? Such as denying benefits to my dying parents? Even while I’m doing the same job as someone else who gets benefits for HIS immediate family members?
Brad:
Your argument is the same as those that make the case for homosexual unions…
Yes, a person who is homosexual and not married could assign his benefits to his “partner.” So what?
Brad:
Well, what if that union is promiscuous and there are no children. Should someone else (through health care payments) pay presumably more for someone’s promiscuous lifestyle than would be paid out for a committed married woman with a husband and 4 kids?
I had a soldier under my command who contracted an STD from a prostitute and passed it on to his wife. Both the soldier and his wife were still entitled to military medical care.
Brad:
There is too much subectivity here.
Where? Who a man’s parents are can be objectively determined. Whether his sister is married or not can be objectively determined.
And, in fact, you CAN assign many benefits right now – when I was younger, there was a lady who was very kind to me. I later took out a life insurance policy where she was the beneficiary, listed as “a very dear friend.” I kept that policy up until she passed away. What’s wrong with that?
Brad:
Because it is a job in the military - I personally would not be opposed to the military ONLY granting benefits to all immediate family members when in need - but I would never support extending this concept to all health care plans where you can pick anyone you want.
Why not? What’s wrong with listing one person on your benefits form if you’re not married and have no immediate family that needs the benefits?