Young daughter wants to marry a Muslim!

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It appears she has agreed to be engaged without seeking a dispensation first either.

I’m strongly leaning towards her decision to Marry this man, and avoid relations with her father as being immature and not interested in faith.
 
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I feel very disrespected he didn’t meet with me, much less ask for her hand or my blessing.
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First thing, your daughter is a legal adult. The idea of asking for “hand” or “blessing” is not part of Catholic marriage. A woman freely chooses her husband.

Second, you can be kind and loving or you can drive your daughter away. Your choice.

I have Muslim family members, they are all lovely, kind people who have a deep sense of family. I would not trade them for anything! Get to know this man, your daughter chose him, that is reason enough to build a friendship.
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A deep sense of family does not neglect your potential father in law.
 
There’s so much judgement in this thread, it’s sad.

OP (if you’re still there), just sit down with your daughter and talk to her. Listen to what she says about her fiance, about what she wants to do with her life. Ask her about how they’re planning to navigate their faiths together. Ask to meet him, and when you do, be friendly and get to know him.

I understand why you’re concerned and angry, but this can all be overcome. Don’t assume her motives or his motives until you talk to them.
 
My sister met and quickly married a Muslim … she later found out he needed to marry to stay in the Country … my prayers are with you.
 
What judgments are you referring to?

Not arguing, but when posters make vague criticisms of posts in a thread, it lacks conviction if you dont specify which ones you are criticizing.
 
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What judgments are you referring to?

Not arguing, but when posters make vague criticisms of posts in a thread, it lacks conviction if you dont specify which ones you are criticizing
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I don’t particularly want to be specific. Just the posts that assume nefarious motives on the part of the fiance and the OP’s daughter.
 
“nefarious”? Not sure. Respectful, honorable? I dont see the respect or honor.

If I was the Bishop, I’d want to know how he has respected her parents so far.
 
Yes, op, I would try and convince them to have the marriage delayed until she finished school. Perhaps the excitement of being engaged is new right now and this would give a chance for her to thoroughly think about everything.
 
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I wonder if a parent can speak with the Bishop before his judgment is offered.
 
What makes you think she cares about being married in the Catholic Church? And what makes you think a Muslim would marry in the Catholic Church?
 
I actually dont think they do.

Yet the OP, and those sympathizing with him, are being criticized for expressing concern over their insincerity.
 
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Let me see, quite a logical leap from the Bishop interviewing the parents of two adults to a the reasons to be dispensed to marry a non-Christian is so vast that I cannot even contemplate it.
 
You need to slow down.

I didn’t ask if a Bishop needs to interview parents. I asked if a parent can speak with the Bishop regarding the marriage.

Wouldn’t the Bishop respect some concerns the parent has?
 
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