This is part of the problem - desiring a better “success rate”. Who, in their right Catholic mind, wants a better “success rate”? Aren’t we just looking for one? The right one?
What can you do? :ehh:
There are lots of exceptions and they are usually the most pleasant.Not all girl will have hurt feelings. The guy I am with now liked me for several months before he asked me out, and we saw each other nearly everyday at lunch and club meetings with plenty of conversations in between.And I couldn’t throw any tomatoes if I wanted to. The mocking birds finished off the last of them about two weeks ago.
~K~
Some are better at sorting out undesirables with a brief conversation.
Of course they do. Be who you are. But if you ask a girl out before you have a chance to get really nervous about it, it’s easier. You are still a whippersnapper. Enjoy your life.Yeah, I know what you mean. I think I may have accidentally hurt a few girls’ feelings because I didn’t act fast enough (because of social anxiety, mostly).
I think one thing that has made a BIG difference is I now have friends who are girls, even if most of them I only talk with on the phone. In high school I didn’t have any friends who were girls, so although I liked some girls a lot (especially the blue stockings
I am just wondering something. It seems that many romantic relationships develop from what is initially just friendship. Now that I can talk to girls with more ease, do you think that getting a girlfriend through friendship is the most likely path for me? Do you think that girls ever start out with a guy as a just friend but then find that they are attracted to him and his personality, and so give clues that they want more than just friendship?
I’m an idiot. Ask my wife.
Yes, if they are a “nice” girl themself, then they will like “nice” guys, more than friends. Birds of a feather flock together I suppose. Lack of maturity can cause a girl to be attracted to the “jerk” guy, just like visa versa. Once a person truly knows themself and what they want out of life and out of a spouse, they’ll attract that in a mate. Trouble is, I think most young people are given no advice from their parents on what makes a good wife or husband. I was given nil. I read recently in my Magnificat devotional that like virtue atttracts like virtue. Interesting huh? Ever wonder why friends drift apart? I think this is why.
Indeed. Of course, not all young people grow up in ideal families in which the mother and father love each other. My parents hate each other. :whacky:
Gosh–that’s a shame! I’m so sorry. But see, my parents have never fought once in 55 years, and they still hold hands all the time, and adore each other, and I still had no direction whatsoever in this area. They just let me do whatever I wanted, the opposite of strict. I wish they had guided me way more spiritually, and in the area of marriage. Example is not everything, words are still needed.
I was always attracted to bad boys. I can remember in 2nd grade a boy from the near by junior high being a teacher’s aid to our class. Longer hair, black leather jacket -my 1st crush. I had the “I will rescue him from himself” syndrome. Always liked the troubled makers. Although I never like guys that acted like arrogant jerks. Probably explains why I didn’t date until I met my husband (when I was almost 17.)I hope so. Maybe all of you can pray that the girl who still lives in my heart will yet fall in love with me
Boy, does it! I think a lot of it depends on how we grew up. At least in my case it did.
I’m actually a guy. A lot of people get me mixed up with Mary Magdalen. Madaglan is actually the name of a king in Arthurian lore who was defeated twice in combat by Sir Lancelot. He put up a good fight though
Haha…guess I shouldn’t have chosen the name of a “loser.” 
