Child not getting married in the church

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Elf01 said:
It has rules against supporting and celebrating sin. I would consider attending an invalid marriage to fall under those. Even if it doesn’t my way of making it clear would likely damage the eelationship more than not attending the wedding.
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I think there’s a link a few posts up to a cannon article that says there’s no rule saying one cannot attend the wedding.
 
Elf01 said:
In fact my going could encourage others to marry outside the Church.
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In some cases, yes. In other cases, no. Especially if you make it know you don’t approve and are going to pray for them, for their conversion.

Honestly, I’m not saying attending the wedding is automatically the right thing to do, in every case. But in some cases, attending may drive someone closer to the Church rather than farther away.
 
Yes, it did.
While FIL was of the priest is “always right” mindset, his not attending the wedding was seen, not only by my husband, as a slight, and not at all loving of his father, it was also seen that way by many others, including every other Catholic in attendance.
 
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CilladeRoma said:
Yes, it did.
While FIL was of the priest is “always right” mindset, his not attending the wedding was seen, not only by my husband, as a slight, and not at all loving of his father, it was also seen that way by many others, including every other Catholic in attendance.
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I dont underatand how all these Catholics let this priest bully everyone. Well, actually, knowing how many Catholics fear the authority of a priest, maybe I do.

Your father not attending, in itself, is not wrong. It’s the circumstances of submitting to a priest who was acting wrong.
 
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Psalm30 said:
In some cases, yes. In other cases, no. Especially if you make it know you don’t approve and are going to pray for them, for their conversion.
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Its has already been related in this thread that many Catholics dont believeit’s wrong, or that they care if it’s not in the Church. That’s the reality of what usually happens. No one says anything, and no one cares.
 
Ammi said:
Its has already been related in this thread that many Catholics dont believeit’s wrong, or that they care if it’s not in the Church. That’s the reality of what usually happens. No one says anything, and no one cares.
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But we’re not talking about the “many Catholics” who don’t believe it’s wrong! We’re saying it’s possible to say you don’t approve and are going to attend the wedding to pray for their conversion.
 
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OK, apparently your Church doesn’t have the rule.

Maybe you can see it from the couples perspective now. “My church doesn’t actually have a rule against attending, but I don’t think I should so I’m going to skip your big day… Love you guys though”
 
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Ammi:
Its has already been related in this thread that many Catholics dont believeit’s wrong, or that they care if it’s not in the Church. That’s the reality of what usually happens. No one says anything, and no one cares.
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But we’re not talking about the “many Catholics” who don’t believe it’s wrong! We’re saying it’s possible say you don’t approve and are going to attend the wedding to pray for their conversion.
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Yes, this is the exception. This is what the canon made easy article related. And I agree. Without doing that, it is support, celebration, and scandal, which many Catholics do, and it is very relative. Because it makes the ones who refrain appear ugly, when the ones who dont admonish are lacking charity.
 
Because under conditions of the heart of the law, one can potentially attend.

If they do not admonish, but support the action, then they sin.
 
TC3033 said:
Maybe you can see it from the couples perspective now. “My church doesn’t actually have a rule against attending, but I don’t think I should so I’m going to skip your big day… Love you guys though”
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As I’ve said I’m prepared to take (and have taken) that risk.
 
You’re comparing a brothel to a wedding now? That’s an interesting turn.

I wouldn’t bring that up when “continuing to show love” to the couple…¯_(ツ)_/¯
 
That’s my call too. The point is, just because it’s our call, doeant mean anything.

I could go to a brothel and meet someone I cared about, and talk to her. No intentions to support her sins. Just pray for her.
 
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Ammi said:
I could go to a brothel and meet someone I cared about, and talk to her. No intentions to support her sins. Just pray for her.
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This does very, very little to prove your point. And it’s absurd. If you want to convince a person to marry in the Church rather than in a secular ceremony, please don’t mention to them the word brothel. It will surely not yield the result you want (deciding to marry in the Church rather than a secular ceremony).

No one’s opinion on this is going to change—the same things are being said over and over. This poor horse was dead fifty posts ago.
 
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