Like your style. I would say that I am a “Reformed Baptist”, but not over the top, which is to say that religion is the prevailing factor regarding this issue. I just perhaps think an feel that (2) people that claim to “love” each other, owe it to each other be as modest as possible. For example, I consider “love” to be demonstrative, through actions. i.e. - a wife trying to avoid any intimate exposure to another male (doctor), if can be avoided.
Oh yes, no offense taken. I hope I didn’t offend by asking the question to you, Homers. I just know a few people who are Baptists, and they are very strict on certain views, so I wondered if this could be another view that just differs because of religious background and beliefs.
Fair enough. I don’t think you are alone in your stance, from a male perspective. But, just be careful of putting your opinion on others, that’s all. I’m sure these women on this board ***adore their ***hubbies, and would never intentionally hurt them.:nope: We don’t view seeing a male physician as hurting our hubbies, or violating any intimacies with our spouses. We don’t view this as immodesty, because it’s part of a clinical exam. I don’t pretend to think that NO doctors ever have ‘thoughts,’ but by and large, male doctors are not lusting after their patients.
My answer to this question is…by a wife saying that this area of my body is intended just for you, and that only if the absolute need and necessity arises, will I ever need to expose myself to another man.Homers–you infer here something different though:
Originally Posted by Homers
What have YOU done for your marriage today?
*Whatevergirl, I hope you don’t mind me using your prompt, “what have you done for your marriage today.”
-Wouldn’t all of you ladies like to be able to say to all of your husbands, because I love you so much, and** value our honor and intimacy of the marriage, I chose to protect our intimacy as much as possible. ***
You seem to view that if your wife were to go see a male ob/gyn, that she would be dishonoring the intimacy between the two of you, and I ask…how so? How does not seeing a male physician edify one’s marriage?
Surely a just as competent female doctor could have diagnosed this? It respectfully sounds like your trying to convince yourself that it was ok to see this male doctor?
EH? whats there not to be okay?
CORRECT! I guess some things will never be explained. i.e., why some male doctors “cross the line”, and why some women submit themselves to non-emergent male doctor exams.
Grace, Shalom back to you as well, however, I do not submit to your point of view. Too many male doctors have crossed the line. A “doc is not a doc”. There are male and female doctors, and most women have a choice. Some women have even become aroused during these type of exams. If you think that the gyn exam is completely clinical, then you definitely need to review the student doctor website posted previously on this thread.
Thank you for this eloqent response. I would be interested in hearing your husband’s view on this matter, if you’d be kind enough to share it with us please. My wife and I also respect each others decisions, but not at the expense of each other or our marriage.
Women in some of the previous links provided have admitted to becoming aroused during these types of exams. When I hear this, it makes me think of some poor sex starved women who’s husband is possibly never at home, whereby making the exam even more inappropriate than what it already is. No, I am not concerned in the slightest that my wife will stray, as what she and I have is rock solid. We are just cautious when it comes to exposing our selves. i.e., I would never want a female nurse doing a foley on me when she’s not around, or a male nurse inserting a foley on her when I am not present, etc.Homers, so are you worried your wife might become aroused during the exam? One post you say, you are worried that she will be “violated,” now you are speaking of imaginary stats about women becoming aroused?
I encourage you to seek some spiritual advice and guidance for your fears of your wife possibly straying from you. I think that is more of where this lies for you. I say that to you in Christian charity, please know that. For you to post that about women becoming aroused during ob/gyn exams, it speaks volumes to what “some” of your concerns might be that cause you to be wary of your wife seeing a male physician.
Respectfully, why would you ever want to expose yourself in a non-emergent setting?
