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Do you know how special you are? Please stay just the way you are. You and your husband is in my prayers
Cassie, your strong and unfailing faith is a powerful example for us all. You are an inspiration to me. :angel1:I continue to thank and pray for all of CAF members who have offered their prayers and words of encouragement. I know that God has been working with both my husband and I during this difficult situation. My husband is having a difficult time with me forgiving him for what he has done and is struggling with forgiving himself. He is not convinced that I will be able to take him back because of what he has done. We had a very long talk today about what happened, which was very hard for me, but we needed to talk about it if we are going to work through this. He asked if he were to ask me to come out and be with him what would I do. I told him I would be packing bags right now and be there as soon as I could. We both realize that we can not go back to what we had because it did not work, we would have to start new. As for his depression he will be able to get an appointment whenever he wants, he just has to let them know a week in advance. I told him to make it as soon as possible and I will be there for him. I know that our reconcilation will take time, maybe years, but I have faith in the Lord and I have hope. I will not give up on my husband in his time of need because I know that he would do the same for me. We continue to love each other and share a deep friendship for one another. I would like to offer hope to anyone else out there who is going through a similar situation. Nothing is impossible with the Lord, just continue to believe and keep your faith strong. At times it will seem that hope is lost and that God has abandoned you, but that is just the evil one coming between you and God. Ask God for help, He always listens. I don’t know the outcome of my situation, but I am not giving up, I trust in Him. May God Bless All of You!
Thank you and may God Bless You! You are all in my prayers!Want to share this with you. I believe we all can heal with a little help. My prayers are with you.
Helping Each Other Through Change
by Rick Warren
“I hope you will be patient with me ….” (2 Corinthians 11:1a, NLT)
In order to manage change, you must remember four things –
Love each other
The first mistake most people make during change is to focus on what they’ve lost, instead of what has been gained – and that creates fear. The antidote to fear is love: “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear ….” (1 John 4:18 NKJ)
It’s impossible for love and fear to exist in the same environment – If we’ll focus on loving each other, then we’ll break out of the self-centeredness that often emerges during change. The love that conquers fear involves thinking about others instead of focusing on your own needs – and the more you love, the less you fear.
Listen to each other
During transition, we must be “quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry ….” (James 1:19 NIV) If we get the first two right (quick listening, slow speaking), then the third (slow anger) will become automatic. It reflects the concept of “seeking to understand” before trying “to be understood.”
“Post this at all the intersections, dear friends: Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle along in the rear.” (James 1:19 MSG)
Level with each other
We must speak the truth in love to each other if we’re going to walk together through change. It is human nature to avoid confronting someone directly, but then we fall into problems – even gossip – by talking to other people about the person we need to confront.
We can’t get close to each other until we deal honestly with our fundamental differences. “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.” (Ephesians 4:15 NIV)
Liberate each other
Finally, we need to show each other grace – “cut each other some slack” – during transition. Liberating each other means letting go and treating someone else the same way Jesus treats you.
In other words, we shouldn’t lean into legalism or lording mistakes over others. People will make mistakes, and our response should be to recognize that these things will happen. The goal is not to make those who make mistakes feel bad, but rather to let them get over it and move on.
+JMJTJ+he asked if I could forgive him and would I take him back. I started crying and told him that I have forgiven him and that he was never really gone from me because I kept praying ffor him.am keeping all of you in my prayers!
I’ll be praying for you both.Please pray that my husband will let Jesus Christ enter his heart and that he will give our marriage a chance. He will be coming back the 17th to talk and I pray that time has let him search his heart and realize that he would like to give this marriage a chance. I pray that this will be God’s will.
Cassie,I continue to be humbled by everyone’s prayers and words of encouragement. I have found that this crisis has brought both my husband and I closer to each other and to God. There have been times when I thought all was lost and I was alone, but through prayer and through all of you CAF members I continued to have faith and hope in the Lord. I offer praise and thanksgiving to God and hope that I can continue to help others as they have helped me. I truly believe that there are angels here on Earth and here on the Forum who have helped me and others through tough times. I pray for all of them and that God will bless their lives.
May God Bless You All!
Thank you shajek74 for this prayer. I have been praying this prayer twice a day since the start of this crisis and it has helped me. I hope this prayer will help others that are going through marriage difficulties.I am praying for you and your husband.
Pray this prayer:
We ask your prayers, St. Joseph, an upright man, a spouse who planned to divorce Mary in secret and who by God’s grace was able to see his role in God’s plan.
We ask you in our behalf to pray to God that our marriage be healed. We are enveloped in pain and despair as you must have been when you learned of Mary’s pregnancy. Be for and with us, Joseph, in our hour of doubt. Let us listen to and heed the voice of God as you did.
Be our intercessor to your Jesus, to give us the blessings to change, to listen, to forgive and most of all to hope that our marriage will heal and our family remain whole and holy.
We give you honor, quiet St. Joseph, for you are a spouse like us, who while knowing pain, did not divorce. By God’s grace you nourished the Holy Family and the Savior of all families throughout the ages.
Amen.
I prayed this prayer for many weeks and my marriage was put back in order. I pray the same for you.