Yes we’re here. Yesterday while at a coffee shop, waiting for my wife, of over 30 years, a young woman entered wearing clothing that would have made a prostitute blush. She was not attractive, she was a slut. Yes, i’m “gaga” for my wife! I didn’t lust for this young woman, i prayed for her.
Absolutely! I also think one of the most appealing things is for a man to talk openly about his spirituality. Man, when I hear Jim Caviezel talk about praying the Rosary or Mary, I find that very appealing. Maybe I’m just a Catholic nerd!
That addiction is so much easier to hide. If a woman finds porn she knows what her husband has been up to. If a man finds a romance novel what will the typical clueless husband think? He won’t think that his wife is fantasizing about men who have characteristics he could not possibly live up to. Its can lead to lustful thought and can be very determintal to a marriage and what makes it especially bad is the husband will have no idea why.
I would agree that some ‘romance’ novels are written as sexually explicity, which is wrong. However, the seriousness of porn is even greater, since it involves the ‘use’ of real human beings being used as objects (whether they are willing subjects or not is beside the point). The more these sort of publications are purchased, the more this ‘abuse’ is continued and worsened. It hurts everyone involved. It’s a sin. It damages marriage, which was instituted by Christ, and it’s *very bad * for the soul.
I agree. There’s a great Catholic man! Jim Cavaziel. Not only is he quite good looking, and a good actor, but he’s a very good soul. What a catch his wife made when she found him! He’s a gem! I admire him for his faith. It’s quite impressive, especially in light of the fact that he is an actor and deals with Hollywood people all the time (where lack of faith and anything-goes is the standard). He’s a good example for other Christian men!Absolutely! I also think one of the most appealing things is for a man to talk openly about his spirituality. Man, when I hear Jim Caviezel talk about praying the Rosary or Mary, I find that very appealing. Maybe I’m just a Catholic nerd!
Seriously though, if you guys only knew that it only takes a small bit of effort, perhaps paying attention to the little things and giving a compliment here and there, to keep those fires burning…
OK, not saying that all men don’t know, but in general it seems like there is some confusion about what women really want.
Hey wasn’t that a movie??
Blessings,
Nicole
I want to believe that. I really do. But I know too many women who can divorce sex from intimacy without thinking about it. I’m a guy, and we’re stereotypically known for being able to do that. But some of these girls. I don’t know…they just seem empty.
I would agree that the problem is more prevalent with men, however, regardless, it’s a pretty cynical point of view. Yes, there are sinners of both sexes. However, I believe that most people, deep down, really want to be loved. They may be damaged goods or steeped too far into sin for it to be evident on the surface, but I believe that all people desire love (not sex). And the greatest love, of course, is God’s. Sex, by itself, does not equate with love. Sex, within the union of marriage is beautiful. Through a close spiritual relationship with Christ, the couple can cultivate that love and it will grow through time, developing into something that goes beyond just mere physical attraction. Of course, people can and do reject Christ and marriages do not always end happily. It’s not God’s failure but one or the other person. They commit adultery, they divorce, etc. But when they look to sex outside marital union, outside of God’s covenant, they are making a grave error. It’s not our ability to love, but God’s. We only know love, through God. If the act of sex is done without God, it’s not only sinful, but doesn’t bring happiness, but despair. God’s love is where true happiness is found.
I think there is a clear distinction to be drawn between lust and simply admiring God’s beautiful creation. I thank God every day that he made women so beautiful and appealing!
The word chaste does not mean celibate, so even if Joseph had been married and had had children before marrying Mary, if he was faithful to his then wife he was chaste within his state in life–that of a married man. Just for the sake of clarity.
