Should I marry a non-catholic or be single forever?

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DivineMercy01 said:
Not true for two reasons
  1. A degree does more than provide a job-makes you a better human (and a better homeschooler)
  2. If something were to happen to my husband I would need it
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In all fairness, while a degree may make you a more educated human, it certainly doesn’t make you a “better” human.
 
JimmyTolder said:
Every girl thinks she’s a “catch”.
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Uhh, no. Do you know all the girls in the world and can read their minds?

If no, then how do you know?

I’m short, poor and ugly. 🤣🤣

I know that and I do not think of myself as a catch.

Just trying to live life being faithful to God.
 
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JimmyTolder said:
You lucky dog. Us short, ugly, and poor-as-dirt guys are glad you’re as rare as you are. Otherwise we’d all be staring down the cold barrel of a lonely life.
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Yeah. I view my lesser men with pity. But it’s nice to be able to look down on them from a height of 6ft, while weightlifting with my own ego.
 
As I stated above, I probably should have used another phrase than “better human.” I don’t mean more virtuous. I just mean more educated.

And I have noticed in nearly every city in the US, there are about three devout Catholic women for every devout Catholic man. I have some beautiful, intelligent, virtuous, single female friends. There are plenty of women who are good catches, there are simply more of us who choose not to lower our standards to non-Catholics or lukewarm/fallen away Catholics.
 
I am talking in general.
There is an old folk tale, I don’t remember the exact wording but it goes a bit like this.

A princess was waiting for her prince
The first lover knocked at the door.
The princess said ‘who is at the door?’
The guy replied ‘I am prince such and such, I am handsome, wealthy and brave’.
The door remained closed.
The second lover came at the door.
The princess said ‘Who is at the door?’
The second guy replied ‘I am prince such and such, my kingdom is powerful and I am noble and fearless’
The door remained still closed.
The third lover came.
Again the princess said ‘Who is at the door?’
He replied ‘it is YOU’.
And the door finally was open.
 
I’m not in the dating market.

I’ve given up on the dating game.

If I had a dollar for every guy who says that no girl wants him all the while ignoring the average looking girls while pursuing the gorgeous girls who in turn ignore him, I’d be a millionaire.
 
In fairness. You are probably not going to end up married with your current attitude.
You don’t seem prepared to compromise on anything and you come across as a bit full of yourself. I have a feeling that if I asked you to rate your looks on a scale of 1-10 you’d be a ten.

It’s not that a man doesn’t want to be with a confident woman, but there is such a thing as overconfident and setting your sights too high.

If you’re looking for a guy who is uber devout, tall, handsome, relatively financially secure, withing your age range, with a good personality, and as educated as you, you are really limiting your choices, because those men are likely to be in high demand. I mean, that is quite a rarity. Also if a devout catholic man has his S*** together early in his 20’s, he is normally looking to get married, so he could be already taken.
 
DivineMercy01 said:
And I have noticed in nearly every city in the US, there are about three devout Catholic women for every devout Catholic man.
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This is true in fairness. The problem is that some of these women simply aren’t interested in the genuine Catholic men. I see it all the time.
DivineMercy01 said:
There are plenty of women who are good catches, there are simply more of us who choose not to lower our standards to non-Catholics or lukewarm/fallen away Catholics.
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Let me ask you this, would you lower some of your other standards to date a Catholic guy who was committed and genuine about the faith. But maybe a bit “average” in other ways?
 
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Lol. When you find out where these genuine Catholic men are, let me know! My single lady friends complain that they don’t exist.
AdamP88 said:
Let me ask you this, would you lower some of your other standards to date a Catholic guy who was committed and genuine about the faith.
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Sure, assuming by committed and genuine you mean loves the church and lives her teachings. I don’t have time for anyone who attends a Catholic church but lives a non-Catholic lifestyle.
 
DivineMercy01 said:
Lol. When you find out where these genuine Catholic men are, let me know! My single lady friends complain that they don’t exist.
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My single Catholic male friends have the same complaint.
DivineMercy01 said:
Sure, assuming by committed and genuine you mean loves the church and lives her teachings. I don’t have time for anyone who attends a Catholic church but lives a non-Catholic lifestyle.
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Yes, that’s what I mean. And I agree with you 100% on this.
 
DivineMercy01 said:
A degree does more than provide a job-makes you a better human (and a better homeschooler)
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This is one dogpile I really don’t want to get into, but I do want to thank you for this one observation. Sadly, though, college (at least undergraduate school) being a time of character development, growing as a person, self-actualization, and “finding oneself” is becoming an outdated concept. I was blessed (what some would call “lucky”) — I got a full academic scholarship and could study anything I darn well pleased — but those who have to take out a six-figure loan to go to college, don’t have the luxury of doing this, and are forced to “max out” their degrees to “get more bang for the buck”.

But thank you for saying this. I would rather be dead than to live in a world where all human effort is ordained towards money-making activity. Even the Soviets appreciated that there was more to life than working and providing for material needs.
 
Seriously, your choice of words, such as saying all girls, all single Catholic girls, seem to indicate that you think of women or girls, as having a hive mind, part of a collective. They’re human beings just like men and are individuals. Believe it or not, we don’t all think alike.

Seriously, if all women thought of themselves as too good for men, there’d be no such thing as marriage.

Yet shockingly, most people do get married.
 
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The question is, why is higher education so ridiculously expensive in the US?
 
HomeschoolDad said:
I would rather be dead than to live in a world where all human effort is ordained towards money-making activity. Even the Soviets appreciated that there was more to life than working and providing for material needs.
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I agree.

I think this has more to do with the Protestant work ethic?
 
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