St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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Good bunch of posts from all about “love languages”.

Something to definitely think about and I’ll probably buy and read the book one of these days. I have to get through the stack thats gathering dust beside my bed right now though.

Thanks to all who contributed. I am definitely feeling the way you are feeling M4T. Definitely. I’m very lonely right now and feeling very unloved by my DH. My biggest problem is I keep trying to take the reigns back from God. I give them to Him only to take them back thinking “AHA! I have the solution! Here let ME do this!” only to find out, nope, not from God, but from me. :confused:

I continue to pray and think about all of you beautiful women who are struggling so with their marriages and dealing with spouses with addictions.
 
Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.
 
catholicmom:

Thank you for that post! I think I have heard of that book. I’ll take a look at itI I have a difficult time thinking of God as my lover (I know what you mean by that). I’m just not at the point you are at right now. As for the Songs of Solomon: I’ve read those. They are beautiful. But right now, well, they don’t help either. I must need a good smack upside the side from our Lord. But you know what? Even though I’m not “there” yet, I can feel that my Lord does love me and that sees all that I am enduring, for His sake, not mine or my dh’s. God has given me the gift of obedience. I think that’s what gets me through tough times. I will remember you in my prayers, too! God bless you always!

Lamb:
You are always in my prayers! I do hope that things will start looking up for you soon! God loves you and so do I!
 
Dear BeeSweet:

As always, thank you for posting the prayers each day. You have no idea how that means to me that you take time to do this! How are you doing, Bee? I hope things are getting better for you. You are always in my prayers!

Much love,
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
 
mom4truth said:
Dear BeeSweet:

As always, thank you for posting the prayers each day. You have no idea how that means to me that you take time to do this! How are you doing, Bee? I hope things are getting better for you. You are always in my prayers!

Much love,
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Keeping up I guess! :o We saw the counselor last week, at least my husband did anyway. He came out of the session rather agitated, it seemed to me he spent the whole hour complaining about me. 😦 The counselor wants to see us together next time. I hope it’s soon. The day after his session, he made a dangerous and stupid mistake. He wanted my forgiveness, but I told him it was like forgiving my mom for being an alcoholic. It would be like forgiving someone with cancer for being sick. I told him he needed psychological help, and that he needed to talk about himself, and not so much about me. I’m growing extremely weary of the sleeping arrangements. And like you, the love is not to be felt around here. I was given a kiss on the cheek before bed last night. I’m so tired and sad. It’s been two months since my last confession, I’m really needing to go, since these struggles are so hard on my faith. I appreciate everyone’s prayers here so much. I’m praying for all of you and your families! :gopray2:
 
Praying for all here…am so busy with the move.
Warning…once the computer is disconnected, it might be a day or so for re-connection…calling internet provider right now!

I will update the time once i know.

Lana
 
Hi ladies,

we must all really be in sync-I am having much similar problems. My husband sleeps on the sofa almost every night. I am so lonely. I know God is with me, and it does comfort me, but I miss my husband and the way we used to be so long ago. I also worry that my poor innocent daughter is getting the wrong image of what marriage should be :(.

Anyway, I am praying for all of you every night, I think about you all the time and I’m thankful for everyone’s insight and support! ❤️

Saint Monica, please pray for us, that we might be blessed with your patience and perseverance as we struggle in our own troubled marriages!
 
Monica darlin, mine has the extra bed in the basement, and the couch worn out…but i try hard to see the good side. He’s sober, and home. I have gotten so close to the girls since this started. With a king size bed, i am never short of hugs…one on each arm.

We call them dates, and we let Daddy know, just incase he wants to go to bed. He turns it down, and we get the popcorn, a movie, and hunker down for a good movie. Sometimes i evern paint their fingers and toes if it is one i have seen over and over again. They see mamma still nurturing, not wallowing…this is important.

I say to my girls, i am so glad they do not like wresteling, or SG1, or constant weather channel…The girls say, are all boys so much like this. I said, kinda…they are not really into girls night…but that’s good, it would get real crowded if he did.

Lana
 
Ok girls/guys, i will miss being on for a bit…BOOOO HOOOOO!

Computer gets disconnected tommorrow, and reconnected WEDNESDAY…that is 4 days…holy cow, will i go threw withdrawals? Pray for the nearly non existing nails i have, to not disapear over the 4 days.

Ok, a prayer or so will do wonders if you can spare it.

Lana
 
Lana,

I too cherish the time with my daughter, my little sunshine 🙂

praying for you and your move!❤️
 
Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
 
HELLO…I’m Back!!!

finally moved, finally have tv and internet…just waiting for the phone! All the basics are set up…beds, kitchen, livingroom and a kitty space!

Just have to unpack EVERYTHING else…:eek:

Slow and steady wins the race…

Sooooo tired, and the move was HUGE…i was unable to lift a thing, so the packing was done as they lifted things. I’d fill a bag, and had areas…Garbage, Farm (storage), Apartment…

The two men and my husband worked so hard for 2.5 days!

My husband asked to be driven to the store to get a 12 of beer when we were all done…I just could not say no…i simply asked him to drink it at the farm.

DH paid the other workers 250 each for helping…i was shocked!
But i was very apreciative of this act, as he usually does not do things like this. That is a LOT of money for us, so for him to do this was to please me, as i had arranged for the help.

I never stopped thanking him for all of the strenuous work he did, and took time off work to move…but he has slept at the farm for two days…one more day, and the 12 will be out of his system.

Prayers were so apreciated, as it was high stress, and DH was good to everyone…out of character really…I think he might have been a hermit in his previous life.

Ok, rambling, but glad to be back!

lana
 
Rammy,

You’re so funny! I think that my husband may have been a hermit in a previous life, too! ha ha! I’m glad your move went o.k. (as o.k. as can be expected). Your dh seems to be making “some” progress??? Like you said before, slow and steady wins the race. Gee, mine is slower than all get-out!! But, that’s another story.

Glad you’re back. Hang in there and take care of yourself!

Much love,
 
Thanks Mom…

We ate together our dinner for the first time in two weeks. Wow, it beats the 12 lbs gained from fast food…and has flavor too!

Even the kids were saying…not pizza again! and other diddies…

Well, it was 9:30, and DH, and the 2 girls were in bed…

The dishes were done, laundry gathered, kittly litter cleaned, garbage out…and i had FREE time…What the heck is that!!!

This is un-nerving…new…forign…oh this normal stuff takes a getting used to!!

Well, maybe i will go to bed, considering it will be the first time in a week i might get to sleep before midnight…👍

so…thinking of you all, and praying for you all.

God Bless!

Lana
 
Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
 
Rammy said:
We ate together our dinner for the first time in two weeks. Wow, it beats the 12 lbs gained from fast food…and has flavor too!

Even the kids were saying…not pizza again! and other diddies…
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Nothing makes you appreciate your own cooking than eating out for a week!!

I’m so glad you’re all getting settled into your new home Lana, here’s hoping it truly is a fresh start for you all!
 
Hello all!

I wish I was posting here to tell you my DH has had an epiphany and has become a non-drinker, has our master bedroom remodel done (he started it two months ago), and I was moved back and we are living happily ever after.

Well, I’m not here to post that, but I am here to share some of what I have been doing and how things are going.

Two weeks ago, after a discussion that devolved into hurt feelings and angry words, I decided to start praying for my DH in a more overt manner. Every day for nine days I sent an e-mail to my DH which contained the prayer for the Novena to St. Therese’ the Little Flower, a Prayer of Abandonment and a third prayer which I changed a couple of times. Since I ended the Novena, I decided to continue to e-mail him prayers. Today I sent the passage from today’s 1st reading, the Gospel and a passage from Jeremiah which has been very helpful to me. Not sure what I will do tomorrow. I may resend today’s.

As I prepare the e-mail, I say the prayers and then send them to DH. He has never said anything to me about the prayers, but slowly his attitude has been changing. He is choosing to spend more time with us (me and DD). We drove to the mountains on the 4th and spent the day exploring and had a picnic in the pine forest (complete with ants!). When we got home we ALL drove to the fireworks display and watched some of the best fireworks our community has put on in years, AND HE ENJOYED IT!

I, too, have been changing. I am choosing to let go of our discussions sooner instead of getting worked up and angry when he doesn’t respond or doesn’t respond the way I would like him to. I had an urging to be as a mother to him (DH). To guide him and love him as a mother would and I think this change in perspective has helped me to be more patient and understanding. When I think of him as a child in need of a mother he seems more vulnerable and more approachable. It also helps me to get out of conversations when his responses become incoherent (not because he’s drinking but because he’s not making sense).

He is being more loving and concerned for how I’m feeling. Today he was worried that I was grumpy or upset about something and kept asking me if I was okay. He is being more like his old self, more spontaneous with occasional affection. I was a Lector at Mass today and afterward, he told me I looked good. He is coming upstairs every night now to give me a kiss and say good night.

I’m not so deluded to believe he is changing for good, but it seems we are making small steps forward for now. I think he hasn’t drank in about a week now, so maybe he’s moving forward in the right direction.

I keep praying for him for me and for our marriage. I am praying as well for all of you, for the healing and reparation of your marriages and your lives. May our Savior Jesus Christ, bring peace and healing to you.
 
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