St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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[SIGN]Good morning, sisters in Christ![/SIGN]

How are you? I slept fantastically, as did the rest of my family. My wee son came in around 6am and slept an hour longer in between us. šŸ™‚

We just had breakfast, and soon Dh will take Ds out to the playground and play and Iā€™ll take our two cockers for a walk. Then weā€™ll eventually go up to my MILā€™s and Iā€™ll pick some berries for a pie or for Dsā€™ porridge.

Theyā€™re calling for rain here but the sun is brightly shining! Iā€™m not a fan of summer so I am anxious for autumn to arrive and cooler weather. We can do so much more then! One of the dogs keeps us sort of locked in staying home when itā€™s too warm for him to be in the mini-van because he canā€™t be home with the other without howling and barking. If we need to go somewhere, we have to either put him in doggy daycare for the day or just go somewhere he can follow in to.

Hope you all have a great day! For me itā€™s day 1 of the 54 day novena.
 
[SIGN]Hi Tee, and welcome! [/SIGN]

So sorry to hear that your hubby isnā€™t being respectfulā€¦ I do listen to some rock as well, but it doesnā€™t affect me like that. I listen to a wide variety of musicā€¦

I will pray for your husband as I do for everyone in this thread.

:gopray: :hug1:
 
Hi All

Iā€™d like to join the club! Iā€™ve been married to a non-catholic for more than 10 years! We have a very loving relationship. The kids all go to catholic school and they have all been baptised.

When it comes to the faith unfortunately, I have to wear the pants but my spouse is very supportive (he just doesnā€™t get in the way). We say our prayers at mealtimes and all of us make the sign of the cross. My husband just started doing it on his own, although, he doesnā€™t do it in front of relatives or when we are at the school assemblies.

When we first got married, our priest gave him a funny little book called , ā€œEverything that you need to know about marrying a Catholicā€. Full of cartoons. The priest laughed and said ā€œDonā€™t show this to your future wife!ā€ It explained the sacraments and the importance of supporting the family during those special occasions." I think the book really helped him relate to me, although I donā€™t know where he put it.

One night he woke up and said, ā€œI want to be baptised!ā€ I thought he might have had a nightmare. But at the time I wasnā€™t strong in the faith, so I let it go and now I regret it so much.

I have never put any pressure on him to join the Catholic church. And in some ways he is more catholic than any of my catholic male relatives. He goes to mass Christmas, Good Friday, weddings, funerals.

The priest that married us, called him a heathen during the engagement encounter weekend, and I know that that has been a real stumbling block for him.
 
Our priest showed us that book during pre-cana, altho it was in Swedish. I found it on sale, on a Swedish ebay site and am thinking of getting it for dh for fun šŸ˜‰ hehe
 
imamom said:
Our priest showed us that book during pre-cana, altho it was in Swedish. I found it on sale, on a Swedish ebay site and am thinking of getting it for dh for fun šŸ˜‰ hehe
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The book is very non-threatening (if you know what I mean LOL). It was great for my hubby because he had no clue about what catholicā€™s believe in and was scared to walk into a church.

BTW Iā€™ll be praying for all on this board. Please pray for my husband as well.
 
St_Gabriel said:
One night he woke up and said, ā€œI want to be baptized!ā€ I thought he might have had a nightmare. But at the time I wasnā€™t strong in the faith, so I let it go and now I regret it so much.
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You know it is never too late.

Why not approach it in a different way. How about suggesting that he take RCIA classes with you so that he can learn more about the faith. Tell him that you are not asking him to become Catholic ā€¦ let the Holy Spirit do that ā€¦ but tell him it would be beneficial to the children. It will help him understand the ā€˜whysā€™ without putting the burden on you to manage this.

My husband is a convert and I must give many thanks to my parents for this. When my ā€˜financeā€™ approached my parents about marrying me they asked him to please go through the RCIA first so that he would know what ā€˜we Catholicsā€™ were all about. They told him we do not expect you to become Catholic, but it would be beneficial for any future children.

Well 2 months before our wedding, he was baptized, and received all the sacraments and came into the church fully.

Sometimes they just have to be invited. God Bless, praying for converts daily.
 
I have asked him to try RCIA. In fact I do it every September when the classes start. But each time, he smiles and says, ā€œThatā€™s ok. I know you have to ask.ā€

He seemed interested when we did our engagement encounter weekend, there were others in the program who shared their experiences that were similar to his. Again, I missed the chance!

My parents also told him what to expect before we got married, and he agreed to their wishes, but they did not mention RCIA unfortunately.
 
****I am checking in againā€¦nothing really new is happening. I feel a bit confused about things, about whether I really would want my ex-husband back, after he did all that he did and did not- (emotional neglect) do. I donā€™t see myself ever marrying anyone else and of course God can work miracles. And forgiveness is what I should be focusing on, not what he did or did not do. (He has not asked me to take him back, he is remarriedā€¦as I stated in my first post, the woman he is with is definitely not healthy for him. His entire family will not speak to him, he has all but dropped contact with his kids, moved out of state, etc.) So, if anything, he does need the prayers of someone.

I really, really love this message boardā€¦you all are so encouraging to each other. šŸ‘
 
Day 14 of the Novena for me!. I am seeing positive changes in my husband. He has been communicating better. Instead of blowing up he is trying to let us know what is bothering him in a calm and loving way. He hasnā€™t done this in years. I know this may not be conversion but I definitely feel happier. Maybe saying the rosary again is helping me be more loving towards him and he is feeling this and responding. Maybe God is working on him. Who knows? I only know things are better since I started praying for him instead of just thinking negative thoughts and wishing things could be different.

I hope and pray all of you see a positive change in your relationships with your spouses. God bless you all. Keep the faith!
 
Iā€™m praying for all you ladies! Please pray for me too. I myself am in a mixed faith relationship (not marriage, weā€™ve got awhile before that) and am praying for my guy as well. I didnā€™t know mixed faith relationships were so difficult:(
 
When I woke up and realized how important God should be in my life is when I realized the importance of a same faith relationship. While my husband agreed to raise the kids Catholic, etc., it is sad for me when I am alone with the kids at Mass. He also said he doesnā€™t go because when I go and get angry afterward, I am a hypocrite. So he doesnā€™t go to avoid being a hypocrite. Or, in my opinion, to not feel guilt over the porn thing. But that is ā€˜my issue.ā€™ aargh.

But having said, that, the Novena is helping me too. Communication seems better and I am less discouraged.

I pray for you all, also.
 
Checking in again tooā€¦ and still praying.

Nothing really has happened w/regards to DH. Maybe itā€™s baby steps? We ended up going to Retrouvaille and our post sessions are at a Catholic chapel. Being of the anti-Catholic religion as the JWs, he did make this HUGE step. They NEVER enter a religious building. He didnā€™t argue w/using NFP either. Baby steps? I hope thatā€™s what they are. I really wish heā€™d convert. I want to start a family. My hopes are so low. šŸ˜¦ I donā€™t think weā€™ll ever have children if he doesnā€™t come around. :crying:
 
All in His time, according to His willā€¦ we must remember this. Leave it in Godā€™s hands.

Iā€™m on day 3 of the 54 day novena. How are all of you doing on it? I wanted to also recommend this website:

www.maryundoerofknots.com

I just got their Infalliable Novena booklet, medal, and rosary and love them. I will be doing that novena once Iā€™ve completed this one to St. Monica.

:byzsoc:
 
Hi everyone! Just checking in, hopefully not out. My marriage is taking a huge toll on my physical and mental health. PLEASE pray for me and my husband. Life is really hard right now! God bless everyone!!!šŸ˜¦

mom4truth
 
mom4truth said:
Hi everyone! Just checking in, hopefully not out. My marriage is taking a huge toll on my physical and mental health. PLEASE pray for me and my husband. Life is really hard right now! God bless everyone!!!šŸ˜¦

mom4truth
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I sure will do so! So sorry to hear youā€™re going through some rough times.:console:
 
Many thanks to IMAMOM. My life is tough. Iā€™ll be praying for any intentions you may have! God bless you!šŸ™‚

mom4truth
 
newbetx said:
My wife got laid off from work. The house, the kids, her, me were all a wreck. So I expected that things around home would get better now that she had extra time. Well, she goes to CRHP weekend. OK just a weekend Iā€™m told. That turns into 1 or two nights a week for months! This turns into bible study, etc. I felt absolutely deserted! (It wasnā€™t just CRHP, BTW, helping at school, and other charities)
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I have been reading this thread for a week now. PTL!!!šŸ‘

Your stories all remind me of the HELL I lived through in my marriage.

I married a good Italian Catholic Man with a good job and good family backround in 1985. I was 30 years old and had a good job and good family support. He SAID he was faithful, but not ready to go to mass every Sunday. I chalked it up to singlehood and the freelife of a single male. We married in the CC and went to pre cana. It was wonderful.

THEN, a year after we were married he showed his true colors. He verbally abused me and insisted the CC was perverting me!! He said he just signed the Nuptial Agreement (the part about accepting children as blessings from God) so he could go forth with the ceremony.

We have two beautiful childresn, Nicholas, 19, and Anna Maria, 16.

I divorced him when the kids were 9 and 6 years old. I waited until they were both in school, bc I was a SAHM. You know why? Every Sacrament they made, made my husband ANGRY. He accused me of being a religious fanatic. I was nothing more than what he had married, but growing ih my faith. All the BS about couples growing closer to God when their children make the Sacraments is BS!! He (DH) got angrier and angrier at each Sacrament.

ex EH did not go to mass often, but I PRAYED he would not attend, because he always became agitated and angry. I could tell when my Bible study group was praying for him, because his moods would be BLACK afterwards.

Sorry, but itā€™s not worth it. I did CRHP three years ago, and I am born again Catholic. I donā€™t need another man, I am so happy to have two beautiful chilhdren (not easy to say at this teen-age stage of life), but chasitiy is so much better.
 
Not only do I stand by what I just posted, but I must say, take into consideration the children. Do not bring your problems to the children. Yessisan- you know what I am talking about. It is not right to ā€œhopeā€ your marriage will work b/c of kids. Kid wonā€™t make it work. I am a very ORTHODOX catholic telling you this. It is not right to USE children to make a love life work. That is not the intention of God. It is the other way around, children are the product of love, not the means to achieve marital bliss, whatever.

It is FAR BETTER to face your true fidelity to the CC, than to submit to a human being.

And my life is so GREAT!!! I did CRHP in 4/04, and then helped again in 2007 because there were not enough participants.
CRHP is the best thing that has happened to me since my children were born.
 
If all of you could pray to St. Monica and Our Lady for me, I would be glad to receive outstanding petitions of your own (feel free to PM me). My lady friend and I are discerning marriage together, but the matter is delicate: there is a very real possibility that she is being called to religious life and I to the priesthood.* As a potential future husband*, do keep me in your prayers, that I might be the man God wants me to be ā€“ in fact, pray for us both.

Thank you.

In Him,
tony
 
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