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Praying, Tony.
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To HaveMercy: sounds like you are in a complex situation. I would assume that you have a spiritual director who can advise you on your situation? Anyway, I will pray for discernment for you for your vocation. Also, please pray for my husband who I believe is seriously battling satan. I am quite ill, and he (husband)does not have any compassion. Twoo kids are involved: 18 & 15. There’s more to this story but that’s another thread. So please, if you have the time, pray for him, and me of course. I feel as though my life is falling apart and my mental state is extremely fragile. God bless you abundantly!
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Thank you. We all have to be good siblings in Christ and be there for each other, whether or not we met IRL or notMany thanks to IMAMOM. My life is tough. I’ll be praying for any intentions you may have! God bless you!
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Juliette
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I’m not sure why I never clicked on this thread before. (??) Regardless, You are all in my prayers. Please keep my husband Mike in your prayers for his conversion and me if you don’t mind that I am consistently a good example of our faith to him.
Thank you,
Juliette
Thank you,
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Pronounced CHIRP, it is Christ Renews His Parish. A group of twenty some (each) men and women go on separate retreats at the parish. The retreat is put on my 20 or so members of a previous team. You spend all day Saturday and Sunday in a parish building, even spending the night. It was the most awesome and profound spritual awakening. I knew then I would never be the same. Then you go into formation for 6 months with your CRHP sisters, and put on the next retreat. That’s the best part. You get bonded to your parish and fellow parishioners. As time goes on, you have more and more CRHP brothers and sisters. IF EXH thought I was a religious fanatic then, what must he think of me now!!
As if being a religious fanatic is a bad thing!
Anyway, I wanted to add to my previous post that I put the Miraculous Medal under EXH pillow along with the St. Michael’s prayer. But removed them after a week, because he became so angry during that time. It was like Satan was fighting for him. Even though EXH didn’t know they were there, or that prayers were said, some spirit knew it and caused EXH to behave in this way.
So during all this time, ten years since the divorce, he comes and stays at my house when he visits the kids (he lives out of state). Remarried a woman with the same number and ages of kids as we have. Now she is divorcing him after 7 years of marriage. I felt sorry for him, but no…not even divorced yet and has a new signicant other. The kids are furious. He used his last vacation with them to introduce new S/O to them.
EXH had started coming to mass with us when he visited. I thought, great, he’s finally coming around. But no, kids said he was text messaging his girlfriend on his Blackberry the entire mass.
I still love EXH, he is the father of my children, but I will never ever marry him again. My family would KILL me. I am deciding if I should try for an annulment just to make a statement about the marriage. My pastor told me I have good grounds because of the deceipt in the Nuptial Agreement.
Should I ask him not to come to mass? Something tells me it’s still good that he’s at least there.
Making the decision to divorce is the worst thing I have ever gone through. It is harder than accepting the death of a loved one, because it is YOU making the decision. Post-divorce is very very hard. Anytime somebody says, “we were going through a hard time, it would have been easier to divorce, but we stuck it out” has no clue as to how demeaning this is.
God answers our prayers, but not always in the ways we expect. I kept asking God why He wasn’t saving our marriage,
but the answer kept coming back that this was not a marriage. I ignored this answer for many years. God want’s marriages to work, but we have to cooperate with His will. EXH did not, is not doing this. Maybe someday he will, but I had to leave the marriage for my own self-respect and that of the children.I hope my experience helps those of you who have been praying for their marriages and are still living in Hell. I hope you will be able to look obectively at your lives and realize you can still be good Catholics and participate in the church as single women and men. It’s not easy. But it’s a lot infinitly better than having a demeaning bully in the house yelling at you about teaching faith to your children and practising your faith.
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Hi all. I, too, have put exorcised salt under my husband’s pillow case without him knowing it. He gets in bed every night, and whips open his Bible so that I can see what a good “Lutheran” he is - then he goes into various tirades about the day and the kids, etc. In fact, yesterday I told him I didn’t want his “friend” praying for me, and he said the more prayers the better. I said you have to know where those prayers are coming from. He said as long as they have good intentions. I didn’t tell him this, but this “friend” (woman) may not have good intentions. In fact, I’m quite certain she doesn’t. I’m thinking she’s waiting for my husband or me to leave the marriage so she can get my husband. They have quite a religious bond, or so he says. In fact this friend was going to marry a Catholic from my parish and her fiance called off the wedding. What’s up with that? I’ve talked to her fiance previously and he said he had no knowledg of how far she had as to getting involved in my family. Anyway, I’ll end that story. Still praying for all our husbands out there. You never know when change will take place. I’m praying SOON!
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Praying!Hi all. I, too, have put exorcised salt under my husband’s pillow case without him knowing it. He gets in bed every night, and whips open his Bible so that I can see what a good “Lutheran” he is - then he goes into various tirades about the day and the kids, etc. In fact, yesterday I told him I didn’t want his “friend” praying for me, and he said the more prayers the better. I said you have to know where those prayers are coming from. He said as long as they have good intentions. I didn’t tell him this, but this “friend” (woman) may not have good intentions. In fact, I’m quite certain she doesn’t. I’m thinking she’s waiting for my husband or me to leave the marriage so she can get my husband. They have quite a religious bond, or so he says. In fact this friend was going to marry a Catholic from my parish and her fiance called off the wedding. What’s up with that? I’ve talked to her fiance previously and he said he had no knowledg of how far she had as to getting involved in my family. Anyway, I’ll end that story. Still praying for all our husbands out there. You never know when change will take place. I’m praying SOON!
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You should put the salt in his EYES!
Or if that is a bad idea, then put it in his mouth.
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To HAVEMERCY: you’re right! I’d like to put it in his eyes (the salt) but it’s got to get into his soul, which only God can do. For now, though, I’m trying my best to be “sane” for the kids. But how long can I keep this charade up - that’s my question. Thank you for praying; Lord knows I need it. God bless you!:crying:
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I think opposite of this. If my husband doesn’t want to go to mass on a regular basis, I figure that it is his loss not mine. When I go, I never feel lonely the opposite is true. I went to mass as a teenager alone many times, it never bothered me. The church has always been like a second home to me. I know that I am being selfish, but it does come in handy to have someone at home when the baby is asleep or when one of the kids is sick. I see other posters who have their DH go with them to mass only to argue with them when they get home. I don’t ever want this to happen to us.
I only wish my husband would be baptised. I see the other sacraments adding to his sanctification, but really, I just want to get him to heaven. All catholic guys that he has conversations with, tell him how boring church is and how lucky he is that he doesn’t have to go. They don’t go themselves except on rare occassions, but they would never leave the church. He really doesn’t have any good male catholic role models. Having a friend who is faithful to the church is a real blessing, but it is rare to find.
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That’s exactly how I felt!!! Is it wrong to hope somebody doesn’t go to mass? It’s a mortal sin not to go. But then again, if they’re just going and not participating, is it really considered going to mass?
Why is that? Is it the Devil being stirred up? I would pray he not come to mass because he would just embarrass me by his behavior - looking all around the church, at other people (except the priest). And then he felt fee to start angry tirades about anything and everything aftwards. It ruined my Sundays, and I was secretly glad he didn’t go that often.
When we joined our parish here in St. Louis, after the divorce, I joined choir. There are as many men as women in choir. I used to bring my kids to choir practice because they were too young to leave at home, and our choir director brought her kids, so they all played together. One day, after three years of this, my daughter, by then aged 9, said, “I didn’t know men went to church.” Taken aback, I said, what about the priest? She said that didn’t count. Then I pointed out all the men who were at mass and in choir, she said, “Yes, I see that, but I mean I used to think men only went to church to please their wives!!!” But now she sees they go because they want to!!! So you men out there are very powerful witnesses to the faith.
Even more, I was shocked by what a terrible witness their father had given his kids. There are some very faithful Catholic men around. Now that I have done CRHP, I have a lot of Catholic brothers (and sisters). Their faith astounds me. I had never seen men talk about their faith so openly and honestly before. We have a CRHP bible study, and I look forward to each meeting. Some are married, some are divorced, some never married. Young, middle-aged and elderly. Some are converts, or their spouses are converts. Totally amazing.
I would suggest everyone ask their pastor about this retreat. It will truly make your parish come alive.
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Divorce is not forbidden, REMARRIAGE is because the CC considers you married unless you have an annulment.Does anyone out there know if I were to get a civil divorce (and not remarry) would I still need an annulment to receive the sacraments? I’ve been married once before and had that marriage annuled. Please pray for my children and for me who are hurting very badly because of my husband’s refusal to give up a woman he works with.
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Hey, changing the topic, my dh got his yearly letter inviting him to RCIA. I’ve been praying more intensely this summer for this intention. So far, he hasn’t expressed an interest. We have two weeks before it starts. So, please pray for this intention.
One year, he did start RCIA, but dropped out by January.
One year, he did start RCIA, but dropped out by January.
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I help with RCIA in our parish. I will offer mass and intensive prayers for your husband over the next two weeks. He’s come so far already! You are blessed. I have known several people in various previous RCIA who dropped out on what I thought were bogus excuses, but they came back the following year and finished!! It happens a lot. :angel1:Hey, changing the topic, my dh got his yearly letter inviting him to RCIA. I’ve been praying more intensely this summer for this intention. So far, he hasn’t expressed an interest. We have two weeks before it starts. So, please pray for this intention.
One year, he did start RCIA, but dropped out by January.
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mommyof4
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I would appreciate any extra prayers you ladies can thow our way right now. I really need them. Thanks.
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katy
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St_Gabriel
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In my husband’s case, I don’t believe it’s a mortal sin for him, since he’s not catholic. I would really like him to go. I always go and he helps me get the kids ready.
Not at the church I attend. I’ve only seen two men in the choir. I have to laugh about this one (my husband is completely tone deaf!
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PRAYER TO ST. MONICA
Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for
All noncatholic or lapsed catholic spouses on this thread
and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
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mom4truth
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Hi all! Just checking in to let all wives know that I’m praying for our husbands conversion (reversion). It’s tough to be in this situation. I am in it myself. But I’m holding onto hope. Other woman still won’t go away and husband doesn’t want her to…yuck! Anyway, I’ll keep the faith!!
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So sorry to hear that momto4.
Instead of the 54 day Novena, I am just saying this prayer every day before my rosary. I can’t seem to stick to the schedule, more than a 9 day one.
Instead of the 54 day Novena, I am just saying this prayer every day before my rosary. I can’t seem to stick to the schedule, more than a 9 day one.
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