St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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Oh boy! I am praying so hard for all our marriages. St. Monica - what’s up???

Judi
 
Dear Jesus,

Please give at least one conversion from this thread through the intersession of St. Monica this year.

Amen
 
I would like to pray for my husband who is a fallen away Catholic. I am starting a website dedicated to praying for fallen away Catholics and offering support for practicing Catholics who live with the silent pain of fallen away Catholics in their lives. Please feel free to visit my website, Praying for Them, at prayingforthem.blogspot.com/

St. Dominic, please pray for all the fallen away Catholics in our lives. St. Monica, please pray for us. AMEN.
 
lovecatholic,
I visited your site and it is very nice. One of my sister is a fallen away Catholic. she has practiced off and on for years but it got worse after our mom passed away. My nephews haven’t even made their confermations:(
My husband was non-denominational but became Catholic before we got married 8 years ago. He supports me going to mass and our son being raised catholic but he doesn’t go to mass. He lets us say grace etc.
Just venting!!!
I love you Saint Monica!!!
I pray to St. Dymphna also b/c of my anxiety and depression-I saw someone has a loved one going through that -just thought it might help.
hugs,
eli
 
Lamb_Serenade said:
So, long story to tell you Lana, hang in there. Stick up for your needs and don’t let your DH steamroll you. Stay strong and keep your prayer life active.

I pray every night for all of us here at the St. M’s thread. We all need ALL the prayers we can get.
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It is a long13.5 years of trying to get better, but 5 years ago, i stopped doing a lot for him because of the rejection felt by it not being reciprocated. However, the last time he binged, i forgave him, but calmly told him i no longer wanted to live with him. I loved him, wanted what was best for him, but it was too much babysitting a completely “able” adult. It was not my responsibility, nor would i assume the responsibility thrown upon me. He was devistated…what, no fight, no yelling, no begging.

It was so calm, that he knew the boat had sailed. THAT is what made him want to know my “criteria”. And getting help with drinking was an absolute must. We were unable to find proper councel with a priest, and he was to scared to go to AA, so we leaned on the GP.

He did a routine of tests, revealing zero addiction or dammage due to drinking in ANY organ. I was shocked. Dr. told him he drinks purely by choice, not addiction. To decide, quit, or stop tormenting this lady anyfurther…time to grow up.

My DH’s mouth still open, he agreed to an anti-depresant, thinking this was what might help eliviate stress or reasons to “hide”…It really really worked. It reduced the fears, and paranoia that started most arguments. He laughs, plays with the kids, and is kind to me once again.

As for the physical side, i am well over 5 years on that counter. I simply am not “in love”…but there is progress, i am “in like”. There simply is no way this could ever happen again unless i feel loved, and in love. So this is a work IN-PROGRESS…

Shoshana, my dear friend…what you say is true, as there is so much pain from my DH’s past that he has never dealt with, that it made it worse with drinking. But we have been lucky to make him go to the farm when he drinks, as that way the girls do not see this. But then we only have to deal with absence.

I do not know what it would be like to be never held, never told i was loved, or continually be-rated for never doing things by their standards…all from a parent…so much foundation in life destroyed, never to come back…only to heal from such a loss.

Then we wives are left to pick up the pieces of poor parenting.

Yes indeed, we need as many prayers as we can get…

Thank you for all who do so here.

Lana
 
eli1118 said:
lovecatholic,
I visited your site and it is very nice. One of my sister is a fallen away Catholic. she has practiced off and on for years but it got worse after our mom passed away. My nephews haven’t even made their confermations:(
My husband was non-denominational but became Catholic before we got married 8 years ago. He supports me going to mass and our son being raised catholic but he doesn’t go to mass. He lets us say grace etc.
Just venting!!!
I love you Saint Monica!!!
I pray to St. Dymphna also b/c of my anxiety and depression-I saw someone has a loved one going through that -just thought it might help.
hugs,
eli
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Thank you so much for your reply. What kind of things would you like to see on the website? I want to reach out to others in the same situation as us…

God bless!

prayingforthem.blogspot.com/
 
Hi friends,
I wanted to share something wonderful that I discovered last night. I woke up and my husband was reading–when I turned over I thought it looked like he was reading the bible!!!:extrahappy: Of course, I just kept turning over and acted like I didn’t notice but WoW!!! Thank you St. Monica!!! I love you!!
On another note, my aunt said she thought I had been a bit too rough when sitting my 2 year old son in timeout!!! I felt really bad and guilty.:doh2: I am thankful she let me know b/c maybe I was too rough. Man, I need to pray to mother mary to be a better mommy. I will take any suggestions or thoughts. I feel comfortable sharing this with you guys b/c I feel we are a type of sisterhood. :grouphug:
Blessings,
eli
 
Hi Eli,

that is great news about your husband! And I think you were right not to say anything. I got my husband to mass with us on Sunday last week and he actually knelt down during the Communion rite…this from a man who “doesn’t believe in God”…I didn’t say a word, he told my daughter he was praying though…baby steps, right? 😉

As for your 2 year old, I understand, I lose my temper with mine sometimes too, altough I don’t spank her, I use the time out method as well, but sometimes feel bad at how angry I get, even if I control it, I do feel guilty for getting so upset…I think it’s pretty normal though! and timeouts are necessary!! 🙂
 
Praise God for answered prayers! My friend, Diane, sent new word of her grandson DJ’s progress. Here is her e-mail:
This is so fantastic! DJ had his feeding tube placed in on Wednesday, and he was in a little pain, but not much. He got up to use the bathroom and was walking more. They let him eat some soft food and liquids, which he held down very well. He was able to swallow and felt fine. They checked on him Thursday afternoon, and he was doing great. We were expecting him to stay in the hospital for at least another month. After they finished with tests they came back in and told my daughter that they were sending DJ home TODAY!!! We are so excited! His recovery has been miraculous! Even the doctors have been surprised with how quickly and completely he has healed. There is still danger of scar tissue cutting off his esophagus, but they have the feeding tube and dialate the esophagus to keep scar tissue down.

I want to thank all of you for your thoughts and your prayers. There is no doubt in my mind that his quick recovery is because so many of you offered prayers on his behalf. We are humbled that so many people thought of him and prayed for him, and that the Lord saw fit to bless us all during this time. Thank you all for your faith and know that we all feel blessed by having you in our lives. God bless you all!!

Diane
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The power of prayer is truly evident in this situation. As a side note, Diane and her family are Mormon, and I made it a point to let her and her daughter, DJ’s mom, know I had posted a prayer request on Catholic forums. I have prayed for years for her conversion. Perhaps this can serve as a first baby step 👍
 
Shoshana said:
Is there a possibility that alcoholics are very sensitive people who drown their pain in booze?

My father was an alcoholic for most of my life, only being totally sober for about two years prior to his death. While I would never wish growing up in an alcoholic household on anyone, I do have to be thankful that the rest of my family never had to worry about him beating any of us, or cheating on my mother - the only real worry we had was that he would either kill himself or someone else drunk driving.

About a year or so after he died, my mom and I were talking, and she told me that he really didn’t start drinking heavily until the state trooper academy denied him entry because he was less than 1/2 inch shorter than the minimum height requirement (they were willing to forgive the fact that he was missing a finger on one of his hands, but not less than 1/2 an inch - go figure). So, he sank into a depression and tried to medicate it with alcohol.

While I certainly don’t like the fact that he drank so much, and I mourn the fact that our relationship never really got back off the ground once he sobered up, I also realize that he came from a generation where going to a psychiatrist was something to be ashamed of. In response, I try to do my best to educate others that mental illness is just like any other illness, except that you may not always see it.

Christi-Ann
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Debbie,

that is WONDERFUL news about DJ, thank you for sharing, I will continue to pray for his family!

🙂
 
MonicaRose,
I truly appreciate your kind words. That makes me feel better.:hug1:
blessings,
eli
 
Hello everyone 👋

I’ve been absent since the birth of our son, so I’m out of the loop on what’s going on with everyone. I sincerely hope there has been good news for all of you, even if they were only baby steps taken. (Remember, baby steps are still steps!)

Our little guy is doing great. His big sister loves him SO much, it’s adorable. 😃 I’m so thankful to be home with my kids, and I’m not returning to work!! :extrahappy: The emotional and actual financial costs are just so much more than the money I’d be bringing home. DH has work for the next few months, and we’re just trusting that God will keep taking care of us with more work after that.

Praying for all of you here, may St. Monica carry all of our prayers to our Loving Father. :crossrc: :grouphug:
 
Belle,
I am sooooooooooo happy for you and your family. I am so glad you are able to stay home.
Blessings,
Eli
 
I’ve joined a lot of groups today. Why not one more. :o My husband isn’t catholic. He is christian. We are praying he calls the church ‘home’ one day soon. I will pray for yours to do the same.
 
Belle,

I am so so happy for you and your family!!!

St Monica and friends here, please continue to pray for me, things are very bleak between my husband and I and I am so emotional I’m having a hard time keeping it together.

:console:
 
I’m praying for you MonicaRose.

Welcome BGR8FUL.

Welcome back Belle.

St. Monica, Pray for us!
 
What a nice surprise to find so many returning names…
It made my heart pitter patter…Know you guys are
missed when you are away.

For the sergury my husband had on his mouth, and removal of three teeth seems to have made a soookie out of my husband.
Yes, some of it is warented, but he was off the pain meds way under the 48 hours (meds given for one week)

It took 3 valume 10’s, and 10 dental vials of freezing to make it possible to even work on him. almost 800 dollars latter (no insurance) he is out of the danger, and has to be off of any alcohol…including Listerine…for another two weeks to shrink the gums back into place. Every tooths circomforence was drilled to remove “STONE” (hardening of the plaque-turns rock hard and grey)

He is germ free, but is in danger of relapse if he removes a blood clot eating-drinking the wrong way.

Delema: He took off to the farm yesterday to get drunk.

I am so hurt…we took every bit of our bill money to do this. On top of this, he is taking anti-depresants and should not drink. Never mind the prommise to stop.

Please pray for his commitment, and my heart. I do not want to give up on a person, but how many times must i do this. I do not ever see this reciprocated, and i am tired of being the good guy.

Lana
 
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