St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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Lana,

I’m sorry to hear that. I am at that same point of feeling sick and tired of being used and having to be the “good guy” like you said. I was thinking a lot about my “cross”…and wondering if this is the cross that God gave me, or I gave myself…???

I am praying for your family!
 
Rammy said:
He took off to the farm yesterday to get drunk.

On top of this, he is taking anti-depresants and should not drink. Never mind the prommise to stop.

Please pray for his commitment, and my heart. I do not want to give up on a person, but how many times must i do this. I do not ever see this reciprocated, and i am tired of being the good guy.

Lana
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Lana, my heart wrenched and skipped a beat when you said your husband is drinking while taking his AD’s. I just flashed back to last year when my husband was doing the same thing and hit the absolute worst of his addiction. Please, please, please take care of you if he continues to drink. Do NOT allow him to insert his toxicity into your life with this amazingly stupid decision. In hindsight, I wish I had thrown mine out when he started drinking and wouldn’t quit while on the AD’s. Perhaps things wouldn’t have been as bad as they were.

I am praying my heart out for you right now and shedding tears for your situation.

Heavenly Father, shelter dear Lana and her girls during this difficult time. Send Your angels to Lana’s DH and enlighten his heart so he will know the damage he is committing to himself and more importantly to his family. Sweet Jesus, be a constant companion to this family. Mother Mary, care for these children as if they are your own.
 
MonicaRose said:
Lana,

I’m sorry to hear that. I am at that same point of feeling sick and tired of being used and having to be the “good guy” like you said. I was thinking a lot about my “cross”…and wondering if this is the cross that God gave me, or I gave myself…???

I am praying for your family!
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Ha … it’s a double edge sword really!

I think we gave it to ourselves unknowingly. God is waiting for us to be fed up enough to stand up for ourselves, and in this, we can still do the right thing, if we stop inabeling!

definitely, a work in progress…but i still get tired of waiting for a grown man to grow up!

Lana
 
Lamb_Serenade said:
Lana, my heart wrenched and skipped a beat when you said your husband is drinking while taking his AD’s. I just flashed back to last year when my husband was doing the same thing and hit the absolute worst of his addiction. Please, please, please take care of you if he continues to drink. Do NOT allow him to insert his toxicity into your life with this amazingly stupid decision. In hindsight, I wish I had thrown mine out when he started drinking and wouldn’t quit while on the AD’s. Perhaps things wouldn’t have been as bad as they were.

I am praying my heart out for you right now and shedding tears for your situation.

Heavenly Father, shelter dear Lana and her girls during this difficult time. Send Your angels to Lana’s DH and enlighten his heart so he will know the damage he is committing to himself and more importantly to his family. Sweet Jesus, be a constant companion to this family. Mother Mary, care for these children as if they are your own.
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For all who have been praying for me…thank you dearly!

As for DH, he came home about 5 am…He is now at home. I went to the farm and there was an opened 6 pack with one still in it…but i dumped it out, and to his suprise next time, it will be empty. So he had 5 beers over the day. Not a lot, but enough under the circomstances.

I know he is feeling really bad, and guilty…he bought groceries and dinner afterwards. The man is extremely Dutch, and so tight, he squeeks. Often i have to take out a loan from him for milk.

smack … ok, i feel like doing this…but i don’t!

So to get this out of him, i went before the sun went down. He tends to change his mind very easily once he thinks it over.

Ya know…conspiracy theories and all…

Like soup and lunch supplies make me wanted by the KGB or something!

Try telling DH when it is thick in his head…

BTW…he is an ARIES…hard headed RAM…it was mocking him one day when i came up with Rammy…i was in a fighting back mode!

Elven Role Playing…my name is Ariesella (The ram)…hehe

Lana
 
Forgive me for being gossippy, but this is an issue that lies heavily on my heart and I really feel like this family is in need of prayers - as are we, ALWAYS!

Found out last night from DH about a serious issue concerning one of his high school buddies who was laid off last week. This young man, his wife, and their soon-to-be 4yo daughter recently came into the church last year and they are actually the godparents to our youngest. The young man’s wife is 1/2 way thru her pregnancy w/ baby #2 and it turns out that she went off the pill to get pregnant, without her husband’s knowledge. He is going to graduate school in an effort to better his family thru a better paying career.

DH and I talked last night and we can’t recall the last time we saw them in church. It saddens me that they are missing out on the graces and blessings the Lord bestows on NFPers. Also, the betrayal. Additionally, I had hoped for a really good holy couple to be godparents to our child - my godparents have been largely absent from my life (our oldest has a really good couple for godparents). Please pray for this young couple to embrace the church’s teaching on fertility and NFP and to return to the church and her Sacraments.

Also, please continue to pray for my DH. I explained that I pass no judgement on this couple b/c of our own experience. Neither of our children were planned b/c our communication re: our NFP method was and is in huge need of improvement. He has been to the classes, but is largely uninvolved in discussing my chart or even looking at or learning to read it to determine if we’re in phase III. Even after talking about this last night, he made moves later without realizing that we’re not in a ‘safe’ zone yet!!! I remain the gatekeeper of the bedroom which I really hate, but things are much better than they once were.

Thanks and God Bless.
 
Hello ladies! I’m new to CAF, and knew that I needed to post to this thread as soon as I saw it.

My husband was an agnostic when we married. I prayed deeply before marrying him, and found that when I did not pray I was afraid, felt weak and unprepared to uphold the faith on the behalf of my entire family alone, and couldn’t imagine that our marraige was God’s will. When I prayed, however, I found a peaceful certainty that our wedding was desired by God and that He would give me the graces and strength I would need to persevere in prayer for DH.

My DH and I have now been married for three years, and have twin two-year old girls. We have been through a lot of struggles this past year, and currently have no income. I lost my job while my husband was staying home with the children, and now we are both looking for work. Prayers are appreciated (I’m not shy about asking for them!), but please include a prayer of thanks to God for giving us the blessings we needed to persevere before giving us this challenge; six months ago, our relationship was falling apart and I was having medical issues that caused lack of sleep and depression. Had I been fired then (and I almost was), our tribulations would have been much greater than they are now. As it is, the challenge is a welcome test that is building our confidence in the strength God has provided us.

I hope to come to know each of you and your families well enough to keep you in our family’s prayers.

God bless you and your families with faith,

LFL
 
Welcome Longing for Life!!🙂 Know that everyone here will pray for you and be very supportive. This thread has helped so much.
Blessings,
Eli

St. Monica we love you. Please pray for us.
 
Hi ladies: please pray for my husband. He’s been VERY distant with me and the kids. It’s so sad. I’m afraid I’ll look at his scalp one night and find 666! :eek: (just kidding). I do believe, though, that powers of the demonic are working on him. Thank you for your prayers. You are ALL in mine!

Much love,
Judi
 
St Monica,

please pray for us, that our husband’s might hear God speaking to them, and that we as well, will hear and have patience while God works on our marriages.

St Joseph,

please pray for our husbands, that they might be able to take care of us they way you took care of your family.

:amen:
 
Ladies…Good news and bad…

Bad first…last night was the third time i cought my DH drinking.

Good news, finally (10 yrs in the making) he is pondering selling off the farm. He HATES change. We go under about 10 grand per year, so this is good. Thing is, he feels he has no other skills, and is terrified of the change.

More good news…he has been out of work since early Dec./08. This is the longest time EVER that he has been out of work. BUT, we got a call from a friend that finally has a laborer related position available for him…I sent him off to work just an hour ago!

This is full time, lots of overtime, and 18 bucks an hour. He usually makes 12…so we just might make it this winter!!!

Amen

PS…i know what you mean about the 666 thing Judi…lol
All we can do is try and lead them well, and pray.

The horse MUST drink on his own…even if we place the pond in front of them…:rolleyes:

Lana
 
Lana,
I’m glad you saw some humor in my post. Of course I did not mean it LITERALLY!

I’m happy to hear about the progress your husband is making. I will be praying that this winter is a good one. You’re such a fighter, Lana! I’m proud of you. Hang in there, o.k.?

Much love
Judi
 
Reading through your posts and marvelling at your courage and resilient spirits in the face of whatever trials…God bless you all, you Mom4truth, Rammy, JLCecilia, Christi Ann, MonicaRose, all of you, in your brave srtuggles and prayers
 
SaintMaker said:
One more thing, when you are offering your Rosary intentions, you might say: "I offer this Rosary for the poor souls in purgatory, in reparation for the sins committed against Our Blessed Mother, and for the conversion of all who have not been blessed with the Catholic Faith, especially… (name them here)."
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I was re-reading some of the earlier posts. This sounds like a good idea coming from someone with 3 converted spouses in the family. Thank you so much.
 
Wonderful idea about praying for conversion during the rosary. I had never thought about that. I pray for my family and other needs but I never thought about that!!!:newidea:
Blessings to all,
Eli

I love you St. Monica.
 
I make praying the Rosary for DH part of my Lenten offering, as a novena. I start the Monday before Ash Wednesday, and end 54 days later on the day before Divine Mercy Sunday. I try to remember to also do the Divine Mercy Novena for him starting on Good Friday, but don’t remember every year :o

If you aren’t familiar with the Rosary Novena, here is a link: The 54 Day Rosary Novena

What other devotions do people offer up for their husbands? I’m sure this has been discussed before, but I’m new and probably won’t get around to reading the previous posts through for a while 🙂
 
Some of the suggestions above for praying for our spouses include the 54 day novena to Our Lady of the Rosary, the prayer to St Monica, the Novena to St Joseph and the Novena to St Therese.

Recently (last week) I received a red rosary with St Therese medal on it in the mail. It came with its own pouch and a red rose tag on it. I was really surprised to see it and was not expecting it at all. I guess she heard my prayer ;).
 
LongingforLight,
That is a wonderful idea. I was not familiar with the 54 day Rosary Novena. I am definitely going to try to do this for Lent. So, do I just pray it the way that it says on the link?:confused:
thanks and blessings to all,
Eli
 
Please St. Monica,
My husband is almost there!!! Help those who post on this site as well.
 
For all our husbands, and with thanks and with prayers for your husband and marriage, Erazo 🙂
 
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