St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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Lamb_Serenade said:
My dear sister in Christ. Your story is so close to mine it is truly frightening. Last year during lent, my husband was arrested on DUI charges in another community. He too was falling down stinking drunk when he was arrested, completely black out drunk. My DH did get some help. He went to a counselor for eight months and really didn’t make any headway, and quit in December. He too was taking anti-depressants while continuing to drink. He began weaning himself off of them three weeks ago, and is still experiencing withdrawal symptoms and is still drinking. This LINK will take you to a thread I started on another forum which explains my recent actions and how I’m dealing with my husbands alcoholism.

Stay strong Diana and keep praying. Above all, and I can’t stress this enough, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. You will do no good for your husband if you are not healthy in mind, body and spirit. Especially in spirit. Grab your rosary beads and pray your butt off. Make an appointment with your priest and talk to him. I am slowly realizing it is not selfish for me to pray for and take care of ME. God loves me, and you, and every other wife of an abuser/addict, just as much as he loves our sinning, in desperate need of conversion, husbands.
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Bless you Lamb,
I have just read the link to your thread, “separated” and your situation is more alike to mine than you were even aware. Thank you for your kind (name removed by moderator)ut. I spoke with my priest yesterday, and spent the entire day in church, praying, reflecting, and seeking guidance from God, and my priest. It appears that all of the prayers for us here, to St. Monica, and my own, have not gone unanswered. Jim came to me late yesterday, profoundly sorry for endangering my life, as well as our relationship. He agreed for the first time ever, that he needed help, and has suggested attending AA meetings.
I have put my faith in God, that this indeed is the beginning of the healing process for us both.
I will continue to pray to St. Monica for us, for you and your husband & daughter, and for all of the wonderful women who are struggling with difficult marriages, and children in need of guidance.

Thank you all for your prayers.

**The Lord’s Prayer

Our Father, who art in heaven
Hallowed be thy name,
Thy kingdom come, Thy Will be done,
On earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day, our daily bread,
And forgive us our trespasses,
As we forgive those who trespass against us,
And lead us not into temptation,
But deliver us from evil.
Amen

Prayer to St. Monica

Dear St. Monica, troubled wife and mother,
Many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime,
Yet you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
You prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
And your beloved son, Augustine;
Your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me dear St. Monica,
That God may favourably hear my prayer for
My husband’s mental health, perpetual sobriety, the reparation of our marriage, the conversion of my husband and children, and all sinners in my family and of the spouses being prayed for by CAF members,
And Grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
Through Jesus Christ our Lord,
In the unity of the Holy Spirit,
One God forever and ever.
Amen**
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband and the strong faith of my son, the conversion of all sinners in my family and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.
 
Hi everyone! I’m currently in RCIA at my church, anxiously waiting for Easter Vigil! Yesterday, I was looking into Saints names for Confirmation and I found St. Monica. My husband is pretty much an agnostic. His mother never took him to church growing up, never taught him to pray, etc. I beg him every Sunday to come to Mass with me and I get the same “No!” every time. He’s told me that he’s afraid the church would fall down if he went in it, he likes to think he has this evil side to him. We had the Rite of Sending and the Rite of Election this past Sunday and I was the only one in our RCIA that was alone (thank God for my sponsor!). He has said that he will come to Easter Vigil, but, if I keep “bothering him” about coming to church, he won’t.

I have noticed that since I got involved with the church, he has become more distant. When he comes home from work, he plays his “World of Warcraft” game on the computer and he won’t stop until he’s ready for bed. He doesn’t talk to me, if I suggest we go out to dinner he gets mad because I’m asking him to leave his game, so I sit in the living room alone every night.

I pray for him everyday, and each and every time we have an argument that he will find God and the church.

I’m relieved to see that there are others out there like me. I will keep you all in my prayers!
 
When someone tries to become closer to God, and let Him into their life, it seems that often the devil and his evil spirits try to undo it somehow. Hang in there. We win in the end!
 
alanswife30 said:
Hi everyone! I’m currently in RCIA at my church, anxiously waiting for Easter Vigil! Yesterday, I was looking into Saints names for Confirmation and I found St. Monica. My husband is pretty much an agnostic. His mother never took him to church growing up, never taught him to pray, etc. I beg him every Sunday to come to Mass with me and I get the same “No!” every time. He’s told me that he’s afraid the church would fall down if he went in it, he likes to think he has this evil side to him. We had the Rite of Sending and the Rite of Election this past Sunday and I was the only one in our RCIA that was alone (thank God for my sponsor!). He has said that he will come to Easter Vigil, but, if I keep “bothering him” about coming to church, he won’t.

I have noticed that since I got involved with the church, he has become more distant. When he comes home from work, he plays his “World of Warcraft” game on the computer and he won’t stop until he’s ready for bed. He doesn’t talk to me, if I suggest we go out to dinner he gets mad because I’m asking him to leave his game, so I sit in the living room alone every night.

I pray for him everyday, and each and every time we have an argument that he will find God and the church.

I’m relieved to see that there are others out there like me. I will keep you all in my prayers!
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I’m so happy to hear you are in RCIA and I’m sure you are anxiously awaiting Easter Vigil to finally be able to receive your Lord!

I’m going to give a bit of advice a priest gave me in the beginning of my marriage when my DH was not practicing his faith and I believe was essentially agnostic. This priest told me to never, ever nag him about going to church. Quietly and respectfully ask him to go with you and if he declines don’t make an issue of it. Live your life as an example to him of what it is to be Catholic. I’m not going to tell you in a month or six or a year he will see the light and suddenly decide to start going to mass with you. It took my husband more than 20 years to finally come back to his faith. He is now goes to mass with me every weekend.

I would also say do the same thing regarding his time spent on the computer game, but with this minor change. When he’s not deeply entrenched in his game and is away from the computer, sit down with him and tell him you think it is important to sit down together at the dinner table. More and more psychologists and psychiatrists are espousing and encouraging couples and families to embrace dinner time and the church looks at it almost as “sacred” family time (whether or not you have children has no bearing on this). If he understands and decides your request has merit, HOORAH! If not, simply tell him dinner is ready and sit down to eat. Give him a couple of minutes to tie up his loose ends on his game and if he doesn’t come, say grace and eat. Again, don’t nag, don’t harp and don’t get mad and sulk.
 
***PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband and the strong faith of my son, the conversion of all sinners in my family and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.***
 
mom4truth said:
Novena to St. Monica, Day 4 - done.

Eearlier I posted: could someone please post the St. Monica prayer? Duh!! Why didn’t Iook on another page??? I’m so sorry…
Not only is my body going, but my brain too!!
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😃 That’s ok M4T we all have our “moments”
 
Praise God for answered prayers Diana! He truly does listen and your news renews and gives me hope for my husband enlightenment!

While my “news” isn’t as big as yours Diana, DH did get me a really nice Valentine card and a beautiful stuffed bear. I know, it’s juvenile, but at least he thought of me and is finally telling me he loves me, and I love the bear…I’m going to put it on my bed so I can see it when I’m praying for him every night.

We had an intelligent, lucid conversation today. He is feeling and acting so much more like his old self. At least the one who could emote and respond in normal conversation.

One step at a time. We are traveling in the right direction any way.👍

Day nine:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

My husbands mental health, perpetual sobriety, and the reparation of our marriage,

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

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Prayer to Our Virgin of Guadalupe.

Lord, inspire those men and women
who bear the titles “Husband” and “Wife”.
Help us to look to You,
to ourselves,
to one another,
to rediscover the fullness and mystery
we once felt in our union.
Let us be honest enough to ask:
"Where have we been together
and where are we going?
Let us be brave enough to question:
“How have we failed?”
Let each of us be foolhardy enough to say:
“For me, we come first”.
Help us, together,
to reexamine our commitment
in the light of Your love,
willingly, openly, compassionately.
One Hail Mary…

Hail, O Virgin of Guadalupe. We place under your powerful patronage the purity and integrity of the Holy Faith in Mexico and in all the American Continent, for we are certain that while you are recognized as Queen and Mother, America and Mexico and our Matrimony will be saved…

Amen
 
Lamb_Serenade said:
While my “news” isn’t as big as yours Diana, DH did get me a really nice Valentine card and a beautiful stuffed bear. I know, it’s juvenile, but at least he thought of me and is finally telling me he loves me, and I love the bear…I’m going to put it on my bed so I can see it when I’m praying for him every night.

We had an intelligent, lucid conversation today. He is feeling and acting so much more like his old self. At least the one who could emote and respond in normal conversation.

One step at a time. We are traveling in the right direction any way.👍
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Bless you LS, I pray for you and for all that our prayers will continue to be heard, and that those everywhere, that are in need of help, find the courage and faith to reach out and accept the helping hand offered to them each day by God.

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica, troubled wife and mother,
Many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
You prayed daily for the conversion of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
Your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience, and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me dear St. Monica
That God may favourably hear my plea for

My husbands mental health, perpetual sobriety, and the reparation of our marriage, the conversion of all sinners in my family and all the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members.

And grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
Through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
In the unity of the Holy Spirit,
One God, forever and ever.
Amen

HAIL MARY

Hail Mary, full of grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou, amongst women,
And blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus,
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
Pray for us sinners, now, and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Day 5 Novena to St. Monica done - I think I see a glimmer of light and then BAM - it’s gone - what gives? I’m tired of this game! HELP ME LORD!
 
mom4truth said:
Day 5 Novena to St. Monica done - I think I see a glimmer of light and then BAM - it’s gone - what gives? I’m tired of this game! HELP ME LORD!
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I’m with you M4T! I sympathize and empathize and know EXACTLY what you are talking about. Been there done that…
:mad::banghead::doh2::crying:

Did I miss any???🤷
 
mom4truth said:
Day 5 Novena to St. Monica done - I think I see a glimmer of light and then BAM - it’s gone - what gives? I’m tired of this game! HELP ME LORD!
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I know exactly how you feel too “m4t”. Those glimmers keep you hanging in there, without them, it would be easy to give up & walk away. My prayers are with you!

*PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica, troubled wife and mother,
Many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
You prayed daily for the conversion of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
Your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience, and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me dear St. Monica
That God may favourably hear my plea for

My husbands mental health, perpetual sobriety, and the reparation of our marriage, the conversion of all sinners in my family and all the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members.

And grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
Through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
In the unity of the Holy Spirit,
One God, forever and ever.
Amen*
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband and the strong faith of my son, the conversion of all sinners in my family and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.
 
Prayer To St. Monica

Dear St. Monica, troubled wife and mother,
Many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet you never despaired or lost faith
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
You prayed daily for the conversion of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
Your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
That God may favourably hear my prayer for

The conversion of my husband, and the strong faith of my children, the conversion of all sinners in my family, and of the spouses being prayed for here by the CAF members.

And grant me the grace to accept his will in all things,
Through Jesus Christ, Our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
One God, forever and ever,
Amen

The Lord’s Prayer

Our Father, who art in heaven,
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done
On earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day, our daily bread,
And forgive us our trespasses,
As we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
But deliver us from evil.

Amen
 
*Prayer To St. Monica

Dear St. Monica, troubled wife and mother,
Many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet you never despaired or lost faith
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
You prayed daily for the conversion of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
Your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
That God may favourably hear my prayer for

The conversion of my husband, and the strong faith of my children, the conversion of all sinners in my family, and of the spouses being prayed for here by the CAF members.

And grant me the grace to accept his will in all things,
Through Jesus Christ, Our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
One God, forever and ever,
Amen

The Lord’s Prayer

Our Father, who art in heaven,
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done
On earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day, our daily bread,
And forgive us our trespasses,
As we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
But deliver us from evil.

Amen*
 
Mom4truth is bad. I missed a few days! Just did Day 5 of Novena to St. Monica - no wonder things aren’t going well…
 
mom4truth said:
Mom4truth is bad. I missed a few days! Just did Day 5 of Novena to St. Monica - no wonder things aren’t going well…
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Don’t kick yourself when you’re down M4T, Things aren’t going so well here, either… & I haven’t missed a day. Just keep the faith!

**Prayer To St. Monica

Dear St. Monica, troubled wife and mother,
Many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet you never despaired or lost faith
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
You prayed daily for the conversion of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
Your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
That God may favourably hear my prayer for

The conversion of my husband, and the strong faith of my children, the conversion of all sinners in my family, and of the spouses being prayed for here by the CAF members.

And grant me the grace to accept his will in all things,
Through Jesus Christ, Our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
One God, forever and ever,
Amen**
 
Hail Mary

Hail Mary, full of grace
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women,
And blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
Pray for us sinners,
Now, and at the hour of our death.
Amen

Prayer to St. Monica

Dear St. Monica, troubled wife and mother,
Many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
You prayed daily for the conversion of your beloved husband, Patricius,
And your beloved son, Augustine;
Your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience, and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, Dear St. Monica,
That God may favourably hear my prayer for

The conversion of my husband, and the strong faith of my children, the conversion of all sinners in my family, and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members.

And grant me the grace to accept his will in all things,
Through Jesus Christ our Lord,
In the unity of the Holy Spirit,
One God, forever and ever.
Amen
 
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