St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

[Belle10]

Day 8:

God, our Father, we turn to You seeking Your divine help and guidance as my DH looks for suitable employment.
He needs Your wisdom to guide his footsteps along the right path, and to lead him to find the proper things to say and do in this quest. Help him to use the gifts and talents You have given him, but he needs the opportunity to do so with gainful employment.
Do not abandon him, dear Father, in this search, but rather grant him this favor we seek so that he may return to You with praise and thanksgiving for Your gracious assistance.
Grant this through Christ, our Lord.
Amen.

 

[jules11]

I am not trying to fix things my way anymore. I give up on the marriage, although I did have hope for a little while and that is gone now too. I got a lawyers letter and he is asking for $50,000 and I do not have the money. I cannot get a loan and the only thing I can do is sell the house. Money is very tight already.
I have four children living here with me and 3 of them at private schools.
I bought this house 16 years ago and I have spent years fixing it up as it is 100 years old and needs major work done. He knows this but does not care. If I sell, there is no hope of me ever buying again as I would not get enough money. I have cried all night. I am so devastated that a little over a week ago he was wanting to talk about our future together and now he is wanting settlement on a house he put very little into. He is absolutely heartless. I had the house 11 years before he came to live here. He lived in it for three years. I am so distraught.
And I can’t afford a lawyer to fight this either.
God knows that this is such a heavy heavy burden to bear. I was just coming to terms with it being over let alone to be hit with this house and settlement nightmare. That is what this is a nightmare. God help us. God help me…

 

[mom4truth]

Belle:

You are so gracious in praying for all of us! My prayers go out to you, too! God bless you and have a good day!

Much love,

 

[mom4truth]

Oh, Jules!

I cannot believe an attorney would ask for $50,000! Get a new attorney! Maybe there is some kind of social service that can help you. Have you talked your priest? Possibly, he could help you sort things out, too. This is just horrible. I am praying very hard for you. I hope someone else on this thread comes up with something for you. I am also asking the Holy Spirit to intervene immediately for you! Hang in there, Jules…

 

[jules11]

Oh, Jules!

I cannot believe an attorney would ask for $50,000! Get a new attorney! Maybe there is some kind of social service that can help you. Have you talked your priest? Possibly, he could help you sort things out, too. This is just horrible. I am praying very hard for you. I hope someone else on this thread comes up with something for you. I am also asking the Holy Spirit to intervene immediately for you! Hang in there, Jules…

No, this is what HE, (my husband) is asking for as a settlement.
The letter was from his lawyer. I cannot pay it. The only way I could is to sell the house and have me and four children out on the street. He is just ruthless. I am absolutely devastated. And there is no cheap legal help for settlement issues. He expects me to get a loan from a bank. They wont lend me the money as I am paying as much as I can in the house repayments. This is SO stressful. Last week he told me he loved me and missed me. Now this. I am so broken hearted.

 

[Belle10]

I am not trying to fix things my way anymore. I give up on the marriage, although I did have hope for a little while and that is gone now too. I got a lawyers letter and he is asking for $50,000 and I do not have the money. I cannot get a loan and the only thing I can do is sell the house. Money is very tight already.
I have four children living here with me and 3 of them at private schools.
I bought this house 16 years ago and I have spent years fixing it up as it is 100 years old and needs major work done. He knows this but does not care. If I sell, there is no hope of me ever buying again as I would not get enough money. I have cried all night. I am so devastated that a little over a week ago he was wanting to talk about our future together and now he is wanting settlement on a house he put very little into. He is absolutely heartless. I had the house 11 years before he came to live here. He lived in it for three years. I am so distraught.
And I can’t afford a lawyer to fight this either.
God knows that this is such a heavy heavy burden to bear. I was just coming to terms with it being over let alone to be hit with this house and settlement nightmare. That is what this is a nightmare. God help us. God help me…

(((((((((((((((((((Jules)))))))))))))))))))) :crying:

He is unbelievable. I’m so, so sorry you are going through this. I was going to look up Catholic Charities to see if they help with legal issues at all (or could at least refer you to where you could get low-cost or no-cost aid) but then I remembered you’re in Australia and I don’t know if you have the same thing there as we do here. I definitely think you need to speak with your priest and find out what options are available (if the church can help you find legal representation). I highly recommend you not speak with his lawyer or him anymore until you have a lawyer yourself. Unfortunately, you can’t trust them to be honest and amicable in these dealings it seems, so protect yourself best with silence for now.

I pray that you have family and friends who can help you during this difficult time. Please know you’re in my prayers (and everyone’s here).

St. Michael the Archangel
Defend Jules and her children in battle
Be their safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil
May God rebuke him we humbly pray
And do thou, O prince of the Heavenly Host
By the power of God
Cast into hell satan and all the evil spirits
Who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls
Amen.

Angels of God
Who are Jules’ and her childrens’ guardians
To whom Merciful God entrusted all of them
Enlighten and keep them this day
Guard and lead them
Amen.

I just began another novena to St. Rita, the patron saint of many things, including: abuse victims, against loneliness, desperate causes, difficult marriages, forgotten causes, impossible causes, lost causes, parenthood, sick people, victims of physical spouse abuse, and wounded people.

“Among the other areas, Rita is well-known as a patron of desperate, seemingly impossible causes and situations. This is because she has been involved in so many stages of life - wife, mother, widow, and nun, she buried her family, helped bring peace to her city, saw her dreams denied and fulfilled - and never lost her faith in God, or her desire to be with Him.”
(source: saints.sqpn.com/saintr01.htm)

As I said, I just began (another) novena to St. Rita because I’m feeling desperate lately and like our situation is seemingly impossible. Her feast day is May 22 (that’s why I’m doing another one now) – which if you double up today, you’ll finish the novena on that day. Just thought I’d mention it (I’m sure St. Monica won’t mind – after all, they’re all up there together praying for us, right?).

May God bless all of you this day and help us to find peaceful solutions to all our troubles.

:hug1:

 

[jules11]

(((((((((((((((((((Jules)))))))))))))))))))) :crying:

He is unbelievable. I’m so, so sorry you are going through this. I was going to look up Catholic Charities to see if they help with legal issues at all (or could at least refer you to where you could get low-cost or no-cost aid) but then I remembered you’re in Australia and I don’t know if you have the same thing there as we do here. I definitely think you need to speak with your priest and find out what options are available (if the church can help you find legal representation). I highly recommend you not speak with his lawyer or him anymore until you have a lawyer yourself. Unfortunately, you can’t trust them to be honest and amicable in these dealings it seems, so protect yourself best with silence for now.

I pray that you have family and friends who can help you during this difficult time. Please know you’re in my prayers (and everyone’s here).

St. Michael the Archangel
Defend Jules and her children in battle
Be their safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil
May God rebuke him we humbly pray
And do thou, O prince of the Heavenly Host
By the power of God
Cast into hell satan and all the evil spirits
Who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls
Amen.

Angels of God
Who are Jules’ and her childrens’ guardians
To whom Merciful God entrusted all of them
Enlighten and keep them this day
Guard and lead them
Amen.

I just began another novena to St. Rita, the patron saint of many things, including: abuse victims, against loneliness, desperate causes, difficult marriages, forgotten causes, impossible causes, lost causes, parenthood, sick people, victims of physical spouse abuse, and wounded people.

“Among the other areas, Rita is well-known as a patron of desperate, seemingly impossible causes and situations. This is because she has been involved in so many stages of life - wife, mother, widow, and nun, she buried her family, helped bring peace to her city, saw her dreams denied and fulfilled - and never lost her faith in God, or her desire to be with Him.”
(source: saints.sqpn.com/saintr01.htm)

As I said, I just began (another) novena to St. Rita because I’m feeling desperate lately and like our situation is seemingly impossible. Her feast day is May 22 (that’s why I’m doing another one now) – which if you double up today, you’ll finish the novena on that day. Just thought I’d mention it (I’m sure St. Monica won’t mind – after all, they’re all up there together praying for us, right?).

May God bless all of you this day and help us to find peaceful solutions to all our troubles.

:hug1:

Thank you Belle,
I have spent the last couple of hours trying to reason with him, trying to get somewhere and he is so angry and full of hate for me. I have not done it all right but nothing compared to this. I am so scared. Please pray that God helps me to keep trusting. I am being sorely tested. I feel all alone and forgotten in this. If it were just me, I would cope but I have children that I have to look after. It is a nightmare. I am also dealing with the shock and disbelief that it can go from him saying he loves me to this. He is hell bent on destroying me and nothing I say will move him. He has no mercy, no concern for me at all. He is just after what he thinks he deserves, even if it means we both lose. It is demonic

 

[Belle10]

I have spent the last couple of hours trying to reason with him, trying to get somewhere and he is so angry and full of hate for me.

It is demonic

Cling to Jesus, and don’t talk to him anymore for awhile. I doubt you’ll be able to convince him of anything at this point, and it’s only getting you more upset. It sounds like he has some mental/emotional issues (with the back and forth between I love you/I hate you stuff) – which I wouldn’t discount being from the evil one. Please, try to find a lawyer, and keep yourself and your kids safe. Can you talk with family/friends in real life and get them to help you in any way (just companionship would be great even, having someone to really talk to).

Praying…

 

[mom4truth]

jules:

I think Belle gave you good advice. Don’t talk to him anymore. I do that sometimes myself, and I get absolutely no where! Frankly, I do think this situation with HIM is demonic. The devil can get in there any way he finds an opening, and “he’s” found one through your husband’s emotional immaturity! Please - hang in there! We’re all praying for you.

Much love,

 

[Rammy]

Ahh haa…he seems very unstable when you think on the patterns of behaviour he is exibiting. So start looking into these things.

ONE…send him a letter asking him to no longer communicate with you unless through legal venues, as both he and it are becomming to much to deal with where his intentions lie. Place your phone number as restricted, and tell him letters in writing will be the only form of communication accepted from his lawyer, as this hot and cold attitude is upsetting you and your children.

Then move on knowing he will not keep sending letters from lawyers, as they are quite expensive. Make sure when you send this, list coppies made out to…and register it with signature needed. This is your legal proof he was warned. Then if he presists, you take the letter up to the police station and file harrassment charges, or complaint. If it persists further, file a restraining order on him. This puts his butt in jail if he keeps this up.

Believe me, he seems irrational enough to dig his own grave. But know this, if it gets to court, you can not expect anything but PROOF of his behaviour to count. He said she said does not count one iotta! Journal his contact to address times and places he has contacted you from. This is why asking him not to call does not work…change your number, it gets the point across, and the less you have to answer of his hot and cold is esily answered. He does not want to reconcile, as the lawyers letter has made this clear.

TWO…Who’s name is on the deed? You said you owned it well before you two were married. This means that even if he were to ask you for his half, it would be based on the years that it was “used” as the matrimonial home. 16 years you owned it…of them he was there three of them. So 50% of 3/16ths. Basically you need an assesment…on your land taxes this will be shown. Then devide this in half…that is his half of his share. But then seperate it devided over 16 years, and then you have what each year is worth, then multiply it by the amount of years it was used as a matrimonial home.

example…house worth 200,000.00. His half becomes 100,000.00. But devide 100,000.00 by 16 years of ownership=6,250/year…So 6,250x3yrs=13,150.

So basically in this example it shows his legal rights are only 13 thou. I know this is outragous even at this, but you need to know your rights how devision of property is done in Australia. Remember, you own it, he only resided there for three years out of 16. This matters!!!

THIRD…You NEVER hand over anything unless the courts order this. So his lawyers letter is a bluff asking for so much, or he would have already saught this out through the courts!

Cut the ties, this man means to take from his own kids!!!

FOURTH…As far as the courts are concerned, you are the primary caregiver, he does (or does not) pay child support. This is their primary home, and you wish to make afordable payment installments based on your income, minus his child support missing should be taken into consideration.

Plus, you did not want the seperation, or desired to go to court. This was his application, and ask for your lawyers fees to be paid by him.

You see hun, support, back support, his 3/16ths interest, and paying your legal expences does not make for him being a very smart man...Know your stuff, and send your own letter.
 
Amunition is a nescesary thing you need to look into, and be prepared to sling, as he knows you are a push over, and gullable. This is his childrens lives he is messing with, and you are the Den mother of these cubs!
 
Lana

 

[BeeSweet]

Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

 

[BeeSweet]

**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!

 

[BeeSweet]

A Prayer For Employment Day Eight

God, our Father, we turn to You seeking Your divine help and guidance as Belle’s DH looks for suitable employment.
He needs Your wisdom to guide his footsteps along the right path, and to lead him to find the proper things to say and do in this quest. Help him to use the gifts and talents You have given him, but he needs the opportunity to do so with gainful employment.
Do not abandon him, dear Father, in this search, but rather grant him this favor we seek so that he may return to You with praise and thanksgiving for Your gracious assistance.
Grant this through Christ, our Lord.
Amen

 

[mom4truth]

Bee Sweet:

Just thought I’d check in and see how you’re doing. (Don’t want another of us going AWOL)! Still praying for you, please pray for me too.

Much love,

 

[BeeSweet]

Jules, I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. I can’t offer you any advice since I don’t know anything about Australian law. I don’t see how you could loose your home over this. I wish I could be more help to you. I am praying for you.

Try to find out if there are volunteer lawyers who might be able to help you. Whatever state authority licenses lawyers in your country should be able to provide you with some resources on finding legal aid. I hope you can find a happy solution soon.

 

[BeeSweet]

Bee Sweet:

Just thought I’d check in and see how you’re doing. (Don’t want another of us going AWOL)! Still praying for you, please pray for me too.

Much love,

I’m fine, thank you, you’re such a dear. Husband seems to want to try harder. Some days I think it’s too late, but those days are thankfully few and far between. I feel better when I take better care of myself (don’t we all?).

I’m dying to hear the baby’s heartbeat, but we’re switching insurance carriers, so I have to wait till June 9th. Agony! I want to hear the baby’s heartbeat NOW.

I pray for all you ladies several times a day every day. I hope the best for everyone here. I hope we see Diane return too.

 

[Paladin99]

Ephesians 5

22 Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is head of his wife just as Christ is head of the church, he himself the savior of the body.
24 As the church is subordinate to Christ, so wives should be subordinate to their husbands in everything.

 

[Pixie_Dust]

Ephesians 5

22 Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is head of his wife just as Christ is head of the church, he himself the savior of the body.
24 As the church is subordinate to Christ, so wives should be subordinate to their husbands in everything.

You left out a few verses…
21**Being subject one to another, in the fear of Christ.
**
22Let women be subject to their husbands, as to the Lord:

23Because the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church. He is the saviour of his body.

24Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so also let the wives be to their husbands in all things.

25**Husbands, love your wives, as Christ also loved the church, and delivered himself up for it:**

 

[mom4truth]

AMEN, Pixie!!

 

[Rammy]

You go girl…

You left him in your Pixie dust!

See, interpreting the bible is a dangerous job when looking to lead another instead of support a friend.

Lana