St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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Hi, I’m new to this…I pray to St. Monica a lot lately, she is my inspiration and my namesake.
I was raised Catholic, but fell away from the faith during my highschool, college and young 20’s. Now I’m back!
With that being said, my husband is an atheist from China, with no real faith basis at all. When I was pregnant with our daughter (planned), he went “home” to China for a few visits and had an affair with someone there…I asked him to come back which he did. He ended the affair, but because of all that, he lost his job. That was over two years ago. He works part time at nights and I am forced to keep my full time job to pay the bills. I am blessed that my mother watches my daughter during the day. My husband spends most of his day sleeping or doing whatever he likes. He says he wants to work and even sometimes goes on interviews, but they never work out. When he is feeling low, he says we need to move to China, but he has no real plans there either. I’m sorry for the long post, but I wanted to ask any of you for advice. My family is very supportive of whatever I choose, but sometimes my friends give me the impression that I should ask for a divorce. I want my daughter to have her father and I don’t want to divorce…however, I am consumed so much of the time with anger and despair I feel so lost-if you have a spare moment please give me any advice and prayers you might have.

thank you and God Bless you and your families!!
 
MonicaRose said:
Hi, I’m new to this…I pray to St. Monica a lot lately, she is my inspiration and my namesake.
I was raised Catholic, but fell away from the faith during my highschool, college and young 20’s. Now I’m back!
With that being said, my husband is an atheist from China, with no real faith basis at all. When I was pregnant with our daughter (planned), he went “home” to China for a few visits and had an affair with someone there…I asked him to come back which he did. He ended the affair, but because of all that, he lost his job. That was over two years ago. He works part time at nights and I am forced to keep my full time job to pay the bills. I am blessed that my mother watches my daughter during the day. My husband spends most of his day sleeping or doing whatever he likes. He says he wants to work and even sometimes goes on interviews, but they never work out. When he is feeling low, he says we need to move to China, but he has no real plans there either. I’m sorry for the long post, but I wanted to ask any of you for advice. My family is very supportive of whatever I choose, but sometimes my friends give me the impression that I should ask for a divorce. I want my daughter to have her father and I don’t want to divorce…however, I am consumed so much of the time with anger and despair I feel so lost-if you have a spare moment please give me any advice and prayers you might have.

thank you and God Bless you and your families!!
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Hi Monica, I’m not in much of a position to offer advice, but I will pray for you and your husband and daughter. It sounds to me like your husband is depressed. Maybe he should visit a doctor and ask for some advice. I hope it gets better for him and for you soon.

Welcome to CAF, I hope you visit with us often! ❤️
 
thank you!! I know he is depressed, unfortunately his doctor told him (even after he did an at home assessment which showed he was depressed) that he was just homesick and not depressed!!! 😦
thank you for your prayers!:🙂
 
mom4truth said:
Pixie & Paladin:

You two are hilarious! A little jab here and there keeps things interesting! (just kidding, of course!)😉
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Why thanks! and Yes, I am going easy on Pixie, because she is a dainty little flower. I don’t want to hurt her.

👍
 
Paladin99 said:
Actually no, it was an Xbox game called Fable. They have it out for the PC too!
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:eek: I have that game, but have never played it!!!

They are mostly my late sons games, and a bunch of new ones, but RPG’s are my favorite kind of game. I do not play much because then i’d forget there are rules like sleep, feed the occupants of the house, clean, breathe!

You know, the usual that you bark at your kids for, i totally understand. They engulf you!

But Paladin, you are quick on your feet, we’d love your company over in the club houses. Look for me or Brotherhrolf, our leader!

I tried playing a Palidin in D&D with my son, it was one of the hardest things i ever did, and keep with my allignment. (BTW, we had a table rule to stick to the orriginal rules of the game and not be a rules rapist…no evil alligned characters!)

Chivalry, nobility, honor, your word meaning something, manners, and the old code of ethics…a life much like King Arthur…Well it is a very lost art, and a huge reason why this world is so caotic.

IMHO of course…

Lana
 
To all of our women members, i am praying for you and your husbands. Diana is still deep in my prayers, the newest member Monica…hellow my dear.

I am praying for everyone, and for the job novena, i am saying this one too!

And i pray for Paladin as well, for him to keep his sense of humor, as it has brought a light to a dark place we often deal with in life.

Lana
 
Rammy said:
:eek: I have that game, but have never played it!!!

They are mostly my late sons games, and a bunch of new ones, but RPG’s are my favorite kind of game. I do not play much because then i’d forget there are rules like sleep, feed the occupants of the house, clean, breathe!

You know, the usual that you bark at your kids for, i totally understand. They engulf you!

But Paladin, you are quick on your feet, we’d love your company over in the club houses. Look for me or Brotherhrolf, our leader!

I tried playing a Palidin in D&D with my son, it was one of the hardest things i ever did, and keep with my allignment. (BTW, we had a table rule to stick to the orriginal rules of the game and not be a rules rapist…no evil alligned characters!)

Chivalry, nobility, honor, your word meaning something, manners, and the old code of ethics…a life much like King Arthur…Well it is a very lost art, and a huge reason why this world is so caotic.

IMHO of course…

Lana
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Lana,
I haven’t played D&D in more than 25 years! I am so sorry you lost your son. No one should ever have to say “my late son”. 😦

I haven’t been able to play too much either, because yes, I have to work, take care of my son, pretend to hear other people in the house, etc… :o

you wrote:
"we’d love your company over in the club houses. Look for me or Brotherhrolf, our leader! "

How would I do this? You got a website?
 
Father in Heaven,
I refer your children to the Miracle prayer so that they may receive the blessings from your son Jesus Christ. Please look after them and lift them up in your right hand as they recite this prayer.
If they truly mean these words, and are not born again, they will experience a rebirth in spirit, and experience the peace and joy that is beyond all explanation. If they are born again already, then I pray they will re-commit themselves to you, and you will smile upon them with your everlasting love

youtube.com/watch?v=dtuS8a-MAb8

The Miracle Prayer:
Lord Jesus, I come before you just as I am. I am sorry for my sins, I repent of my sins, please forgive me. In your name I forgive all others for what they have done against me.

I renounce Satan, the evil spirits and all their works. I give you my entire self, Lord Jesus now and forever. I invite you into my life, Jesus. I accept you as my Lord, God and Saviour. Heal me, change me, strengthen me in body, soul, and spirit.

Come, Lord Jesus, cover me with your precious blood, and fill me with your Holy Spirit. I Love You, Lord Jesus. I Praise You, Jesus. I Thank You, Jesus. I shall follow you every day of my life. Amen.

Mary, mother of sorrows, Queen of Peace, St. Peregrine, the cancer saint, all you Angels and Saints, please help me. Amen.

Say this prayer faithfully, no matter what you feel, when you come to the point where you sincerely mean each word, with all your heart, something good spiritually will happen to you. You will experience Jesus, and HE will change your whole life in a very special way. You will see.

Peace and Love to all in Jesus’ name

Paladin (Rick)
 
Paladin99 said:
Lana,
I haven’t played D&D in more than 25 years! I am so sorry you lost your son. No one should ever have to say “my late son”. 😦

I haven’t been able to play too much either, because yes, I have to work, take care of my son, pretend to hear other people in the house, etc… :o

you wrote:
"we’d love your company over in the club houses. Look for me or Brotherhrolf, our leader! "

How would I do this? You got a website?
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forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=238887

I am a Troglodyte by nature. Often refered to as a Trog, meaning a cave dweller…not of this time…you know, chivalry and so on being a lost art. Well Brotherhrolf helped a woman with a door one day oppening it for her, and she flipped all over him. He was so baffled that she was refusing his help…like it was a lost art form. Hence the term Troglodyte.

We goofed around for a while, The Monty Trogs were the funnest, as we spoofed around our every day lifes complaints as if we were in a Monty Python movie…even had the Spanish inquisition. We rolled played for a long time in different areas, but eventually lost touch with so many.

There were 4 major groups of people. Trogs! Mudgies (the thread posted are them) who try and complain all of the time, and take life lightly with crank-ta-tude. Swamp water tea or coffee, weather reports, and a few other things. Then there were the Junkies, with food, tecnology and sprinkles cast upon you a lot. Finally the Noids…as in paranoids. Halarious when together.

Now we seem to be only 2 groups left, and have a few members acting as if they actually have all 4 inside of them. So, i am Captain Rammy of the Trog Guard at your survice. Camp leader, with Brother as our guide…the Trogs have yet to re-open a new thread, as we are few in number right now, but live for honor, chivalry, monty goofing, tin foil hats and being parinoid…

Calls for a quick wit…so this is why i mentioned it to you. Mainly we congrigate, blow off steam, and are regulars here. So when a thread gets to hot and nasty…and they do…we go back home and grumble…nicely of course!

Lana
 
Rick,
I agree with the other poster. You’ve brought some light to this thread which can often be dark in nature, due to the topic. We can get a bit heavy. It would also be nice, in my opinion, to have a man’s POV once in awhile. Just a thought…don’t get upset anyone…this is just “me” saying this. I am praying for all ladies and their husbands on this thread. Please pray for my dh and me. God bless and thank you!🙂 🙂
 
Paladin99 said:
Lana,
I haven’t played D&D in more than 25 years! I am so sorry you lost your son. No one should ever have to say “my late son”. 😦
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He was terminally ill since the age of 7. As a teenager, he loved dnd, but learned from a group that had much to do with the writers, and returning the orriginal game rules…no evil allignmnets in your characters. Being a good catholic mom, this scared the patootie out of me, and insisted i know more about this. So i joined his group, housed games every saturday for 4 years untill he was almost 19, and passed away from Strep Throat. (4 years ago)

I missed his ways, as he was charactoristically raised by my father when i was a single mom. Hence the old code brought into the new generation. I loved every part of this, and it was an honor knowing both. Yet when the role playing ended, there was a sense of adventure lost to me. I missed him, and the group.

Brother Hrolf and his Monty Trogs were just what i ordered. I am trying to get up the nerve to ask Brother to re-oppen it, but he is a bit ill right now, put on sick leave from work, flood warnings etc.

Timming is of the essence i guess.

So for now i wander, and find lovlies like in this thread. With husbands so different than what we had planned for in this life. So much missing. The chivalry, honor, and unity a husband and wife should share with us. We miss this, and have lost our ways trying to keep life together, and feel that the only hope right now for a situation seemingly lost is to pray for our husbands obsessions that lead them from us and our children.

But how we would love chivalry to touch our lives in life. My son has passed away, and my Father is on the other side of Canada. There is very little i can reach out to, or speak of the Lord with, or even carry a simple conversation with. My world is totally not what it was 4 years earlier. With two other little girls, i struggled to know why i was left here…what was my role. Not just a mother, or i would not have had one revolked. Maybe it was bad behaviour on my part, never quite getting it, but i feel that was the voice of the dark one trying to pull me down.

For now, i climb to be a better mom, re-married, and alone in this marriage. Tis why “I” am here.

Lana
 
mom4truth said:
Rick,
I agree with the other poster. You’ve brought some light to this thread which can often be dark in nature, due to the topic. We can get a bit heavy. It would also be nice, in my opinion, to have a man’s POV once in awhile. Just a thought…don’t get upset anyone…this is just “me” saying this. I am praying for all ladies and their husbands on this thread. Please pray for my dh and me. God bless and thank you!🙂 🙂
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I am not upset hun…i welcome man woman or child to help us in any way they can. Anyone showing us the light when we are down is a show stopper to me. Life for us is a heavy cross to bear alone. This is what we pray for, for this to lift, for someday our husbands will find it in their hearts to not wander, to not drink, to not be depressed, to find that job to help keep us with our children.

Paladin Rick is a light to our day i believe.

Sugestions on his part would be grateful, for we have run out of ideas.

Lana
 
Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
 
MonicaRose said:
thank you!! I know he is depressed, unfortunately his doctor told him (even after he did an at home assessment which showed he was depressed) that he was just homesick and not depressed!!! 😦
thank you for your prayers!:🙂
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It might be that he is homesick, but you should press for a decision yourself. If you had to decide, where do you want to live and raise your little one? It seems if things are not working out, you will need your mom, either way it goes, so China is not an answer for you. Or an option.

You have a job, a child to support, a mother to support you, and this is all here. In asking you to go to china, he is asking you to give up everything. You will suffer loosing your stability, job, mother, and sitter. You will not get a sitter free in china.

This wanting is two things to him…his need to get away from responsabilities, and do as he pleases more often than not. He does not have incentive to do the right thing or he would be doing this no matter what. He does not have you or your baby on the list of responsibilities. This may just totally come from a lac of faith, or beliefs because you attain NO set of morality or life rules believing there is not a single thing you believe in.

To love someone means very little in words to me right now, and probably to most women that have ever had a husband not put the family first. Do not “tell” me you love me anymore is what i say to my husband…“SHOW” me!

His actions towards you tell the truth. He feels little respect or love for you. Same for my own husband. But help the children cope, and not give up i s a fine line between this and being used. When my husband starts this, he is quickly put out. He has to accept the terms of main trials like the children not seeing him drinking, as he is a bad drunk and so on.

Set your goals that make you happy, and your child. Do not allow him to brow beat you into feeling so bad for you that you give up everything, and he does what he did before…runs to someone elses arms. A person like that views woman as a pleasure item. What can you do for me…and this he has proven as well.

It’s WORKIN for him, and only when this being taken care of feels like a heavy burden for you, and it is being risked to him you do not like it, will he even go on an interview. Not for the job, but a sick attempt to satisfy your not pulling away.

He can not do this if you are with your mother. Is this an option. I bet if he had to pay the rent, he’d move his butt faster. If he will not help you, then cling to those who will. If he wants this marriage, he will work at it. If he does not, you will find him move quickly to china…that is my first guess. You will not know unless you try though.

Telling him you will split the responsibilities for now, as everything is too much for any one person. You will care for the baby, and he can maintain the home. If he can not pay it, he will have to loose it and find another place, or living arangement. Then see what he does.

But, i would not make a move without fileing for an emergency custody order. They can be gotten fast and without notification. This states you are the primary care giver, and sole supporter of said child, and you are seperating. Final decisions are made by the court upon final divorce, and proof.

I am saying this because if you do not, your mom could have the baby taken from her by him and the police. Without a court order stateling who cares for the child, he can easily file you keeping your child from him. Cover your back. It is not a new thing that if forced to make you hurt or pay, that the child is the paun…so protect the baby and your mom.

Or just live like that. But know this, he is working the guilt train, other wise he would never have made you wonder what responsibility you have in his happiness…china or no china.

Remember this. Responsibility is easily passed onto others when someone is being used. Ability to respond. Can he work, can he help…yes. So to accept his guilt over his lac of happiness is sad, and he is using you.

Do not enable this behaviour, or accept him deminishing your worthyness. You see, you help him so much, and when he still does not get out of this funk, you feel it is YOUR failure at not being able to fix this. You are not a failure. You are stepping up to the plate like not many woman will or can do. You have a baby, have a job, and if he is not willing to do his part, loose him.

I know this goes against catholic teaching to walk away. But catholic teaching says to be a good steward of your own person. Do not teach your baby to accept the responsibility of another person…especially a partner. He is not an invalid.

He must make his own choices, and his own happiness.

lana
 
Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
 
A man’s point of view

I have always had a love for God. but over the years I have developed many vices. My wife always wanted to remove them, but I was unwilling. One day I recommited myself and submitted to the Lord 100% when I realized that some of my actions were not in his will. I had NO IDEA what I was getting into! He removed ALL of my vices, and it was not easy. I fought him the whole way,My love for him was greater though, and I quit them all.
The Lord allows me to do some things in moderation however, such as having a few drinks, but he gets upset with me when I abuse it, and I get upset with myself as well.

A man quite often will not quit drinking or other vices until he has come to the end of his rope, and prays to Jesus Christ to help, and submits himself to the Lord 100%. This is not easy for a man. We like to be the one driving, and we don’t like to stop and ask directions - However, we WILL look at a road map! it still seems as though we are still in control.
If he already has a love for God, this will usually not be a long process. If he is someone who has not been converted - and I see that many here are praying for their conversion, it will take longer, or require something very big to happen to him.

Print out the miracle prayer I posted in post # 1908, and/or send him the link to the webpage that is listed there. Pray it out loud - Leave it laying around- hang it up! Read it to the kids so that he hears it! That prayer can be the way to his conversion and/or his being cured of the desire of the vice.
 
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