St. Monica pray for us! Praying for our husbands....

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Paladin:

I love your post! I wish our husbands would this! It’s nice to have a man’s point of view as I pointed out earlier. You are very much appreciated here for your thoughts and honesty. By the way, I prayed for all the ladies here and their husbands at Mass this morning! God bless everyone!

Much love,
 
Hello, everyone,
I am posting here with such mixed feelings. On one hand, I am so glad I found this thread because it makes me feel less isolated in my situation. However, it makes me so sad to hear of everyone’s trials. I will definitely pray for all of you, and humbly ask the same.

My husband & I will celebrate our 10th anniversary June 5th. I am a cradle Catholic who had fallen away from the church. He was baptized Presbyterian but never went to church, even as a child. When we got married, religion was never an issue for either of us.

About 2 years ago, I started going to church again, so that our children, almost 6 & 2.5 yrs, will be raised Catholic. Over that time, I have become more and more involved in my faith & the church, and he has no interest in it. He won’t even go to church with me, doesn’t pray, etc. I get so sad when I see families at church with both parents.

As I get closer to God, it is becoming more difficult. I feel disconnected from him because he doesn’t share my faith. We have been using birth control because he says he doesn’t want any more kids, and it’s weighing heavily on me. I desperately want to use NFP, but I’m not even sure how to bring it up with him. Can anyone give me any advice here? I need to present it very scientifically; if I start saying things like “God’s plan” I fear he’ll completely shut down to the idea.

So, I am glad I found this thread, as I will now be praying to St. Monica every day, for all of us!

Thank you for listening.
 
When your marriage is spiritually empty, you are not as effective in your vocation. Take time to fill yourself spiritually even if your husband will not. Time in front of the Blessed Sacrament is so comforting.Talk to him for a few minutes, and listen twice as long. He is always there waiting for you.
 
Cattitude said:
Hello, everyone,
I am posting here with such mixed feelings. On one hand, I am so glad I found this thread because it makes me feel less isolated in my situation. However, it makes me so sad to hear of everyone’s trials. I will definitely pray for all of you, and humbly ask the same.

My husband & I will celebrate our 10th anniversary June 5th. I am a cradle Catholic who had fallen away from the church. He was baptized Presbyterian but never went to church, even as a child. When we got married, religion was never an issue for either of us.

About 2 years ago, I started going to church again, so that our children, almost 6 & 2.5 yrs, will be raised Catholic. Over that time, I have become more and more involved in my faith & the church, and he has no interest in it. He won’t even go to church with me, doesn’t pray, etc. I get so sad when I see families at church with both parents.

As I get closer to God, it is becoming more difficult. I feel disconnected from him because he doesn’t share my faith. We have been using birth control because he says he doesn’t want any more kids, and it’s weighing heavily on me. I desperately want to use NFP, but I’m not even sure how to bring it up with him. Can anyone give me any advice here? I need to present it very scientifically; if I start saying things like “God’s plan” I fear he’ll completely shut down to the idea.

So, I am glad I found this thread, as I will now be praying to St. Monica every day, for all of us!

Thank you for listening.
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Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
 
Hi there all!

Here’s a prayer you can use for the benefiction of your souls…

PRAYER TO THE HOLY SPIRIT
(pray for 3 days or 3 hours straight)

Holy Spirit, You who make me see everything and showed me the way to reach my ideals, You who gave me the divine gift to forgive and forget the wrong that is done to me and You who are in all instances of my life with me, I want to thank You for everything and confirm once more that I never want to be separated from You no matter how great the material desire may be. I want to be with You and my loved ones in Your perpetual glory. Amen
In Jesus Christ, your Son’s name, I ask that you grant me (State your specific request or intention here!)
While making the request, you must promise either:
(a) To publish this prayer or
(b) To circulate the favor
 
Cattitude said:
Hello, everyone,
I am posting here with such mixed feelings. On one hand, I am so glad I found this thread because it makes me feel less isolated in my situation. However, it makes me so sad to hear of everyone’s trials. I will definitely pray for all of you, and humbly ask the same.

My husband & I will celebrate our 10th anniversary June 5th. I am a cradle Catholic who had fallen away from the church. He was baptized Presbyterian but never went to church, even as a child. When we got married, religion was never an issue for either of us.

About 2 years ago, I started going to church again, so that our children, almost 6 & 2.5 yrs, will be raised Catholic. Over that time, I have become more and more involved in my faith & the church, and he has no interest in it. He won’t even go to church with me, doesn’t pray, etc. I get so sad when I see families at church with both parents.

As I get closer to God, it is becoming more difficult. I feel disconnected from him because he doesn’t share my faith. We have been using birth control because he says he doesn’t want any more kids, and it’s weighing heavily on me. I desperately want to use NFP, but I’m not even sure how to bring it up with him. Can anyone give me any advice here? I need to present it very scientifically; if I start saying things like “God’s plan” I fear he’ll completely shut down to the idea.

So, I am glad I found this thread, as I will now be praying to St. Monica every day, for all of us!

Thank you for listening.
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Hi Cat, welcome to the thread! I am somewhat trepidacious giving you advice here, since your circumstances now are similar to what I experienced in the beginning of my own conversion three years ago. Things have become progressively worse for us, the faith has put a serious wedge between myself and my husband. I don’t know how to advise you except to tell you to pray, and live the example. Do not push the faith on your husband, and do not push him to attend Mass with you. Stop feeling envious of other families in church who appear to be “whole.” This does no good for your marriage. Be appreciative of what you do have, and nurturing of what is good between you two. The devil is out to destroy you and your family, and he will work harder and harder to do so as you become closer to God. Believe me, this is true.

If you are taking contraceptive drugs, it’s easy enough to scientifically prove their health risks by reading through the information pamphlet included with the prescription. Personally I don’t feel a woman needs to justify herself to anyone, husband included, for her reasons to not take these drugs. It’s your body. If it’s your choice to take them, it’s just as much your choice not to take them. Buy a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Toni Weschler. This is a very good training manual for beginning to chart, and it comes from a secular perspective.
Please tread carefully in this direction, slowly and carefully. You have to be very sure that this decision will not in any way be interpreted as a threat by your husband. Be kind, and be gentle, but be firm in your resolve. Be aware this is going to be very difficult considering your husband’s opposition to more children. NFP is a very effective method of birth control, and he can choose to use condoms during your fertile time without that being a reflection on you in your faith.

If your husband is pro-life, This article from the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) details the post-fertilization effects of contraceptives.

Here are some more articles from a secular source detailing some of the health risks association with contraception:

Certain Oral Contraceptives May Pose Health Risks, Study Suggests
The Pill May Increase Risk Of Breast Cancer, According To Large Study Of Younger Women
Oral Contraceptives Increase Risk For Breast Cancer In Some Women, Meta-analysis Finds
Kinsey Study Finds Adverse Sexual, Emotional Side Effects Of Birth Control Pills (can’t get more secular than Kinsey, huh? 😉 )

God bless you, your husband, and your marriage. I pray you make it through this transition with greater love for one another.
 
BeeSweet said:
Do not push the faith on your husband, and do not push him to attend Mass with you. Stop feeling envious of other families in church who appear to be “whole.” This does no good for your marriage. Be appreciative of what you do have, and nurturing of what is good between you two. The devil is out to destroy you and your family, and he will work harder and harder to do so as you become closer to God. Believe me, this is true.
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Good advice, thanks. I have decided not to mention coming to mass with me again.
If you are taking contraceptive drugs, it’s easy enough to scientifically prove their health risks by reading through the information pamphlet included with the prescription.
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I stopped taking OC several years ago since I hated they way I felt while taking them. So fortunately, that is not an issue.
Please tread carefully in this direction, slowly and carefully. You have to be very sure that this decision will not in any way be interpreted as a threat by your husband. Be kind, and be gentle, but be firm in your resolve. Be aware this is going to be very difficult considering your husband’s opposition to more children. NFP is a very effective method of birth control, and he can choose to use condoms during your fertile time without that being a reflection on you in your faith.
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We had talked about him getting a vasectomy at one point, but he seemed hesitant partly because it’s him who has to go under the knife, and because it is so “final”. I’m hoping if I present NFP as a way to avoid that, he’ll at least listen. And I’m sure he won’t mind the “option” of using condoms occasionally.
God bless you, your husband, and your marriage. I pray you make it through this transition with greater love for one another.
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Thanks again for your (name removed by moderator)ut and prayers - it helps to hear from someone in the same boat.
 
Welcome Cattitude, familyisit, and trichocereus…

I seemed to be in a far different boat. My husband went for the vasectomy wanting full controle of the situation, and not being “trumped” as he put it. So birth controle is not an issue. Actually it is almost not nescesary, as my life is more effectively a life of celebacy. Five encounters since my 8 year old was born, two of which he fell asleep. So i live believeing this will never happen again, and then i can not be disapointed.

However, i loved the concrete and very informative post from Bee Sweet…thank you for your direction. I personally picked up advice from it. Not to be envious of others at church, and to stop asking and be an example.

I have been away for a bit. Normally i am on more than this, but i seen a bilboard of a baby in the womb for the very first time ever. I was so proud of it as it clearly stated that life happens at conception. I mentioned it to my husband thinking it to be an easy topic to broach. I was SHOCKED as i was told he was pro-abortion.

I told him i was very concerned with this news, and did he know it was very much against HIS own faith of being Catholic? He said it had nothing to do with religion, but more that he was sick and tired of hearing about all of these unwanted children raised by teenagers, and then the boyfriend beats them up and so on. He figures if they had an abortion, then the scenario was stopped.

Holy Cow i thought, how barbaric. I was actually disturbed, and told him that i had once been only accepting of this if Rape was involved, but knowing that this was how my first child was concieved, and how this was the absolute light of my life, even with him passed on now. How can i feel the same now. I also told him that it needs to be taught farther back. Respect for life, religion, and so on.

I told him i would never allow my two girls to ever conscider this as an option. Education is paramount. I then looked into his eyes and told him to never cross me in this, or there would be no us! I could see it in his eyes, he was thinking i might not, but he could help them…a scary look actually, because it was not about the children, or the outcome, it was about him not being vitoed in something. A form of power or controle.

This will have to be a definite harder topic for me as BOTH parents…as i can see i am alone where morality is concerned.

So i have been away trying to re-calibrate yet another job i have to take on as both parents, and yet another he will be failing to support me on.

Please pray for us both.

Lana
 
Lana,
Boy, that sure is a tough one - having to wear so many “hats”. You have to be both mother and father to the kids without your husband’s support (obviously). That’s going to be hard. But, I really think you’ll be able to do it. You’ve endured so much already and seem grounded in our Faith! The Holy Spirit will definitely be helping you along your way. I will pray for you daily! God bless and hang in there!

Much love,
 
Hi everyone. I’m still around and still praying for all of you even though I’m not posting as much. May God bless you all. :crossrc: :grouphug:
 
Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.
 
**PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband, healing and salvation of our marriage, and the strong faith of our son, the conversion of all sinners in our families and of the spouses being prayed for here by CAF members,**

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen.

Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us now and at the hour of our death.

Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
Jesus, I trust in You!
 
Hi ladies,

Just wondering: is any one of us seeing any improvements on the homefront? It’d be really nice to hear a big YES!

Praying for all of us and for Diana.

Much love,
 
Well i have to admit that life here at home with less drinking is very calm compared to what we normally get with oppening the seasonal business. However he distances himself from overload, and has been sleeping on the couch for the past few weeks trying to ajust.

I get each of us in our own rooms, and then we watch our own bed time show, and then prayers and bed time. It is harder to do for a change, as he is up and down a lot. If we are in our rooms, he can settle faster.

It is just untill he calibrates his lac of sleep. He MUST go to sleep shortly after supper, as he goes to work every evening at 1 AM. He does not return untill 5:30-6:30. It is hard to slow down being away working for so many hours.

He is a very hard worker…Douch European Farming background. Unfortunately, he was raised that a mans worth is his work effort, and it comes before God and family. To do otherwise, is to be weak, and not worth being called a man.

Hence the seperation between what i treasure, and what he was told to treasure. He is conflicted when you get a little bit close to him…he calls them tired weak moments.

I wish for lots of those moments!

I am feeling better knowing we have better goals for the future as far as finances are concerned.

I keep thinking we are a work in progress, untill i see we are really an inigma of a work in progress…but there is hope, or i would not be here.

Lana

Praying for Diana, and all the other woman here. Thank you for the comments on the pro-abortion post Mom…i know i can do it, it just tires me that in my dreams i pictured how beautiful it would be to live with a partner in life, solve so many things, and live for many years together in this life as one. I thought being married would fofil this, but alas, the title eluded character. The character was supposed to be in the man, not the role.
 
Hi everyone! How are you all. Things are no better for me really but still praying for my husband and for all the husbands on this thread. God bless you all.
 
jules:

I’m sorry to hear that. Things were “slightly better” here one/two days, then everything went to “hell” again. Oh well, I keep praying. I am praying for you also! Hang in there with me, dear friend!

Much love,
 
Mom4truth

In the evening my husband gathered up me and the kids and we went Morel mushroom hunting. The kids had a blast with both mom and dad there. We didn’t find anything but just walking and enjoying each other’s company was great:)
 
Prayer to Saint Joseph for all sick husbands to find help.

O glorious St. Joseph,
friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
thou whose power renders impossible things possible,
come to our aid in our present trouble and distress.
Take these important and difficult affairs
which we recommend to your protection,
that they may end happily.

O dear St. Joseph,
all our confidence is in you.
Let it not be said that we have invoked you in vain,
and since you are so powerful with Jesus and Mary,
show that your goodness equals power.

Amen.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.

St. Joseph, friend of the Sacred Heart of Jesus,
pray for us and for all who invoke your aid.
 
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